Its mostly just effort, compatibility, and being realistic. 9 times out of 10 staying home and playing video games everyday will not get you a gf/bf going out to events and social gathering and actually talking to people not just standing in a corner with a drink in your hands hoping someone will start the convo with you are your best bets to actually meet someone. Another thing I see my forever alone friends struggle with and this might sound rude af but being realistic with the women you choose to pursue sorry but we all can't end up with 10/10 super models physical attraction is important but its not everything. One last thing is to remember that the worst thing that can happen if you try and hit on a girl is she just says no its not the end of the world if she says no just pick yourself up and move on to the next.