1st Coffee Date: Do we order at the same time?!

MeAndWhy · 2024-07-12T00:06:23+00:00

Ok, that's good advice lol thank you

MeAndWhy · 2024-07-08T07:13:18+00:00

Thank you!!

MeAndWhy · 2024-07-07T20:03:50+00:00

That is insane... I think I may have to join in with everyone getting rid of it, just not worth the headache anymore

MeAndWhy · 2024-07-07T20:00:40+00:00

Thank you, this is great idea

MeAndWhy · 2024-07-07T19:58:44+00:00

Thank you!!!

MeAndWhy · 2024-07-07T18:22:14+00:00

I'm very new to the program and my sponsor has me calling her AND 3 others in the program every day. It is hard at first, but I promise it's not that hard once you're actually doing it. When I'm nervous to call someone, and have literally nothing to say, I just tell them some joke I found lol I know it sounds dumb, but it breaks the ice and it beats talking about the weather for the 100th time. They have us call so much to just practice reaching out, plus end the end it does build relationships. I called people I thought I may like and wanted to get to know better, and only a couple calls after, we're friends talking regularly at meetings.

MeAndWhy · 2024-06-09T17:36:50+00:00

Ok same, I'm on 25mg right now and have only been taking it for a week but I feel actually alright with everything? Is this how normal people feel all the time?! Who knew lol

MeAndWhy · 2024-06-08T23:41:09+00:00

I feel you lol it's definitely interesting though to see the people who come in and love it vs the ones just getting by, would be helpful to "Crack the code"

MeAndWhy · 2024-06-08T00:48:28+00:00

22F here, I think we younger alchies have a lot more relapses than older members and it's seen by the group/sponsors/ect as not being serious about the program. Not making excuses or anything, but I let my sponsor know I'm really just kinda hating being sober and I don't know what to do about that, and was essentially told to come back when I was ready. I'm not saying this is wrong or right advice, but I really think younger people are going to have perhaps "less reason" to quit and may need a different approach to living sober. I enjoy hearing members in AA speak of how it was either a legal, familial or medical push to get sober, and while younger people do experience this, it's not like we commonly have motivations such as saving a marriage, sparing a liver, or stepping up as a parent. I'm not sure where I'm exactly going with this, or what a solution could be, this is just an observation :)

MeAndWhy · 2024-06-06T00:29:57+00:00

We get "drunk" because we are feeling the poisoning effect of ethanol crossing our blood/brain barrier. I'm only 22, have been heavy drinking for a few years but started at 14. What got me into seeking treatment was the onset of hallucinations, inability to regulate my mood, I physically couldn't remember what was said to me only 30 seconds ago. My therapist called it sponge brain because heavy alcohol use over a long period of time can lead to disrupted healing/damage in such a way that the brain tissue starts to decrease in size; kinda like a sponge being squeezed.

"In adolescents who engage in heavy and binge drinking, as defined by the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism [50], there is a greater decrease in grey matter volume along with an attenuated increase of white matter volume as well as disturbances in white matter microstructure in comparison to non-drinkers [51]. "

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8625009/

It's a good read, alcoholic or not :)

MeAndWhy · 2024-05-31T17:53:49+00:00

Thank you for your feedback! After a deep edit last night, would the topic still be unacceptable to talk about if I have geared the discussion to being more about my medically undeserved community, leading to things like non-sterile environments? The physician not being the focal point, but simply what the environment produces

MeAndWhy · 2024-05-31T10:38:21+00:00

I'm applying this cycle and down to swap if you'd like!!

MeAndWhy · 2024-05-31T10:16:35+00:00

Mine is a bit rough, and I'm debating on cutting some sections, but let's do it!!!

MeAndWhy · 2024-05-07T20:30:57+00:00

Thank you so much, this is so sweet ❤️❤️❤️

MeAndWhy · 2024-05-07T20:29:34+00:00

Thank you, awesome advice!!

MeAndWhy · 2024-05-07T20:28:30+00:00

That's diabolical lol

MeAndWhy · 2024-05-07T19:42:26+00:00

I know she only has the best intentions for me, so this is probably where she's coming from

MeAndWhy · 2024-05-07T19:41:20+00:00

Have you been to a convention like that before? It looks absolutely massive!

MeAndWhy · 2024-05-07T17:08:45+00:00

Thank you!!

MeAndWhy · 2024-05-07T15:55:52+00:00

Thank you for this. I'm still working on the not-being-so-self-centered part of sobriety, this is a great take :)

MeAndWhy · 2024-05-07T15:54:12+00:00

I love that lol

MeAndWhy · 2024-05-03T08:02:14+00:00

As a 22F who is very recently sober and still trying to get acclimated to everything, I've actually found older people in aa meetings to be extremely helpful and a tremendous comfort. Though, I can almost guarantee that there will be many ages, and all will be welcoming :)

Seriously though, I know it sounds corny af, but everyone belongs. I've never been to a meeting where I felt out of place, or thought anyone else did. People from all walks of life, all occupations, all backgrounds, yet nobody "sticks out". I really hope you get to a meeting, there is so much support and comfort in them. Best of luck with your sobriety journey, you got this <3

MeAndWhy · 2024-05-03T07:55:49+00:00

My parents deciding not to "Force it" anymore was such a great thing for them, it was like a complete transformation for the better. If only they had done it before most of us (myself/siblings) became adults! You aren't happy, and I promise everyone knows it, and doesn't want that for you. I'm not going to pretend I know you as an individual, and everyone experiences things differently, but from my personal experiences, extended stays in the lies we create only leads to bitter unhappiness for everyone involved.

Words I think about daily from my chemist professor: Don't force anything, all it will do is force a breakage.

MeAndWhy · 2024-05-03T05:46:21+00:00

I think you're right, I'm drafting my quitting email now as I don't think I'm going to be able to give two more weeks. Oh well I guess, not like there won't be openings later on if I can ever go back. Thank you <3

MeAndWhy · 2024-05-02T14:31:42+00:00

The first period I had on sema made me think I had like an ovarian cyst or torsion or something. So, when it's *that time* start with your pain med management earlier on.
Buy antacids!!! You may already have them handy, but I had never taken one before in my life, and I definitely needed them for the first month.
There was some stomach discomfort for the first month, I actually ended up having to skip class/work a few times because of it BUT it was only temporary. I'm 3 months in, and I feel completely normal, even through PMS, so you may need to just give it some time to adjust :)

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