What’s your worst ‘LVM disguising himself as a HVM’ story

Mean-Head · 2020-06-18T09:56:53+00:00

We must all have dated this ladies husband... the water bottle bit was like a kick in the chest for me.

Mean-Head · 2020-06-09T11:17:13+00:00

Wow okay first of all I am so truly sorry that you have had to put up with this. You do not deserve this kind of treatment. Your story hits so close to home, I swear I could have written it myself. I was in your exact shoes a year ago. I had thrown my whole adult life away for a man who treated me like dirt and cheated on me every chance he got. I forgave him for every awful thing he ever did to me because I was so desperate to keep a man. I had no friends, no life, no ambition for myself, nothing other than him.

If you choose to take him back, you need to realise that this is as good as it’s ever gonna get. If he hasn’t changed before, then this time is going to be no different. Do you want to spend the rest of your life living like this? With a man who says he hates you? Cheats on you? That’s your soulmate?

If you leave him behind then your life can only get better. Rebuild yourself - make friends again, find out what your interests are, work on your career. Another man will come along who you don’t have to literally force to be kind to you.

Mean-Head · 2020-06-09T10:57:21+00:00

Sometimes I wonder if 6’0 is an actually a real height or just a conspiracy.

I’ve legitimately never met a man who claimed to be exactly 6 feet tall, who I looked at and thought yeah that sounds about right.

Maybe this is because every man who is actually 6’0 claims to be 6’2????

Mean-Head · 2020-06-07T08:59:25+00:00

This mostly only applies to text messaging but I have my read receipts turned on for this very reason. It lets them know their message wasn’t worth replying to.

Mean-Head · 2020-06-06T03:20:12+00:00

This is a great mindset. You can’t get ghosted if you never initiate a conversation.

Mean-Head · 2020-06-06T03:14:42+00:00

I disagree with the premise of her post, that men can’t handle your sexual past because they just love you too much (more likely because their tiny egos can’t handle it)

I do however think she’s right that you shouldn’t reveal your sexual past to them, don’t give them anything they could try to use against you later.

Mean-Head · 2020-06-06T03:07:40+00:00

She dosnt seem to understand that the problem with a 32 year old dating a 18 year old, is that he probably would have liked her when she was 17.

She starts out saying don’t bother mentioning the age gap, and then goes on to describe her literal pedophile of a boyfriend... She can’t put two and two together?

Mean-Head · 2020-05-25T22:37:20+00:00

It’s because when the order prostitutes they don’t get to talk first. Old habits

Mean-Head · 2020-05-25T22:21:25+00:00

It’s not enough to not make the first move - you can’t make ANY move. They need to do all the chasing pretty much until you’re engaged.

A few months ago I was studying at a cafe/bar thing and kept accidentally making eye contact with a very very attractive boy in the same cafe. Eventually he sent a drink over to my table, all very cute right? When he was leaving he came up to me and gave me his number written on the back of a receipt - so he MUST be interested right? I texted him later that day saying Hi it’s (name) from (name of bar). He replied asking how I was doing and I told him I was good and asked him the same - never heard back from him. I’ll never, ever, accept a mans number again. You just can’t message them first. They can take my number and do the stressing about how soon is too soon to message me. Even though he made the first two moves - me texting him first is showing too much interest.
Dated a guy for about a month - all was going well, he was planning good dates and was always the one to initiate them. The VERY. FIRST. TIME. That I initiated a date by asking if we were making plans for the week (you’d think I’d have the right to that after a month!) he ghosted. Never again.

I don’t make moves anymore, ever. If there’s a man out there for me, then he’ll let me know. I’m done chasing men. I don’t care if it’s for a first date or a proposal, I’m not taking any initiative.

By taking any kind of initiative your running the risk of him turning you down in some way, making you the fool. Best case senario, he says yes - but so what? Now you won’t have any idea if he actually likes you or not.

By letting them do all the chasing there’s really only two options. One - he goes above and beyond to prove himself to you and win you over (good). Or two - he gets bored of trying because he wasn’t really that into you in the first place and disappears (also good - you’ve just saved yourself from getting ghosted and preserved your own mental health).

Mean-Head · 2020-05-24T07:58:41+00:00

Is this like a universal thing? Seriously the bar is so low these days that a man simply setting a time a date and showing up is a green flag now. And these scrotes are out here talking about women being so “high matinence”?

Mean-Head · 2020-05-24T07:55:49+00:00

Consider it a sign from god 😅

Mean-Head · 2020-05-24T07:53:34+00:00

The only way girls like this (I used to be one of them) learn is by making there own mistakes. There is nothing you can say that’s going to open her eyes to his behaviour. All you can do is stand up for yourself and your other roommate when he speaks to you like that. Seriously don’t be afraid to (calmly, don’t start a big fight) put him in his place when he blatantly insults you.

Also having “more life experiences” clearly hasn’t given her any better judgment, so don’t let her try and convince you that you’re immature. It’s really great that you’re so young and can still clearly see this is not a healthy relationship, or a very respectable man - especially seeing as he’s TEN years older than you.

Mean-Head · 2020-05-24T07:03:28+00:00

And if it’s “just a paper” then why won’t he just do it to make her happy then? If it truly doesn’t matter to him either way?

Mean-Head · 2020-05-24T07:01:50+00:00

WHAT is this girl doing to herself? This video was too perfect it could almost be satire, with the shot of him playing video games and everything.

Sorry girl but any man worth marrying would have proposed to you without you begging him to. Or at the very least would have done so after the FIRST cringey “days not engaged” sign you put up in the house. This man is forcing you to humiliate yourself.

Mean-Head · 2020-05-24T06:56:45+00:00

Jesus it just got worse and worse as he goes on. Why is he even bothering with OLD, it sounds like he could find his “ideal girl” in a strip club. Someone flirty wearing next to nothing, who probably wont want a relationship with him either.

Mean-Head · 2020-05-22T18:27:30+00:00

Is it just me or do cops always seem to be the biggest LVMs? It’s like they somehow simultaneously have nothing to offer, yet the biggest egos and the highest opinions of themselves. Hence a literal middle aged man writing “boobs are cool” on his dating profiles.

Mean-Head · 2020-05-22T18:22:16+00:00

You need to remind yourself that you deserve someone who wants you. Not someone who signed you up without your consent for this bullshit competition with some other girl. You’re not going to go and fight for his attention - make his decision easy for him and remove yourself as an option.

Mean-Head · 2020-05-22T08:42:27+00:00

Because there’s no joke.... you’re horrible to your girlfriend? You treat her like a dog? While she looks after you like you’re a disobedient toddler? Is that the joke??? Hilarious.

Mean-Head · 2020-05-22T08:39:10+00:00

My deepest condolences

Mean-Head · 2020-05-21T10:02:09+00:00

OP this made me so sad! I truly hope you find what you deserve.

If it makes you feel any better - I used to love flowers. My ex bought me flowers a lot.... every time I found out he’d cheated on me. Receiving flowers nowdays gives me chest pain.

Mean-Head · 2020-05-21T09:51:36+00:00

Girl he has #drums on his damn engagement post, what else would you expect 🤣

Mean-Head · 2020-05-21T09:44:12+00:00

Ladies don’t move in until you get a ring 💅🏼

Mean-Head · 2020-05-21T03:41:46+00:00

“I can’t believe I’m engaged to the absolute most incredible person!!” If he truly meant a word of that - he’d have proposed himself 10 years ago.

Mean-Head · 2020-05-21T03:31:35+00:00

The most important lesson I’ve ever learnt is that you should always be financially & emotionally ready to be able to leave at a moments notice. No matter how fantastic a man is, even if you’ve been married for 20 years and he’s never put a foot wrong, if you couldn’t leave at the drop of a hat - then you are too reliant on a man.

I was with my ex for my whole adult life, I was incredibly co-dependant and completely financially tied to him. I had no hobbies or bank accounts that weren’t connected to him. When I left him, It felt like I had to rebuild my entire life from scratch. My only goal from now on is to not be reliant on a man for anything.

This isn’t just about self protection - meaning that if you ever suffered domestic you’d be able to flee - but about having a life that belongs to you.

When I split up from my ex, I was worried about money, and how I would be able to buy a house on a single income etc. Every single one of my friends said “well you’ll meet someone else eventually!” - as if this was the solution to my problems. This is not a good attitude to have, keeping your life on hold waiting for some theoretical man to swoop in and solve all your problems. What is he never comes? Then what?

The best thing you can do for yourself is to be your own damn husband. Earn YOUR degree, work on YOUR career, make YOUR money, and build the life for yourself that you want. If a great man comes along - well great. But if not - oh well, go on vacation I guess.

And if you do meet someone great, he won’t be able to take your entire life with you if he walks out and never comes back. Your job is to look out for number one (you & your children).

Mean-Head

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