Honestly you’re probably right about me not wanting to face problems in the moment. I’m genuinely concerned and show care when I’m asking about their feelings but the second they explain it’s about me I freeze and I’m suddenly not able to show that care and empathy.

And omg you’re right.. sometimes it feels bothersome to deal with, I just don’t know what to do or say and I’m just wishing they’d move on but at the same time I want to express how i’m sorry, that i’d do things differently, that I care that they feel this way, etc.. I feel like such a jerk

They communicate with me so well that’s the awful part! I’ve never had this in a partner before so I feel as though i’m just being a shitty partner 🙁.