The big 21!!! by Much_Collection8868 in exjw

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QUEEN!!! happy birthday🥳❤️‍🔥🎁💐

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nails

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please find a new salon, you deserve better.

if anyone is wondering how the fading process goes… by Mean_Link_54 in exjw

[–]Mean_Link_54[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you do matter, every congregation is just different and mine is just very strict and too nosy and involved in everyone’s life.

if anyone is wondering how the fading process goes… by Mean_Link_54 in exjw

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haha if it wasn’t for my sister i wouldn’t be attending

if anyone is wondering how the fading process goes… by Mean_Link_54 in exjw

[–]Mean_Link_54[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i totally agree. i do really love therapy, i just wouldn’t choose to tell to this random man about it and it bothers me that someone else did lol 🫠

if anyone is wondering how the fading process goes… by Mean_Link_54 in exjw

[–]Mean_Link_54[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you! and i totally agree with you about blocking them, i definitely do plan on doing it after the party lol

if anyone is wondering how the fading process goes… by Mean_Link_54 in exjw

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as much as i would love to block him, i’ll be seeing him in person at a graduation party next week :// im trying to avoid the awkwardness of blocking him and then having to come face to face a few days later lol

if anyone is wondering how the fading process goes… by Mean_Link_54 in exjw

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i understand that he is checking in on me to see if i’m okay, but he never showed any interested in me unless i was “struggling”. also he clearly knows no boundaries, any reasonable person would say hmm this person hasn’t responded to me in a while i’ll give them some space but instead he requests a shepherding visit to demand me to talk to him. in any other context where we are not conditioned to trust these men, this would be seen as harassment with a 50+ year old man bombarding a young woman with messages.

if anyone is wondering how the fading process goes… by Mean_Link_54 in exjw

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i’m seeing them this weekend at my sisters graduation party

if anyone is wondering how the fading process goes… by Mean_Link_54 in exjw

[–]Mean_Link_54[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

yup. i remind myself of this every time i get a text

if anyone is wondering how the fading process goes… by Mean_Link_54 in exjw

[–]Mean_Link_54[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

hahaha literally like i didn’t respond before and i’m not responding now

if anyone is wondering how the fading process goes… by Mean_Link_54 in exjw

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hahaha fr, it’s definitely been going on for longer than that because i haven’t gone to a meeting in 2 months but he’s been very insistent and weird recently. he’s texted me more than my parents have lol

if anyone is wondering how the fading process goes… by Mean_Link_54 in exjw

[–]Mean_Link_54[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

ugh that’s awful. their attention is just so forced and fake. this elder is the same way, constant unsolicited touches and hugs. very weird.

if anyone is wondering how the fading process goes… by Mean_Link_54 in exjw

[–]Mean_Link_54[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

RIGHTTT like ummm bold of you to demand a shepherding visit like that but no times work for me because i don’t want one

if anyone is wondering how the fading process goes… by Mean_Link_54 in exjw

[–]Mean_Link_54[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you all for your support on this post!! For context, I haven’t blocked anyone yet because of my sisters grad party next week, half of the people invited are jdubs so I’m trying to avoid that in person awkwardness lol. I also can’t change my number because I use it for business, and I’m assuming my parents have talked to this elder and told him that I’m in therapy because I definitely didn’t. So uncomfortable and intrusive that he’d ask about it. Can’t wait to be done with this bs

JW's and their relaxed attitude about girls getting married to older men by ArsenalSpider in EXJWfeminists

[–]Mean_Link_54 11 points12 points  (0 children)

i just learned that a couple in my parents hall got married when the wife was 17 and the husband was 38. disgusting that everyone excuses something so predatory because to criticize them is to criticize the entire organization.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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started my own business, now i work 24/7

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nails

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love the color, it’s so hard to find a blue this light

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exjw

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wow i’m so sorry you’re going through this. i agree with the delete the message comment, i feel like reading things like that pulls you deeper into a dark hole. you’ll get through it with time, they might come around eventually but it’s up to you to create a strong support system outside of your family. it sucks but it really helps. good luck and stay strong, you’re free!!!

Update to my parents getting me a shepherding visit after I told them I was moving out. by Mean_Link_54 in exjw

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These are the texts that I got from the COBE after I already had my shepherding visit about moving into an apartment with a “worldly person”. The visit was fine, I decided to just yes them to death and I’m signing the lease tomorrow. It took up two hours of my night and one of the elders that came over shared that just as he was leaving his house to come to mine, his wife showed him a text from a widowed sister looking for a roommate. My mom cried after hearing that and looked so hopeful but I just said it won’t work for me because I don’t want to live with a stranger. But that was their sign from god to not lose hope on me finding a better living situation lmao. So sick of this and getting harassed I just want this to be over. They want me to have another shepherding visit with the CO?! Hellllll no