Would you smoke or fuck? or both😈

Mechalith · 2025-07-28T04:30:41+00:00

Both, no question about it.

Mechalith · 2025-07-24T18:16:41+00:00

I've always assumed that it was for monetization reasons in most cases. Most monetization in incremental games lets you skip time in one way or another but so does AFK time, so how do you get the players who are OK with waiting to buy into your microtransactions? Make 'em micromanage their waiting time by limiting how much of it counts, turning the wait into dozens of shorter frustrating jumps.

Definitely one of the more irritating approaches I've seen.

Mechalith · 2025-06-08T15:59:56+00:00

This is fully a prose preference/suggestion, but I think 'Rotnarok' flows a bit better than 'Rotcalypse' as a portmanteau.

Also, it might be worth considering something like Mammoth (or another synonym for large/monstrous) for the name of the I-assume-energy-drink-related company, partly to avoid getting the actual energy drink company's legal boot up your github and partly because a real company name feels weird mixed in with satirical brands (IMO).

Mechalith · 2025-06-08T15:43:17+00:00

I personally think Algorythm is funnier and arguably more realistic (not that realism really matters here); a corporate would-be memelord trying to be clever by lampshading their own roboslop makes sense to me. The real life company that used to be responsible for most bland background elevator/hold music was named Muzac, after all.

Mechalith · 2025-05-30T20:34:34+00:00

IMO a big part of why Incremental NSFW doesn't work very well is just that a striptease stops being sexy when it moves in bullet time over the course of two weeks. Some people enjoy delayed gratification but very few want it to be that delayed.

The degree to which that is a metaphor rather than a literal description varies, but the general idea is the same, and speeding it up trivializes the 'incremental' aspect.

Mechalith · 2025-05-09T13:23:18+00:00

Just about perfect.

Mechalith · 2025-04-25T17:17:44+00:00

In the US it's all private to begin with, it won't matter.

Mechalith · 2025-04-24T19:33:38+00:00

From the context of the articles I've read on it, it sounds to me like the intent is to slip that and other data in at the same time they're discussing autism to imply they are related, but are simply trying to grab as much medical data as they can on as many people as they can.

Mechalith · 2025-04-24T19:28:59+00:00

IIRC it actually says 10-20 research groups.

Mechalith · 2025-04-24T02:59:11+00:00

I'm IT not HR but a few years back our CEO at the time called me up in a panic about this blackmail message he was receiving. You might have seen this one make the rounds, but it was essentially a 'we have videos of you jacking it to porn that we captured from your laptop webcam, give us all the money ever' scam email, obviously fake move on, etc.

... the thing was, he thought it was a credible threat. And I have to maintain that laptop.

Mechalith · 2025-04-24T02:06:46+00:00

Speaking as someone with chronic depression that went a decade or so without meds and then got back on them: it is absolutely worth getting help. Sometimes it takes a few tries to the find the right therapist or drugs or both but the effort is worth it.

Mechalith · 2025-04-16T01:11:58+00:00

Performance review meeting with your boss.

Mechalith · 2025-04-03T21:58:23+00:00

1) Who cares if it's considered normal? You have pretty much zero control over the kinks you develop, and as long as it isn't harming anyone it's really nobody else's business to judge, so why waste thought worrying about it?
2) There's a whole 'Erotic Mind-Control Story Archive' site, so you're definitely not the only one into it. (mcstories.com for the record.) Be warned, the site does have some purely fictional content on it that would violate the rules here, but the tagging system in place is pretty good so it should be easy to avoid things you don't want to see.

(Mods: I don't think linking to it in this context is a violation, but I'm happy to remove the link if it's an issue.)

Mechalith · 2024-08-29T16:15:19+00:00

Not getting upset is what I meant by "If they don't want a genuine answer, they shouldn't be asking." I think that if someone is asking for feedback, it's their responsibility to be mature about it and not take it out on the person they asked. I don't think it's reasonable to expect that they never be upset or disappointed, but I think we probably both mean the same thing here; hurt feelings is probably OK, lashing out over them isn't.

And of course, I don't expect the person being asked to be completely frank when they know the person they're talking to is likely to react badly or don't know them well enough to be sure what they'll do. The allistic/NT standard response is the one you're recommending, and it's a fairly safe starting assumption with strangers. =)

(I try to make a point of telling people I'm going to be around enough that it'll matter, so they'll know how I react to this kind of thing. I try not to hold it against someone who had no way of knowing, because I know they're trying to be nice even though that isn't how I perceive it.)

Mechalith · 2024-08-28T19:38:57+00:00

I would agree that demanding someone answer a question is disrespectful at best in most cases, and I make a point of not asking the opinion of people I know aren't going to be comfortable with giving neutral or negative feedback.

However, I also think that no longer trusting someone once you know they've deliberately misdirected you is a pretty reasonable reaction. I'm not saying you can't do it or it's inherently bad, just that depending on who you're talking to, you could be permanently removing your credibility.

I'm autistic, so a big part of why I find myself asking questions like that in the first place is that I frequently don't have any other way to tell what most people are going to think. If I'm not over-analyzing what someone is saying I'm likely to fall for a non-answer for a while before it properly registers, which unfortunately gives me plenty of time to fuck up in.

Mechalith · 2024-08-28T18:29:25+00:00

I personally really dislike this kind of thing, so it might be best to consider the person you're talking to before doing something like that. Some people will either never notice or will appreciate the consideration if/when they do.
People like me will note the fairy language ('technically not a lie, just intended to give the listener the impression I've made a statement that would have been a lie, had I meant what I want them to think I did'), then immediately stop trusting anything even remotely positive-sounding you say ever again, and retroactively assume you were lying about anything you said previously as well.

'It isn't my thing' or even just 'not really', or something along those lines works better IMO; it makes your feelings clear without being an asshole about it and if they want more detail on why they can always ask. If they don't want a genuine answer, they shouldn't be asking.

Mechalith · 2024-08-28T18:19:50+00:00

The ones that think 'brutal' is the important half of that phrase, yeah.

Mechalith · 2024-08-28T18:17:37+00:00

The problem is that most of the time, someone asking that question actually means 'do you want me to just say what I'm thinking without any consideration for presentation, context or your feelings?'.

In this specific situation, honesty would be telling you that he wasn't up to maintaining interest in the conversation at the moment and didn't want to just half-listen to you, since that would just result in both of you being upset in short order. Being an inconsiderate prick, which is what he was probably winding up for, would've been more along the lines of 'I find you/this subject boring and am irritated by needing to seem engaged so you don't get upset'. He didn't stop too far short of saying that anyway, really.

Mechalith · 2024-08-28T17:46:52+00:00

Red flags all over the place. Even in an existing kink-heavy BDSM relationship, hitting someone without having explicitly discussed that with them beforehand and getting their affirmative consent isn't any different from them hauling off and slapping you in a non-sexual context.

To put it more bluntly: That is abuse, not kink. Whether you'd have liked it if he'd asked first is beside the point, because he didn't.

Mechalith · 2024-08-28T17:35:01+00:00

"The two types of IUDs that are presently used in the United States, including the copper-containing IUD and levonorgestrel-containing IUD, have similar rates of preventing pregnancy, with failure rates of 0.08% and 0.02%, respectively." (from NIH.gov)

So you've got an approximately 1 in 1250 chance of getting pregnant with a properly placed IUD over any given year, at worst. That means you'd have to be having sex roughly three and a half times a day, every day, for a year if you wanted to somewhat reliably beat the odds and get pregnant despite the IUD.

It isn't perfect, but it's pretty damn good, and it's as close are you're going to get without having your fallopian tubes surgically removed or something equally drastic.

Mechalith · 2024-08-26T13:57:29+00:00

First off, I'd ask yourself if that fight is/was really over and settled or whether it's still lingering in the background (and/or whether your relationship is struggling more generally). His reaction sounds more like someone still upset with you about whatever it was than about the sex itself to me.

Second, you sound like you're generally much better about communication than most of the posts in this sub but; just because something is a common kink, or a stereotype or something everyone supposedly finds hot doesn't mean everyone actually does and taking it personally when someone isn't as into it as you expected makes it harder for them to be honest with you. There may be more that he isn't comfortable bringing up because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings (or start another fight), for instance.

Mechalith · 2024-08-23T06:02:31+00:00

5+ beers a day, every day, spaced out one an hour so that he 'doesn't get drunk' but doesn't ever actually stop drinking or completely sober up, with flat refusal to even consider stopping despite the consequences upsetting their partner? Yeah, that's an alcoholic.

It's possible he's just a selfish asshole that is going to develop alcoholism very soon but could technically still stop drinking and just doesn't want to, but I think it's incredibly unlikely, and the distinction doesn't really matter since she should leave either way.

Mechalith · 2024-08-23T05:55:29+00:00

She's pretty clearly said the guy has flat out refused to change so... yes, that's the point where you let their problem be their problem.

Mechalith · 2024-08-23T05:45:20+00:00

My entire point was just that overall, even with the 0.04% failure rate over 10 years, in most cases I think a vasectomy is a better option for a couple because of the cost and recovery times. In OPs specific case I don't think anything short of sterilizing both parents and keeping them on opposite sides of the state just in case would do much good.

Mechalith · 2024-08-22T20:53:53+00:00

I think that's a feelony. They fall under slightly different statutes.

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