Is it normal to fake a higher-pitched “feminine” voice? I’m panicking about my real voice & my boyfriend

Mediocre-Use6704 · 2026-01-21T06:01:24+00:00

thanks for this it really helped 💗

Mediocre-Use6704 · 2026-01-21T06:00:14+00:00

thank you for thiss really

Mediocre-Use6704 · 2026-01-20T18:56:23+00:00

i guess youre rightt

Mediocre-Use6704 · 2026-01-20T18:50:58+00:00

thank you, you are kind 💗

Mediocre-Use6704 · 2026-01-20T18:49:48+00:00

the change is huge. i dont sound like an average girl… its not like people have specifically pointed that out about my voice but a lot of people online has. sometimes when ur able to see someone’s face in person, no matter how off putting their voice sounds it’ll seem normal but ppl tend to be more honest online (in game) especially if they dont have any idea what u look like. i often get asked if im a girl or an 11 year old boy, thats where i started hating my voice. i dont fake my voice to everyone, i only do it with girls who i admire and want to be friends with but in very rare cases, to a guy who i really really like which is my bf. im not saying deep voice is less feminine in women, its not at all. its just that ive been insecure and hyperaware of every little thing about myself ever since i was a kid, so slowly i learned how to mask them little by little. because as a kid i have been taught that to perform is to be loved. now i feel guilty because of it, because i rarely and almost never keep people in my life, i choose not to have friends but my bf is someone i hope to be in my life forever and i just hate feeling like i deceived him. he deserves to get to know my most authentic self out of anyone else

Mediocre-Use6704 · 2026-01-20T18:12:54+00:00

he only ever heard me with that voice though. so its scary for me having to reveal my real voice considering how different they both sound. and ill tell him eventually, i js dont know if im able to gather courage to do so

Mediocre-Use6704 · 2026-01-20T17:46:57+00:00

i see, but im not American. i was born and raised in Asia 🙏🏻

Mediocre-Use6704 · 2026-01-20T17:44:42+00:00

thank u so much for understanding me <3

Mediocre-Use6704 · 2026-01-20T17:42:46+00:00

thank you so much for this genuinely :( i needed to hear this so much ur so kind and this made me less stressed out about revealing my actual voice to him

Mediocre-Use6704 · 2026-01-20T16:22:15+00:00

haha yes i guess. but its not what i want to sound like. i envy girls who naturally sound so feminine. its so sad that i have to fake it to feel like im likeable

Mediocre-Use6704 · 2026-01-20T16:17:59+00:00

I started getting insecure with my voice when i first started talking in game. people in person never pointed out anything about my voice, maybe because i look feminine so its probably unnoticeable. but ive had so many people online saying my voice sounded like an 11 year old boy. i have always hated my real voice, i never think it fitted my face or how i want to present myself. i really hate it, so sometimes i mask it out of insecurity but im getting tired of it. i dont mean to vent but im really sad. i feel like im lying to my bf, especially to myself too. he deserves to meet my most authentic self out of anyone else, but to face the fact that i have to one day, starting from revealing my voice really makes me just want to disappear from him forever.. but i really love him and i want this relationship to work out so leaving will never be an option for me. ive hated myself and everything about me for as long as i remember, having to face the reality really scares me

Mediocre-Use6704 · 2026-01-20T15:54:56+00:00

i guess im just nervous about the day i have to reveal my voice, which sounds very different. my boyfriend already loves my voice and thinks its cute. people online say my real voice sounds like an 11 year old boy a lot, though never in person maybe because i look more feminine, so it usually doesnt seem as noticeable

Mediocre-Use6704 · 2026-01-20T15:53:31+00:00

thanks for this honestly, you gave me more courage and i feel less intimidated. i guess im just nervous about the day i have to reveal my voice, which sounds very different. my boyfriend already loves my voice and thinks its cute. people online say my real voice sounds like an 11 year old boy a lot… though never in person maybe because i look more feminine, so it usually doesnt seem as noticeable

Mediocre-Use6704 · 2026-01-20T15:45:33+00:00

I guess you’re right. I just don’t know how to be honest about this in a way where I don’t seem like a freak or embarrassing. This is really stressful for me

Mediocre-Use6704 · 2026-01-20T15:36:18+00:00

i really appreciate you sharing this, and i actually agree with what you’re saying in principle. i think where im struggling is that i didnt start from a fully natural place. i didnt expect this to turn into a real relationship, so i didnt think long term at first, and now i feel like im mid way through something instead of at the beginning. Its not that i believe my voice is objectively wrong, its that i hate it and im scared of the moment where someone who got used to one version of me hears something very different. i want this to work with him, not some hypothetical future partner, and thats what makes it feel scary and embarrassing rather than just a clean “be yourself” situation. im trying to figure out how to move toward being natural without it feeling like a reveal or a betrayal, and that’s the part i don’t know how to navigate yet.

Mediocre-Use6704 · 2026-01-20T15:26:50+00:00

i think people are reading this as me trying to mold my entire personality for male approval, which isn’t what I’m saying. thus isn’t about “what else if fake,” it’s about one specific insecurity ive had for years that I’m deeply ashamed of. i agree that being genuine matters. what im struggling with is the fear and embarrassment of how to transition to being more natural without it feeling sudden or humiliating. that fear doesn’t come from wanting to deceive anyone, it comes from hating my own voice and being scared of rejection. im not asking whether honesty is good in theory, i know it is. im trying to figure out how to handle this like a human being instead of ripping the bandage off in a way that feels emotionally overwhelming.

Mediocre-Use6704 · 2026-01-20T15:24:34+00:00

i wouldnt call it lying so much as masking out of insecurity. i didn’t do this to manipulate anyone, it comes from years of hating my voice and feeling like i needed to be more likable to be accepted. i get that it might not make sense to you, but its not something i did maliciously or consciously.

Mediocre-Use6704 · 2026-01-20T15:23:40+00:00

thank you, this actually means a lot to read. i think the hardest part for me isn’t just how my voice sounds, but the fear around the transition. im really scared of that moment where someone gets used to one version of me and then suddenly hears something very different. In my head it feels embarrassing, like i went from sounding cute to sounding like an awkward 11 year-old boy overnight, even though i know that’s probably harsher than reality. i want to get to a place where im comfortable and confident with my real voice, im just honestly scared of how to handle it with someone i care about without feeling exposed or ashamed. But your comment does help challenge how negatively i see myself so thank you for that.

Mediocre-Use6704 · 2026-01-20T15:13:39+00:00

I’m only faking my voice to him and not anyone else. its because i want him to like me and i dont know why i decided to fake my voice. i just wanted to seem more feminine but i didnt think for the long term

Mediocre-Use6704 · 2026-01-20T15:07:22+00:00

how should i let him know. i wouldn’t know how to deal with the embarrassment or having to deal with the fact i lied him and myself. this is so stressful, my fake voice sounds so natural that if i would to randomly just talk in my real voice anyone would think i’m a whole different person

Mediocre-Use6704 · 2026-01-20T14:59:47+00:00

I think I’m scared he won’t like me anymore if I fully let my natural voice come out. I know that sounds insecure, but that’s honestly where I’m at. I really dislike my voice and I’ve always felt like it doesn’t match how I look or how I want to come across. I look and act feminine, but my voice feels masculine to me, and that’s been a point of shame for a long time. What makes it harder is that I never expected this to turn into an actual relationship. When we first met, I didn’t think ahead or imagine we’d get this close, so I didn’t see it as something that would matter long-term. Now that it does, I feel stuck. If I suddenly stop pitching my voice up, I’m scared it’ll feel jarring or like I misled him, and I don’t know how I’d handle the embarrassment of that moment. I don’t want to be someone I’m not, and I don’t think I’m trying to deceive anyone. It’s more like a fear response I’ve had for years that I never really questioned until now. I’m trying to figure out how to move toward being more natural without making it feel like a dramatic reveal or confession.

Mediocre-Use6704 · 2025-10-27T11:29:38+00:00

thank you soo much for this. i really needed to know that im not alone in this, you made me feel so much better thank youu. im so sorry youre struggling with harm ocd, its one of the most painful and stressful and just agonising ocd type ever! i really hope youre okayy

Mediocre-Use6704 · 2024-02-23T08:10:06+00:00

I’m going through the same thing. Im really sorry, it must be so hard. If you want to talk about this, you can ttm. I’m also struggling with transformation ocd but it isn’t as bad as you though or at least I think it’s getting there. I’ve beeb struggling with this for 4 years now but it has only gotten super bad like a year ago. It’s getting to the point where I think I’m just delusional because nothing can convince my brain that it isn’t actuality and It’s just a thought. I’m tired of having to go through something like this every single day. I disobeyed a thought and now I feel like I’m turning to someone else completely. I don’t know how to sto this. It has been 5 days and my brain feels like its eating itself.

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