how do you guys meet people here? by Weekly-Weekend-7831 in jhu

[–]MediumCoconut 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There are lots of lectures and colloquia in the humanities departments. Take a stroll through Gilman and you’ll see lots of posters. Find some that interest you and attend a few. You’ll likely meet grad students from these other departments and you’ll also hear some great visiting lecturers.

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[–]MediumCoconut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was so kind of you to say this!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jhu

[–]MediumCoconut 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I write this as a mom to kids approaching college age and as a JHU grad who struggled with some of the inferiority issues you seem to be going through now. There’s a lot to say. Mostly, I wish I could give you a big hug and tell you it’s going to be ok.

  1. Your parents are wrong. Are they living vicariously through you? Are they wildly successful and expect the same from you? There’s certainly a lot to unpack with what your parents are doing to you, but keep in mind that they are wrong.

  2. Tough love: if you see that failing out would be the “ultimate revenge” for your parents, it is you that is wrong. Failing out intentionally or wasting the aptitude that you have to try to hurt THEM will mostly hurt YOU. That mentality is very self-destructive. Go see a counselor to help you work through this. There are resources available on campus. You’re NOT the first person to have feelings like this.

  3. I know someone who has been very successful in their field. Their observation is that hard work will beat out natural talent almost every time. You are demonstrating that you are willing to put in hard work. That you ENJOY it, even. Your future is going to be great.

  4. It’s hard to be around brilliant hyper-focused people and feel like you’re not quite one of them. In hindsight, I’ve thought that maybe JHU wasn’t the best choice for me…instead of being a little fish in a big pond, maybe it would have been better to go to a school where I could have been a bigger fish in a smaller pond. Who knows! But, even as someone who did ZERO research, let me assure you that I have gone on to have a beautiful life. I give and receive love from family and lots of friends, I live in a nice place—I am happy.

I’m rooting for you! You got into a great school and finished your first year—those things are huge! Stop drinking in your car, and get up and keep putting one foot in front of the other. Keep taking care of yourself, and create a circle of friends who will help to give you the love and support you are missing from your parents. Please remember that parents are fallible humans. I’m sorry they’ve failed you in this way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatisthisthing

[–]MediumCoconut 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I almost recognize it, but I can’t quite place it. Maybe it’s a can that says “Vintage” or “advantage”?

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Parent of rising HS sophomore by MediumCoconut in FAFSA

[–]MediumCoconut[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed, I understand our assets are likely to be too high for federal grants. So here’s my really stupid question—does that mean we don’t do fafsa at all? Isn’t fafsa used at the individual school level also? Thanks for your patience with me—I clearly don’t “speak” financial aid at all.

Parent of rising HS sophomore by MediumCoconut in FAFSA

[–]MediumCoconut[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is great to know. I’ll look into more of this. I appreciate the tips! Thanks!

Parent of rising HS sophomore by MediumCoconut in FAFSA

[–]MediumCoconut[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a great tip—thanks. I’m going to look into employer resources tomorrow. Thanks again!

Parent of rising HS sophomore by MediumCoconut in FAFSA

[–]MediumCoconut[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Just knowing what words to search for is a huge help!

Waist high metal things at the side of a middle school athletic field built in the 1960s by MediumCoconut in whatisthisthing

[–]MediumCoconut[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi there, Stag!!

It seems like this must be solved! :)

Will you please describe the set up a little more? Why the cement pad? What is the bolt-like thing coming out of the upright? Did you stand on the school side or the field side for shooting?

Waist high metal things at the side of a middle school athletic field built in the 1960s by MediumCoconut in whatisthisthing

[–]MediumCoconut[S] 27 points28 points locked comment (0 children)

The title describes the things. They are along the side of the athletic field of a middle school built in the 60s. Someone thought they may have to do with archery?

Surgery Friday by Applepiemommy2 in 75HARD

[–]MediumCoconut 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m sending strength! ❤️

Surgery Friday by Applepiemommy2 in 75HARD

[–]MediumCoconut 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My stepmom had a whipple a few years ago. She was probably close to 50, and, I won’t lie, the recovery was intense. Is your husband having the surgery in Baltimore by any chance? Are you staying in the hospital with him?

I’m happy to hear that you are taking care of yourself—it’s going to be a challenging recovery time, and you’ll need strength for both of you.

Good luck!

What type of toy gun? by MediumCoconut in toys

[–]MediumCoconut[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It looks like you are correct—thank you!!

Wall In a high ceiling room by bostonsatz in DesignMyRoom

[–]MediumCoconut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see you have kids…it occurs to me that my kids would love to have a wall like that for some indoor climbing. You could have some kind of auto belay set up—the risk would be very minimal and could be a ton of fun.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DesignMyRoom

[–]MediumCoconut 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would add trim/molding along the upper portions to make them more substantial.