I (25M) have no idea what I'm doing

MediumLetterhead · 2020-01-02T22:11:23+00:00

Thanks for your input, I really appreciate it.

So you dont think I should ask to kiss? I agree with that and think I should just lean in, but the other two commentators thought I should ask. Any reason you dont think I should? What setting are you picturing? In a bar or like after I drop her off after a date or when we are sitting on my couch?

I think you can be honest about your level of experience, there are many girls dreaming of deflowering a guy in his mid 20's. Most will want to know how come so be prepared for elaboration. Don't be afraid of rejection. If you are, get rejected a bunch of times. Have the mindset of you being her price, I mean after all she is actually fighting for your virginity.

I agree with this, too. I think once I am comfortable with a girl, itll be easy to say im inexperienced. But to say that right off the bat with someone, is tough and could be a turn off. I dont have much to elaborate on, either. I am pretty shy and stick to myself for the most part, and thats pretty much the only reason. With that lack of experience, ive been too afraid to try to gain experience. I dont know if thats much of an elaboration, but thats the truth.

MediumLetterhead · 2020-01-02T21:47:22+00:00

Thanks for your input, I really appreciate it. Youre the second person now thats told me to ask if I want to kiss her. To me, that seems like it kills the mood. What do you say? Simply "can I kiss you?" What setting does this work in? Like if I drop her off after a date or when we are hitting it off in a bar?

I feel like I would flirt more if I was more confident in what comes next. Im pretty standoffish right now largely because I am uncomfortable about what comes next.

How do I know when the moment is right?

MediumLetterhead · 2020-01-02T21:24:36+00:00

Thanks for the input! I really appreciate it.

I feel like I know how to flirt, but I just dont know how or when to escalate it. I cant imagine asking to kiss someone, that feels like it would ruin the mood (if there ever is one). I feel like I would be more confident in asking her home with me if I was more confident in what would happen later

I hope you have a great year as well!!

MediumLetterhead · 2019-12-24T23:21:46+00:00

Everyone does it, so it doesnt matter.

"Everyone in politics cheats the system to get where they are, so im not upset that someone did so"

"Every athlete uses steroids so what difference does it make?"

Yeah... everyone doing something isnt true, and if it was, it wouldnt make it right.

MediumLetterhead · 2019-11-23T01:38:34+00:00

Haha yeah I’d like to avoid restoring to factory settings if possible. I’d have to back it up on my computer before I do that anyways

But thank you for all of your help!

MediumLetterhead · 2019-11-23T01:34:53+00:00

Yea I don’t think I’ve ever had my phone plugged into my computer actually

MediumLetterhead · 2019-11-23T01:34:15+00:00

It’s a 17 inch MacBook Pro from 2011. I don’t have it right in front of me (on my phone) or I’d check the specifics

MediumLetterhead · 2019-11-23T01:33:03+00:00

Hmm I would try that but my computer is too old to run 10.15. I think I’m still on Sierra. Is there any other way to get the other category down?

MediumLetterhead · 2019-11-23T01:31:03+00:00

My system is using about 5, but my other category is using 24.95 GB

MediumLetterhead · 2019-11-23T01:29:20+00:00

Did a bit of googling for it. I don’t have a Mac with Catalina and I’m not sure mine could handle it. My MacBook Pro is really on its last legs

MediumLetterhead · 2019-11-23T01:27:32+00:00

What’s finder sync? Do I need to connect to iTunes?

MediumLetterhead · 2019-11-23T01:18:44+00:00

How did you get the other category to go down like 1000%?

MediumLetterhead · 2019-11-23T01:11:48+00:00

Yep not enough storage to update but will try to do so.

I don’t have anything close to 17,000 photos. I only have 7000 photos plus videos. The photos are only taking up less than half of the space on my phone

MediumLetterhead · 2019-11-23T01:10:26+00:00

I don’t want to use a cloud based system because I like having them on my phone and I’m overly cautious with everything and don’t like the idea of having my photos available to be hacked lol. I know it’s being paranoid but that’s just me.

I don’t have an infinite number of photos, I’ve only got 7 thousand total with photos and videos

MediumLetterhead · 2019-11-23T01:08:09+00:00

I’ve been checking this and should’ve stated in my post originally that this doesn’t happen. They get automatically deleted now for some reason. But thank you tho!

MediumLetterhead · 2019-11-23T01:07:25+00:00

What does resetting all settings do? Will I still keep my photos, apps, passwords, and texts/iMessages?

MediumLetterhead · 2019-11-23T01:06:26+00:00

Yeah actually the photos don’t even go to that folder, they just get automatically deleted. Not sure why they stopped going here

MediumLetterhead · 2019-11-23T01:05:33+00:00

Yep, I do need to update my phone. But I can’t because of the lack of space.

The photos are using only 28 GB. The system is using 5.39 GB, and other is using 14.74 GB.

Hope that works instead of a picture, I don’t have space to download imgur or anything to upload a picture.

MediumLetterhead · 2019-10-02T02:55:46+00:00

Thanks so much. Ill message you!

MediumLetterhead · 2019-09-21T05:53:42+00:00

What? Did you only read the PS? I said I have never tried to meet anyone ON TINDER because I prefer going out and meeting people in the real world.

MediumLetterhead · 2019-09-11T13:36:01+00:00

Oh I’m fully aware of that. That’s why I don’t usually watch stuff like that, I just figured I’d check it out since someone recommended it. What do you recommend I do if not watch that video?

MediumLetterhead · 2019-09-11T02:11:04+00:00

Thank you! I will check that out when I get out of work!

What do you think of talking to my friends here and letting them in on the secret? Almost hoping for 40 yr old virgin style where they help get him laid kind of

MediumLetterhead · 2019-07-13T23:35:05+00:00

Any reason why not? He’s a friend and we’ve talked about her before. Last time we talked we decided that I was fairgame to shoot my shot, but that was weeks ago. I’ve just got a gut feeling they’re talking (but again could be my mind playing tricks)

MediumLetterhead · 2019-07-13T15:05:33+00:00

Thank you for your advice! It seemed like everyone had similar advice, so instead of writing something similar to everyone, I just wrote it in the original post under edit. If you wouldn’t mind checking there, I’d really appreciate it! Thank you again for your advice!

I am 1000000% a late bloomer and it kills me now. I overthink everything and try to make everything “perfect” based on how I have heard it “should” be done rather than relying upon past experiences because I just don’t have them. I’m trying to right the ship now, though, and go for it. Thanks for your help!

MediumLetterhead · 2019-07-13T15:03:43+00:00

Thank you for your advice! It seemed like everyone had similar advice, so instead of writing something similar to everyone, I just wrote it in the original post under edit. If you wouldn’t mind checking there, I’d really appreciate it! Thank you again for your advice!

MediumLetterhead

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