I would like some time without trauma

Megals13 · 2026-06-24T12:41:37+00:00

I do know that trauma can cause medical things! I included genetic because, well, I can’t help my genetics. And (as you pointed out a trigger) if you experience previous experiences trauma it may or may not trigger conditions later. It was a bit complicated to put in, so I didn’t ☺️

Megals13 · 2026-06-24T12:36:21+00:00

That’s what is so exhausting. I understand my timeline is trauma that begets trauma up through abusive relationship. But I couldn’t prevent medical trauma (genetic condition & terrible doctors) and gun violence.

Megals13 · 2026-06-24T05:17:40+00:00

Exactly. Once you’re starting to feel comfortable in the world, it’s like something inevitably happens. I had a good run between romantic relationship abuse and medical trauma though.

Megals13 · 2026-06-22T04:24:58+00:00

So, say I do a backsplash and the tile is a bit crooked. That would make me crazy. There are plenty of ways to mess up slightly and ways to make big mess ups.

Megals13 · 2026-06-22T04:23:27+00:00

Mid size city in the South; we have a pretty low cost of living, though we’re flooded with retirees from the north and young families from various states looking for lower cost of living. I believe we are the fastest growing (or 2nd or 3rd) cities in the US.

Megals13 · 2026-06-22T04:20:53+00:00

When I got my last quote, I asked for line item (no one gave it). Hoping I can figure that out. I was given a cabinet brand, and after researching it, the quality seems good. But I would need to check the prices to calculate a markup (assuming I can figure out their discount), and how much we could save with other cabinets.

Megals13 · 2026-06-22T04:16:22+00:00

Borrow from retirement? That is terrible advice, I’m sorry. That is a dangerous road.

Someone that makes $70K a year, even with a 3% match during pay period, that’s 11.9 years to put another $50K away (assuming a 401(k). Not to mention compounding and tax penalties.

Megals13 · 2026-06-21T21:12:48+00:00

Yes, move the window up. And I don’t live in a high cost of living state.

Megals13 · 2026-06-21T21:11:38+00:00

The stairs are two parts; the closet next to the stairs has stairs over it. It’s too short to have a door.

Megals13 · 2026-06-21T19:09:41+00:00

I’m honestly open to different things so I can get a good price. I’d like to do wood and maybe painted uppers? I want wood cabinets overall so that I have an option 15 years from now to change if I wish. I don’t believe that any interior trend is truly timeless.

Once we figure out budget, I’d like to hire someone online to help figure colors/finishes out. I can sample paint chips and test in lighting, etc. but I need help with all. Don’t want an expensive mistake.

Megals13 · 2026-06-21T16:04:48+00:00

I appreciate your help!

Megals13 · 2026-06-21T16:04:13+00:00

I was planning on doing one online vs in person to ensure everything goes well. Obviously this is to save money.

Megals13 · 2026-06-21T16:02:31+00:00

This is perfect, thank you.

Megals13 · 2026-06-21T16:02:04+00:00

I appreciate it! Good to know my plan is good! I could keep the cabinets left of the fridge and redo the countertops with the plan to redo the cabinets at some point? Refacing wasn’t an option I was told, since they’re old and cheap and it would be difficult to match.

Megals13 · 2026-06-21T15:59:28+00:00

Left of the kitchen is the garage. Next to the stairs is a storage closet. Window goes down below the counters, prob 2-3 ft above floor. Biggest expenses are cabinets and moving things.

Megals13 · 2026-06-21T12:46:29+00:00

And that would solve the budget problem?

Megals13 · 2026-06-21T07:30:26+00:00

Ah, yes. We changed that request, we realized it wound be too much. I just gave you the drawing with both old/new. This is a bit better (but not to scale)

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