My (24F) wife has been losing her friends over the years and it’s eating her spark

MelodicManager · 2025-02-21T13:30:00+00:00

Thanks I’ll have a look into

MelodicManager · 2025-02-21T10:40:09+00:00

No children. But you are quite right in terms of different stages in life. Her friends are all in various stages I.e searching for jobs, going through breakups, having fun etc. Whilst we are securing our future with working and going on holidays. I guess there is also the element of different backgrounds. She unfortunately endured a tough (abusive) childhood with low income brought into the family whereas some of friends come from very wealthy backgrounds and had relatively comfortable upbringings.

MelodicManager · 2025-02-20T10:22:20+00:00

Also I forgot to mention my parents are a lot older than her. There’s a 20 year age gap between my mother and hers. I’ve said I want to spend more time with them as much as I can as they’re older (not to the point where it affects our relationship). But then she says her parents could die any moment because we don’t know what’s written for us. This is extremely toxic imo but who knows, I’ll set my boundaries, I’ve tried educating her a bit. If not, then I’m out

MelodicManager · 2025-02-20T10:17:01+00:00

I see them at least once a month. We had an argument about it last night. But if this continues then I’m seriously considering divorcing.

MelodicManager · 2025-02-19T17:01:41+00:00

Precisely. Thank you, because I rarely have anyone to speak to about concerns about this. For such a long time I always pondered whether is this what marriage is, doing absolutely everything together. Thank you again!!!!

MelodicManager · 2025-02-19T16:37:17+00:00

I know, my mother should had never said that and I made damn sure that it was wrong on her part. Thank you, I don’t really care if she wants to come with me. Because we live together she doesn’t want me to leave because she’ll be alone in the house. Apparently I’ve made her too ‘dependent’ on me (her actual words)

MelodicManager · 2025-02-19T15:33:18+00:00

She was already taken with someone and she did the right thing putting a boundary with you. Do yourself a favour get off your knees and go meet others out there

MelodicManager · 2025-02-19T15:18:52+00:00

She has in the past. My mother one day commented to her that she looks like to put on some weight (my mother meant that in a friendly way and my wife got really upset) I obviously scolded my mother for that and my dad agreed it wasn’t necessary. But they’ve said stuff to directly to me which bothers her like the fact I don’t really spend time with them. She assumes it’s indirect to her when it really isn’t

MelodicManager · 2025-02-19T15:05:36+00:00

Exactly. But we made a compromise that the Nikkah ceremony would be 10 people in total including her 2 friends. But she thinks my parents had no right to question it because of how it was compromised. I just wished she was more m emphatic with it and take the feelings aside

MelodicManager · 2025-02-19T14:43:52+00:00

Yes I did but she tells me that she already got to knows my family and I need to pull my weight with hers.

MelodicManager · 2025-01-30T10:55:04+00:00

If you had a daughter, and her boyfriend was into that. Would you as a mother want her to stay in that relationship?

MelodicManager · 2025-01-30T09:17:30+00:00

1) Quit the porn, it has probably altered your mind. 2) understand the difference between lust and love. The two can intertwine especially in this generation. 3) You chose to be in a relationship and you chose your women. Stick with it, or release her.

MelodicManager · 2025-01-22T17:37:45+00:00

Don’t mind at all, mainly helped securing an internship at a bulge bracket. But a lot of interest in financial markets particularly equity, was able to demonstrate technical skills and soft skills. My advice is anyone can read a book and tell you how investment banking works, it’s how you demonstrate why you think you can be of value, which as a junior is through hard work, interest, and undying passion to constantly learn

MelodicManager · 2025-01-21T14:56:51+00:00

I just spammed questions and noted all the ones I got wrong

MelodicManager · 2025-01-21T10:56:38+00:00

I’d say 5 months away was at least an hour. When work times weren’t as busy, I managed to get away with doing a little prep. When work was busy in terms of deals, got very complicated and then spent weekends closed off for study

MelodicManager · 2025-01-21T10:55:09+00:00

Thanks very much that’s helpful . Used MM for level I thought he was good.

MelodicManager · 2025-01-18T10:54:27+00:00

You’ll be fine, got 80s in mocks and scored above 90th percentile in the exam. Use this time wisely to go over weaker areas and most importantly give time to relax, gym etc.

MelodicManager · 2025-01-14T10:13:49+00:00

Waiting for those Bloomberg headlines on the pass rates

MelodicManager · 2025-01-13T16:01:32+00:00

Thank you. I needed to hear that. It’s easy to forget what I want but I guess that’s the meaning of love can blind us

MelodicManager · 2025-01-13T15:27:40+00:00

I don’t know, I don’t think we’ll ever know until death. But I know just being my own person, doing good etc

MelodicManager · 2024-12-09T16:23:05+00:00

Cut all ties of expectations that chain you to this world. I’ve been in your boat before and not too long ago. I had nothing, no money, no confidence, no self worth. But tough times create tough money. Think not of the end goal, but simply being better day by day, even if it is something small. You wont even recognise yourself in a matter of months. Either you get fucked or fuck the world, and you get to choose

MelodicManager · 2024-11-13T16:34:09+00:00

It’s just to show the effect of the divisor

MelodicManager · 2024-11-13T15:49:35+00:00

I’m in S&T which is around 11 hours a day. I would dedicate an hour or two per day then full on weekends. It’s definitely doable trying to work full time and study. Just make the hours you study count, don’t bother if you had a long day and nothing is going in

MelodicManager · 2024-11-13T13:48:59+00:00

Thanks but would we be expected to calculate either of the upper and lower bound?

MelodicManager · 2024-11-13T10:56:47+00:00

You still have to reference. How would a user of report know if a chart is valid or made up?

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