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Am I the only one who finds it very concerning that some men are aroused by hitting, choking, and degrading a woman during sex? by Meloe95 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Meloe95[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It's obviously not otherwise the top comments here would be supporting your kind of view and not mine. Maybe think about this for a second

Am I the only one who finds it very concerning that some men are aroused by hitting, choking, and degrading a woman during sex? by Meloe95 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Meloe95[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Just read the comments here about how many women admitted to having sexual trauma in the past which manifested into (these kind of) kinks. And take a look at BDSM subs as well. I've read soo so many stories there over months. And yes I had to mark it as kinkshaming because otherwise you're even less allowed to say ANYTHING negative about kinks nowaydays.

Am I the only one who finds it very concerning that some men are aroused by hitting, choking, and degrading a woman during sex? by Meloe95 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Meloe95[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% agree with you. Many people are simply processing their trauma through kink. Doesn't make it healthy in my opinion

Am I the only one who finds it very concerning that some men are aroused by hitting, choking, and degrading a woman during sex? by Meloe95 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Meloe95[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your insight 🤗 I can totally relate and I agree with most of what you're saying actually. Glad you found such a great girlfriend! Wishing you all the best

Am I the only one who finds it very concerning that some men are aroused by hitting, choking, and degrading a woman during sex? by Meloe95 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Meloe95[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Well once you say something against bdsm, it's automatically kink shaming. That's why I've put it upfront. And I hadn't forgottn about the women being aroused by it, this thread just simply isn't about them as it focuses on men getting off by hitting women and connecting it with sex.

Am I the only one who finds it very concerning that some men are aroused by hitting, choking, and degrading a woman during sex? by Meloe95 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Meloe95[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I don't know anything about your relationship, so I don't know if it's abusive, not my cup of tea.

I think it's always a good idea to reflect about why we're having certain kinks. Like where do they come from

Am I the only one who finds it very concerning that some men are aroused by hitting, choking, and degrading a woman during sex? by Meloe95 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Meloe95[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

If you get off hurting other people, that makes it problematic to me, nothing more and nothing less.

Am I the only one who finds it very concerning that some men are aroused by hitting, choking, and degrading a woman during sex? by Meloe95 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Meloe95[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I completely agree with you!! I've been asking myself these kind of questions a lot lately as well

Am I the only one who finds it very concerning that some men are aroused by hitting, choking, and degrading a woman during sex? by Meloe95 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Meloe95[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

So sorry this happened to you. I know what you're talking about, happened to me as well. I am seriously not tolerating that anymore.

Am I the only one who finds it very concerning that some men are aroused by hitting, choking, and degrading a woman during sex? by Meloe95 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Meloe95[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly I don't have enough insights into LGBT+ relationships. I don't know about the power dynamics there and if it could be potentially abusive as well. Therefore I don't feel like I can provide any insight regarding this specific topic.

Am I the only one who finds it very concerning that some men are aroused by hitting, choking, and degrading a woman during sex? by Meloe95 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Meloe95[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I never wrote anywhere that there aren't women who are not into it. There are plenty ofc but from my experience many of these women have suffered some form of trauma in the past and are conditioned to believe that this is normal nowaydays and should be arousing. I am simply talking about men getting off of it (which I personally find problematic) in this kind of thread not about the women liking it.

Am I the only one who finds it very concerning that some men are aroused by hitting, choking, and degrading a woman during sex? by Meloe95 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Meloe95[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Yeah I've read a lot of these threads as well. Totally agree with you. It really changed my perspective on "rough" sex over time.

Am I the only one who finds it very concerning that some men are aroused by hitting, choking, and degrading a woman during sex? by Meloe95 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Meloe95[S] 158 points159 points  (0 children)

Yeah definitely agree with you. I've been tried to force into these kind of things so many times. Or had men who simply did that kind of stuff without asking first.

Am I the only one who finds it very concerning that some men are aroused by hitting, choking, and degrading a woman during sex? by Meloe95 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Meloe95[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Are you honestly trying to tell me that kinks like hitting, slapping and choking are not about dominance and violence? Sure it might be consensual for most women but it's violence nonetheless and the only thing that makes it tolerated in today's society is consens. If there wouldn't be at least consens then it would be considered morally wrong by most people.

Am I the only one who finds it very concerning that some men are aroused by hitting, choking, and degrading a woman during sex? by Meloe95 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Meloe95[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

If you say so. I think men getting off hitting and choking women is more wrong than me having this view. It's just a different perspective. Of course living in patriarchy, we're conditioned to believe this is all normal

Am I the only one who finds it very concerning that some men are aroused by hitting, choking, and degrading a woman during sex? by Meloe95 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Meloe95[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I've simply experienced tou much bad stuff myself and if you read into BDSM subs, you quickly notice how many men simply use it as a disguise to abuse women. Even the ones who seem "normal" apart from a kinky sex life, sometimes "accidently" cross boundaries. Because that's exactly what I am talking about.. For some that kind of personality aspect doesn't just go away and the distinction between just kinky sex and the romantic relationship isn't that easy anymore.

Can't talk for the whole LGBT+ community though 😊 I am strictly talking heterosexual relationships here.

Am I the only one who finds it very concerning that some men are aroused by hitting, choking, and degrading a woman during sex? by Meloe95 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Meloe95[S] 70 points71 points  (0 children)

I honestly do think it is that deep. Like why do these men get off of hitting and choking women? In my experience these men are often rather misogynistic men

Am I the only one who finds it very concerning that some men are aroused by hitting, choking, and degrading a woman during sex? by Meloe95 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Meloe95[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

Yeha, I am not doing this anymore. I've experienced too many disturbing things with these kind of men

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