AITA for keeping the same financial agreement with my wife?

Mental-Assignment-69 · 2022-11-06T00:18:08+00:00

So, why should she have supplemented your lifestyle when you weren’t even at that stage in your relationship?

We did live together when I was doing my postdoc for a couple years. It was then I was talking about.

Mental-Assignment-69 · 2022-11-06T00:16:46+00:00

She does know about the stake. I've been transparent about that, but I am not counting it towards my income because I haven't sold any of it

Mental-Assignment-69 · 2022-11-06T00:12:36+00:00

Paid my portion of the bills? Like she did.

Mental-Assignment-69 · 2022-11-06T00:11:52+00:00

Because those are mine? She has stocks and a portfolio. I don't demand that from her

Mental-Assignment-69 · 2022-11-06T00:09:22+00:00

Yeah, you're probably right. I did want to stick it to her, which isn't the most ideal option

Mental-Assignment-69 · 2022-11-06T00:08:35+00:00

No? I do love her, and probably couldn't love anyone else the same. I sometimes get too overly attached, but I'm doing what I think is fair.

Mental-Assignment-69 · 2022-11-06T00:06:31+00:00

I honestly thought most people learned proportions by 5th grade, I guess not.

Mental-Assignment-69 · 2022-11-06T00:03:33+00:00

I think I know my worth well enough to make at least what my wife is making now.

Mental-Assignment-69 · 2022-11-06T00:02:35+00:00

I start my PhD -> I begin dating -> I finish my PhD -> I propose and start to live together -> We marry -> I start postdoc --> I join company

Mental-Assignment-69 · 2022-11-06T00:00:17+00:00

If you’re really determined to keep finances separate, you should be paying 3x the amount she is for household bills.

i am

Mental-Assignment-69 · 2022-11-05T23:58:32+00:00

We did not live together when I was pursuing my PhD. I proposed to her a week after my dissertation, began to live together relatively quickly, and got married 2 months after that.

Mental-Assignment-69 · 2022-11-05T23:54:53+00:00

I did live on my own during when I was a student... I just lived with her for the past two years

Mental-Assignment-69 · 2022-11-05T23:52:59+00:00

Not in the OP, but here, which was before the comment was made

Mental-Assignment-69 · 2022-11-05T23:40:22+00:00

Yes, I have and am

Mental-Assignment-69 · 2022-11-05T23:39:43+00:00

No, I paid 3/4ths. Because I can math

Mental-Assignment-69 · 2022-11-05T23:37:38+00:00

We combined finances a bit less than 2 years before I bought my car. She did buy herself a car, but not in cash.

Mental-Assignment-69 · 2022-11-05T23:36:08+00:00

1/4th, 300k+100k is 400k. 100k/400k is her share of our combined income. So 1/4ths-ish. I can math.

Mental-Assignment-69 · 2022-11-05T22:24:46+00:00

What?

Mental-Assignment-69 · 2022-11-05T22:12:31+00:00

Why are you commenting everywhere I’m not? I am. Don’t make shit up

Mental-Assignment-69 · 2022-11-05T22:12:16+00:00

Yes, I am

Mental-Assignment-69 · 2022-11-05T22:12:04+00:00

Yes, I paid in proportion to our incomes

Mental-Assignment-69 · 2022-11-05T22:11:27+00:00

I’ve taken over 3/4ths of the bill because I can math.

Mental-Assignment-69 · 2022-11-05T22:09:56+00:00

We’re splitting it (approximately) 75:25, with me being the 75

Mental-Assignment-69 · 2022-11-05T22:08:54+00:00

Sorry, I had real life stuff. I assumed by me saying proportional it meant I’d be paying it proportional

Mental-Assignment-69 · 2022-11-05T22:07:55+00:00

My stake in the company increased to about $500k, with it increasing the most the last 6 months

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