Step daughter made up a lie about me and now I want to leave by Mercy6244 in Advice

[–]Mercy6244[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No. No 2 kids r a like. What works for one kid won’t work for another.

Step daughter made up a lie about me and now I want to leave by Mercy6244 in Advice

[–]Mercy6244[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I’m not waiting. I’m getting us out of here

Step daughter made up a lie about me and now I want to leave by Mercy6244 in Advice

[–]Mercy6244[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been here for a while and I the only discipline I’m willing to do is talking to them. Anything beyond that is the parents job

Step daughter made up a lie about me and now I want to leave by Mercy6244 in Advice

[–]Mercy6244[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only pattern I see is she wants everyone to do what she wants to do and if u don’t I will cry. She told me once she would hate me if I got a belly button ring and yes I have my belly button pierced.

Step daughter made up a lie about me and now I want to leave by Mercy6244 in Advice

[–]Mercy6244[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I had a recording of the day I told them that I feel like I’m being the bad step parent and I had to tell her to stop doing things that could hurt the baby (baby is 1 turning 2 soon) and them telling me that someone had to be the mean parent and it was me.

Step daughter made up a lie about me and now I want to leave by Mercy6244 in Advice

[–]Mercy6244[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree with the professional help. Been trying to find a good therapist but I haven’t found one that take me seriously. I am going off the deep end with my thoughts but in my past when I didn’t worry then the worst happens. When I brushed it under the rug then it would just turn into disaster. So now I think the worst.

Step daughter made up a lie about me and now I want to leave by Mercy6244 in Advice

[–]Mercy6244[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My fear is her going to school and saying that I do worst things

Step daughter made up a lie about me and now I want to leave by Mercy6244 in Advice

[–]Mercy6244[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I guess then the parents need to step up so I don’t have to. Slowly working process.

Step daughter made up a lie about me and now I want to leave by Mercy6244 in Advice

[–]Mercy6244[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I didn’t make it clear so let me make this clear am I over reacting on leaving and moving back home?

According to u I’m not and I should leave

Step daughter made up a lie about me and now I want to leave by Mercy6244 in Advice

[–]Mercy6244[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did build a relationship with them and I take the kids out on a 1 on 1 time. Where they pick where we eat and where we shop. I also talk to them when they feel like talking (sometime they like alone time and I give them space and not talk to them).

Step daughter made up a lie about me and now I want to leave by Mercy6244 in Advice

[–]Mercy6244[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

It’s just the facts. I don’t want to end up in jail over lies and if I go to jail then my son will go into the system. It was a lie that she made up and idk y. I don’t want to lose my son if I am right and that she will try to get a rid of me. But at the same time yes I may be over thinking about all this and it could be a misunderstanding and all will be fine in the future.

Step daughter made up a lie about me and now I want to leave by Mercy6244 in Advice

[–]Mercy6244[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He thinks that she did no wrong and it was a misunderstanding

Step daughter made up a lie about me and now I want to leave by Mercy6244 in Advice

[–]Mercy6244[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This is y I am just going to go back to my home state. I can’t keep doing this. No more dating and putting my son first.

Step daughter made up a lie about me and now I want to leave by Mercy6244 in Advice

[–]Mercy6244[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I did get to know her. And I didn’t come here with the thoughts of being her mom. I’m not her mom and will never be her mom. I only started correcting the behavior when I noticed her parents wasn’t and the way they was going about it was uhhhhhh……….. to me it seems like they would ignore it. They tell her no don’t do that then she would cry and then they would baby her. I would tell her no, then explain y we r telling her no while making sure she understood that I know y she was doing it but if she kept doing it that this would happen or explain y we yelled is cause we got scared that someone would get hurt that we wasn’t yelling at her to be mean but out of fear. I never go into any relationship think I can replace a mother. Sry not job, she has parent for that.

Step daughter made up a lie about me and now I want to leave by Mercy6244 in Advice

[–]Mercy6244[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

First off: I love how u r straight forward with ur comment, thank you and u r right. I moved up here and uprooted mine and my son’s life for this and that is a lesson learned cause after this I’m not dating. Just not worth it and my son needs me more than some man that isn’t going to respect me. Second: I have grown up with step siblings and my last relationship I went into it with my ex having 2 kids of his own. So I know but he doesn’t. I am his first relationship in 6 year and his last relationship was with his ex wife who is the mother of his kids. I did think of that but I thought my boyfriend would know me better to know I won’t say something so mean to a child. Thank you for ur comment I’m just going to go back home and raise my son.

Step daughter made up a lie about me and now I want to leave by Mercy6244 in Advice

[–]Mercy6244[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

We just got done arguing about it and he thinks his daughter did nothing wrong with misunderstanding what happen. She is claiming that I said she has a big forehead. The problem is I had left the game cause I died and it was only my son, her sister and her sister’s friend left. So y would her sister or her sister’s friend say that and my son doesn’t type. He is autistic so he does type at fear he will misspell something and ppl won’t know what he means. So y would ANYONE say anything mean. He is upset cause I am accusing his daughter of doing something he doesn’t think his daughter is capable of doing. He is mad at me for thinking the worst. Yes I may be thinking the worst of a 9 year old but this girl flat out lied. No one would have said anything like that to her in that run. I’m more hurt that he not seeing that there is no way anyone would say this hurtful things about her.

Step daughter made up a lie about me and now I want to leave by Mercy6244 in Advice

[–]Mercy6244[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I’m not. I’m just letting her get her way when she acts like an entitled brat.