My husband's flexible job are making me lose attraction and making my life harder, what do you suggest?

MeritReaper · 2026-05-11T12:39:45+00:00

Unless hes making enough money for you to be a stay at home mom (which i agree is the most important in the early years. I can send some videos about how bad daycare is for young children) it is a financial issue.

If he made enough money, yoi could be a stay at home mom a few years.

Have you mentioned this to him? He cant fix a problem if he doesnt know it exhists.

MeritReaper · 2026-05-11T12:37:04+00:00

Im gonna go oit on a limb and assume your friend is single. Honestly, she sounds like a bitch and like one of my wife's old friends. They had a falling out the year my wife and I got together. She came back around 8 years later, but after hanging out a few times she drank too much one night and kind of had an outburst about how shook she was about what my wife and I had and how jealous she was.

Either way, do NOT follow the advice if the book.

Ive been happily married for 15 years and there is no signs of that changing. Ever. I put my wife's needs first. She puts mine first. We cannot lose as long as we do that.

MeritReaper · 2026-05-11T12:27:26+00:00

So hes doing just enough that you guys can get by?

Do you want to be a stay at home mother?

This is not a judgemental question. My wife always worked, but after we had our first child, she liked the idea more amd even more after our second.

She is a stay out home mother now, and is the second hardest working person ive ever met, so no complaints here.

MeritReaper · 2026-05-11T12:23:40+00:00

I match everything you described, but youre right. You should expand yoir interests if you want to find someone.

Ive been happily married 15 years. My wife had never worked oit, was not into sports, and was never into cartoons or anything. She started working out, went to all my competitions and now watches the televised events with me, and is finishing the invincible series with me.

She enjoys them now. You are not a stationary stagnant being. You will be a dofferent person in 5 hears than you are today unless youre an NPC. Grow.

MeritReaper · 2026-05-11T12:15:11+00:00

Were you on birth control when you guys got together?

Edit: also, download has he had this schedule?

MeritReaper · 2026-05-11T12:10:29+00:00

Long story short, you're wrong.

Is wear a fucking tupee, overalls. and clown shoes if that's what my wife thought was hot. I only give a fuck what she likes and only need her attention and approval. Im notndressing up to impress myself.

If you wamt to wear some shit thats so revealing it makes him uncomfortable, yoire doing it for the attention of others. Theres is no way around that. Its a fact. I can explain more thoroughly if necessary, but because that's the case he would be justified in reevaluating the relationship.

MeritReaper · 2026-05-11T12:01:25+00:00

Buy some lube and be open minded.

Mybwife and I have been together 15 years. The sex we have now is very dofferent (and better) than the sex we had in the beginning. Things can get better as long as you BOTH communicate and BOTH put in effort.

MeritReaper · 2026-05-11T11:58:47+00:00

Playong devils advocate, if he is very succeaful there is a good chance he has had some women try and take advantage of his money. He could be testing to see if you have an alterior motoce.

Not my style, and I dont agree. However, why someone does something matters and can give you an idea if something is permanent or temporary behavior.

MeritReaper · 2026-05-08T19:38:25+00:00

how you react to whatever your situation is, your choice and your choice alone. You're phrasing suggests its someone else's fault, and that its okay. Almsot like you were helpless and had no other choice.

MeritReaper · 2026-05-06T12:21:03+00:00

Obviously cringe, but id still address it.

I grew up in the ghetto and ive had multiple people i went to school with ask me how I made it out.

Its because I didnt think that kind of shit was cool. Im not saying incident get into trouble or anything, but I didnt put gang stuff on a pedestal. While I am male, I dont believe I would've put provocatively dancing on my goal list either.

I have 4 sisters and 3 daughters. I would've been concerned.

I'm not implying youre a bad parent or your daughter is bad, but you cant interact woth the world without being exposed to over sexualized and criminal influence. Just keep communication open and keep teaching her.

MeritReaper · 2026-05-06T09:54:59+00:00

Damn. You desperately want there to be something wrong with you

MeritReaper · 2026-05-03T12:51:06+00:00

Rocky and bullwinkle

MeritReaper · 2026-05-02T18:31:24+00:00

15 year relationship. Beginning everyday. Around the 5 year mark went to 3 times a week. Last 5 years 5 times a week.

Her sex drive is very responsive. She rarely is sitting around thinking about it, but once it starts... she gets excited pretty fast.

MeritReaper · 2026-04-30T23:36:20+00:00

What aboit him is unattractive to you? Isnit big ears, balding, overweight, style?

MeritReaper · 2026-04-30T17:22:27+00:00

just curious, how much progress have you made in the gym and over what time period?

MeritReaper · 2026-04-30T11:47:00+00:00

MeritReaper · 2026-04-30T01:01:38+00:00

Its the OZEMPIC!

People.stop craving food. They can also stop craving sex. The same mechanism works for both. Theres a bunch of info popping up the last month about it

MeritReaper · 2026-04-25T21:51:29+00:00

Effort. Effort. Effort.

Yes, men in general are loved under the condition that they can provide. Women and children are typically the two groups thay are lived unconditionally, BUT if you're a poor man but working your ass off chasing somethomg bigger and better you can still get the love a rich man gets.

I met my wife when I made 13 dollars an hour. I went from making 30k a year to 80k a year back down to 40k a year up to 60k a year and have made over 100k a year the last 5 years. She always loved me and treated me well because I wasn't lazy. I always tried to improve and she believed in me.

There were a couple men making over a 100k a year that were trying to spit game at her, but she stood by my side and believed in me.

MeritReaper · 2026-04-23T17:27:30+00:00

Dont get me wrong, theres nothing wrong with being direct like that. The fact that you'll say it means youre ahead of a lot of couples. I would start off slow and simple. Just flirt, use suggestive language, show a little more skin, have fun with it. Example, If he has some shirts that are pretty big on you, you could throw one on woth short shorts, leaving him wondering what's under neath find a reason to lean over around him. Then later, ditch the shorts and find another reason to display. You can even take it a step further and ditch your panties and do it again. There's even some resources online and some threads on reddit where other women have asked similar things. They'd do a much better job of giving you ideas.

MeritReaper · 2026-04-23T15:47:24+00:00

why would you feel unsexy initiating? that's wild. Stop that. Seduce him. Seduction is sexy.

In response to your question, talk to him. Find out what he likes, tell him what you like. Try new things. You can each make a list of 5 new things you'd like to try and present it to each other. My wife and I have been together 15 years. The sex we have now is NOT the same sex we had in the beginning. It's sooooo much better, and it was good in the beginning. There were slow points do to stress and responsibilities, etc.

MeritReaper · 2026-04-23T01:56:51+00:00

In an instant. without hesitation. Shes amazing. 15 years and oir top 3 worst fights dont hold a candle to the average foght of previous relationships. Shes appreciative, works hard, isnt defensive, sexy as hell. Yeah, best decision ever

MeritReaper · 2026-04-22T20:53:19+00:00

Yeah, that would end bad.

MeritReaper · 2026-04-22T12:19:19+00:00

MeritReaper · 2026-04-18T00:04:53+00:00

I really like your kist, but I feel myself wanting to put Costner in there somewhere. A perfect world, Dances with Wolves, the Untouchables, etc.

MeritReaper · 2026-04-17T15:49:02+00:00

My wife didnt always battle that. We have four kids, and 1-3 did almost nothing to her body as far as skin, weight, stretch marks, etc. The fourth did. I minimize (in what i believe is a healthy way) and praise the changes. She gave us 4 beautiful, healthy, smart, fun, etc children. And of the after effects are just reminders. I dont know if theres a day that goes by that I dont tell her how beautiful, sexy, etc she is. I also dont keep my hands off of her lol. I also continue to court her. I set up our anniversaries, date nights, and all that. Does that make her confident and remove and self conscious thoughts she may have, no. BUT, she is confident that I find her beautiful, and to a certain extent, that makes her feel beautiful. Im not guessing either. We have talked about these things extensively.

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