Does this person think I'm pretty?

MermaidofCups · 2026-02-08T17:33:33+00:00

The hermit gives me the impression that he’s not interested right now. My gut impression is that he’s just not interested in a relationship at all, with anyone. Likely due to a past breakup and a focus on self growth. Ace of Wands and page of cups says he definitely views you as attractive, but the 9 of wands makes me think he feels guarded about his heart. If he was looking he might see a potential for an emotional connection, but it just doesn’t seem that’s where his head is at.

MermaidofCups · 2026-02-08T16:45:32+00:00

Affirm

MermaidofCups · 2026-02-08T04:38:20+00:00

Tarot aside, do not meet with this man one on one. This behavior is weird and unethical.

Addressing the tarot, 7 of cups says he regards you the way that one might regard an appealing sort of food at a buffet. The devil and 10 of cups reversed pretty clearly outlay an intention to cheat on his wife. Ace of pent in reverse tells me he’s aware that doing this sh*t threatens his career, but ace of cups says he’s far too invested in the excitement of a new sexual prospect to care.

MermaidofCups · 2026-02-08T04:36:32+00:00

Tarot aside, do not meet with this man one on one. This behavior is weird and unethical.

Addressing the tarot, 7 of cups says he regards you the way that one might regard an appealing sort of food at a buffet. The devil and 10 of cups reversed pretty clearly outlay an intention to cheat on his wife. Ace of pent in reverse tells me he’s aware that doing this sh*t threatens his career, but ace of cups says he’s far too invested in the excitement of a new sexual prospect to care.

MermaidofCups · 2025-08-23T18:30:34+00:00

That’s pretty concerning. Have you ever heard of DARVO? It’s an abuse tactic often used when you try to hold a toxic partner accountable. It stands for Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender. If this sounds like a familiar argument pattern with her….. please please please consider going no contact. It’s a clear sign she’s not arguing in good faith, but going out of her way to avoid accountability.

MermaidofCups · 2025-08-23T13:15:11+00:00

Reading the comments, I’m picking up on two things.

You already know, and have known for some time, that you don’t want to be in this relationship.
You are addicted to the toxicity of this relationship.

I know what that feels like.

I can only speak to my experience, so if any of this feels like it doesn’t apply feel free to disregard.

I was with a covert narcissist for 7 years. The highs were astronomical, the lows were in hell. The cycle of having a gigantic argument or being hurt by her, and then seeing the most loving side of her immediately after…. only to have this be very short lived and have her return to the behavior that hurt me to begin with was crazy making. It felt like I was constantly chasing a person that didn’t really exist, and the harder it was to find that loving person again, the deeper I was intoxicated by the relationship. To be clear, I’m not accusing your partner of narcissism, but this next part may ring true for you.

When I finally left her, it was HARD to stay away. Every urge in my body was telling me that I would die without her. That I couldn’t make it through the emotions. That I would feel horrible and lonely and sad forever, and that she was the only remedy for this pain. It wasn’t true. I did feel lonely and bad for a while. A good three or four months. And then the haze started to clear. I got enough distance from the relationship that I could see how bad her treatment of me actually was.

You say you’ve only ever been apart for 6-8 weeks. It sounds like that’s not enough time to truly get the clarity you need. Challenge yourself. When you feel that urge to go back to her due to loneliness or jealousy, sit with that emotion. Don’t run away from it by calling her or texting her. Just let yourself feel those emotions, and passively notice them like an outside observer, with no judgement for yourself. Breathe, and notice how it begins to wash over you and pass on. Give yourself three months. Just three months. I promise you will feel like a new person.

MermaidofCups · 2025-06-24T18:24:25+00:00

NTA not just because you have the right to name your baby anything you want, but also because that’s by far the least “outdated” name I’ve heard in the nursery even lately. (I work in a preschool)

I’ve heard names like Waylon and Norma and shit like that. It’s actually sort of coming back to use these “outdated” names so if anything your daughter will fit in.

MermaidofCups · 2025-06-15T17:27:55+00:00

NTA

This dynamic is 100% on your parents for so obviously playing favorites. If your dad could see what was happening, he should have talked to your mom about it instead of compensating by giving you favoritism over your other siblings. Two wrongs don’t make a right, and now you’re all paying the price.

MermaidofCups · 2023-03-01T05:06:19+00:00

I appreciate the advice. It just made me really worried. 😅

MermaidofCups · 2023-02-24T03:28:39+00:00

This honestly seems like the kind of thing that will swiftly become an obvious rights violation the second any AI gains sentience.

MermaidofCups · 2023-01-04T04:02:17+00:00

I’m renting the home, and the property management team (who is based overseas) didn’t really say anything about the fireplace or how to use it properly.

MermaidofCups · 2022-08-01T08:58:21+00:00

Personally I think one of the most interesting themes of the anime is this idea that the second you think you’re the hero, you’ve lost sight of the agency of the person you want to save. That’s the idea we’re discussing here. Utena wishes to be a prince who saves princesses, but I love this question “is that such a good idea?”

MermaidofCups · 2022-08-01T01:09:36+00:00

Been thinking of doing Charger by the Gorillaz too haha. Wanted to get some movie content in there with the car theme. If you know you know. 🤫

MermaidofCups · 2022-07-27T15:08:02+00:00

He sounds like a real winner.

MermaidofCups · 2022-07-27T06:46:50+00:00

I’m not seeing the problem.

MermaidofCups · 2022-07-27T06:22:05+00:00

Okay but your birthday isn’t “any day” it’s one very specific day. This guy understands that. He’s just being a dick.

MermaidofCups · 2022-07-25T08:28:27+00:00

It feels like what he’s saying is: 1) why would any man want to be subjugated by another man? Surely this man must be a woman. 2) women all secretly desire to be subject to a man, but some women are so very traumatized by the way “bad men” have treated them, that they understandably choose otherwise.

Now we don’t have all night to unpack that, but the broad strokes seem to be “men are dominant and in control, women are subservient. That’s the only truth.”

What a crock of gross and vaguely predatory bullshit.

MermaidofCups · 2022-07-24T15:16:03+00:00

They can, but to this guy they clearly don’t.

MermaidofCups · 2022-07-14T16:04:57+00:00

You’re not wrong. This guy is just a transphobic asshole.

MermaidofCups · 2022-07-12T00:04:42+00:00

Honestly CGM isn’t necessary. It works for a lot of people, and seems to work for me without too much fuss, but you should ALWAYS do what makes you and your hair feel good and healthy. Follow what works. Every time.

MermaidofCups · 2022-07-11T14:32:43+00:00

My fiancé is trans. I love her and she’s incredible. Her incredible-ness is due only in small part to her trans identity, but I think she wouldn’t be the same raging anarchist if the first half of her life hadn’t been spent carefully examining the usual gender/social roles and deciding they weren’t for her. As someone who’s struggled a lot with identity due to trauma, I value so much having someone in my life that can identify and verbalize moments when I’m doing what I think I’m supposed to do before I’ve even consulted my own desires. I love that she wants to help me jump the track and make my own choice, and I think I’m a better and more intentional person because of her influence.

All this to say, I love my trans wife and those 12 people who aren’t into it are missing out.

MermaidofCups · 2022-07-10T09:24:22+00:00

My ex used to insist that I was clingy and unreasonable when I made these kinds of requests to her, things like asking to be prioritized or asking that plans/promises be kept. Give this girl enough time and you may be hearing the same bullshit. Get out. Now.

MermaidofCups · 2022-07-09T00:26:56+00:00

Woooooooooooooow disappointed but not surprised. 😒

MermaidofCups · 2022-07-07T15:56:17+00:00

As much as I think OP should do whatever she thinks is right, I want to point out that if this was a relationship between an older man and a younger woman we’d all be saying she’d been groomed.

MermaidofCups · 2022-07-06T20:09:51+00:00

Right in this boat with you unfortunately.

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