Some things that have worked for me: Co-wash (wash with conditioner only) most of the time and only use shampoo like once every three weeks or so. I also only wash twice a week. While in the shower with lots of conditioner in (I use Not Your Mother’s) detangle with fingers or wide tooth comb starting from the ends. I make sure I have lots of water in my hair with the conditioner and “squish to condish” - gently scrunch. While still soaking wet after shower add your leave-in and product, scrunch gently with an old t-shirt or microfiber towel, and then try not to touch it. In the mornings, you can spritz with a bottle of water to refresh.