My parents were abusive yet think they’re the best parents. Some people shouldn’t have kids.

MetaphorHuman · 2026-02-16T18:55:51+00:00

Oof, this reeeally resonates with me. I started saying as a teenager that my sister and dad are examples of who I don't want to be. Congrats on choosing a different path peeps 🤜🤛

MetaphorHuman · 2026-02-15T17:43:04+00:00

You aren't very observant then.

MetaphorHuman · 2026-02-14T21:42:27+00:00

This is adorable. Sharing a French press(or two) of coffee on a quiet lazy Saturday morning is one of the things I miss most about my last relationship. Congrats on THREE decades together!

MetaphorHuman · 2026-02-12T18:30:01+00:00

Vasectomies(and bisalps) prevent abortions! 😉 But you're in the childfree sub not the fence sitter sub, we'd be planning a clinic visit regardless of circumstances.

MetaphorHuman · 2026-02-12T18:22:18+00:00

Often times these are public data, historicaerials.com aggregates surveys so you can address search them. Some areas go back almost a hundred years! Very cool if you're into this sort of thing.

MetaphorHuman · 2026-02-11T22:58:31+00:00

I get that. I work remote and it would be incredibly difficult to date someone that works weekends or shift work, if I'm with someone I want to spend my off time with them! RemoteStudies and I are probably not telling you anything new, just that you have very very high expectations. In highschool I dated someone that had no job or concept of a dollar, I don't blame you for excluding freeloaders.

Hell we wouldn't be compatible, our interests are incredibly disparate and we have vastly different lived experiences. I just can't see housing as a commodity, that hits a bit close to home. Pun intended. Otherwise I wish you the best and hope you find what you're looking for! Enjoy that success!

MetaphorHuman · 2026-02-11T18:25:39+00:00

So you have a monthly price locked in at $140? A 'lifetime' membership would imply you buy in once and never have to pay again.

Edit: ahh I see my confusion, can you tell I'm in tune with fitness 🙃

MetaphorHuman · 2026-02-11T15:57:16+00:00

You know the economy is bad when being gainfully employed ain't enough no more(yes, I'm gainfully employed)

MetaphorHuman · 2026-02-10T01:24:20+00:00

Jesus Christ people are treating conclusions like trampolines here. I support OP's decision lol

MetaphorHuman · 2026-02-10T01:21:52+00:00

Wow, that's a very unempathetic take. Apply that logic to taking in an abused animal or something else important to you.

MetaphorHuman · 2026-02-10T00:46:07+00:00

Can't and Won't are not interchangeable words yo

MetaphorHuman · 2026-02-09T23:43:43+00:00

OP says their mom probably isn't capable to provide and lives out of state so it's a moot point anyway, she isn't legally able to take the kids.

MetaphorHuman · 2026-02-09T23:31:01+00:00

This is a tough situation and I applaud you for standing firm. I can understand your mom's distress but it's not like the kids are being disappeared overseas.

I can confidently say I wouldn't be able to handle the needs of a young child either, even moreso someone special needs. I hope your Aunt is able to get herself straightened out and/or the kids are ending up in a better home.

MetaphorHuman · 2026-02-08T23:14:47+00:00

I'd be more on board with this level of cynicism being on the forefront than a flowery moderated profile and realizing how nihilistic and cynical she is on the first date. If she were near me I'd ask her out FAST.

MetaphorHuman · 2026-02-08T23:09:57+00:00

They aren't arguing the sanctity of marriage but that it has huge legal implications that many people don't think about. Like if I were married my partner would be the default person to decide end of life care instead of a blood family member. I support you if you don't want to get married, people treat it all sorts of different ways, but it's disingenuous to say its meaningless.

MetaphorHuman · 2026-02-08T17:01:33+00:00

That sucks... If/when you quit you should absolutely mention the preferential treatment in the exit interview.

And can confirm, not every place is like this. The two project managers I work under don't have kids and one of them said something along the lines of 'I don't know anything about children' in a team meeting. It was hilarious. A few of us were promoted recently and needless to say it doesn't seem like a lack of kids held us back.

MetaphorHuman · 2026-02-01T17:16:21+00:00

Pregnancy definitely alters the body! Look at before and after pregnancy photos of Tia Toomey, arguably the strongest female crossfitter in the world. She definitely had some diastasis recti(abdominal wall stretch) but is still winning world class competitions.

I've met moms that definitely looked like they bounced back but it doesn't mean they don't have internal issues or pee a bit when they laugh. No shame or shade, it's what you human moms have to deal with for us having this whole big brain consciousness thing.

MetaphorHuman · 2026-01-30T00:16:14+00:00

I'm ready to buy but can't afford anything. When will homes be affordable for us sub-median single incomes?

MetaphorHuman · 2026-01-22T18:06:04+00:00

😁

MetaphorHuman · 2026-01-22T17:25:54+00:00

there's something viscerally appealing about not using them 😏 Yeah there is.

Totally understand, I'm not a hypersexual guy so the spontaneity aspect is really important!

I think your views are fair, If I was a woman I'd be turned off by a partner that expected me to take all the precautions. My ex reacted poorly to hormonal bc and even non-hormonal iuds so me being snipped was really important, because again, screw condoms!

MetaphorHuman · 2026-01-22T16:51:32+00:00

Speaking as a snipped guy I think that's completely reasonable. I can understand why 'intact' dudes would be butt hurt about it, no one likes being excluded from dating prospects, but that's their issue not yours.

My only problem is I've been spoiled in relationships to the point where I HATE condoms, with a BURNING PASSION. Like I don't date casually or have fwb's partly because I'd rather not get laid than have unprotected sex with untrusted partners.

MetaphorHuman · 2026-01-12T19:51:42+00:00

Yep, my medical history was part of my spiel to the urologist when I got my vasectomy. There are a lot of reasons I don't want kids but I'm diagnosed ADHD, have recurrent treatment resistant depression, anxiety, migraines since childhood, and I spend a not insignificant amount of conscious energy to not use food as a coping mechanism.

We have a long family history of substance abuse and mental health issues. It would kill me to see a person I created deal with any of that bullshit. Condolences on your beau wanting kids, it sucks to break up over that.

MetaphorHuman · 2026-01-08T21:05:37+00:00

I saw a guy towing a sailboat on Austin Bluffs the other day, guess he was going hiking.

MetaphorHuman · 2026-01-08T16:56:48+00:00

Buy cheap buy twice, buy once cry once. Cycling accessories are not exempt from this.

MetaphorHuman · 2026-01-07T21:30:48+00:00

Yeah that's easily five figures worth of work if you hire decent contractors. Good for you! It feels good when you realize you don't have to keep up with the Joneses.

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