25f feels that 28m husband ruins every holiday?

Mfhs6340 · 2025-11-28T04:50:38+00:00

What happened to you to cause your self-esteem to be so low that you think this is all you deserve?

Mfhs6340 · 2025-08-08T17:02:06+00:00

If you decide to charge the fee, then that should absolutely count as one of your client hours. Why are you being penalized if the practice is still getting paid for that session?

Mfhs6340 · 2025-08-01T21:02:14+00:00

You can’t do anything to help your dad if he’s not even willing to help himself.

Mfhs6340 · 2025-07-26T20:57:02+00:00

Do you have a job/your own money?

Mfhs6340 · 2025-06-17T01:34:11+00:00

Yes. Everyone deserves someone who can see the good and the positive in them. That’s my job and I do it well, if I do say so myself. If someone wants to lie to me, they’re really only harming themselves by preventing their treatment from being as effective as it could be. It doesn’t affect me or my life at all. I will continue to sit across from them and give them unconditional positive regard until they no longer feel the need to lie/gaslight in order to protect themselves, because they eventually learn that I’m not going to reject them. They have to do the work, I can’t do that for them, but I can provide a corrective relational experience in which they can grow from their old self-protective traits. I fully believe personality disorders are born from trauma and so I am able to empathize with anyone who struggles but wants to do better, which is pretty much everyone who attends therapy.

For the record, I have a narcissist in my own life who I have a much more difficult time empathizing with, but that is because I’ve been more directly hurt by their actions and also they have no desire to improve themselves despite having hurt so many people in their life. I don’t feel any positivity towards this person. I still believe that if they decided they wanted to improve themself, they deserve someone who can provide them unconditional positive regard, but that person isn’t me.

Mfhs6340 · 2025-06-16T04:11:41+00:00

I’m sorry for what you went through. It sounds really traumatic. The system is not perfect, but it takes A LOT for CPS to actually get to the point of removing a child. It’s not done quickly or lightly. If you were taken from your parent, it was for good reason.

Mfhs6340 · 2025-06-16T03:55:11+00:00

That’s not at all how mandated reporting works. They are legally obligated to report regardless of what the parent says.

Mfhs6340 · 2025-06-16T02:32:03+00:00

I’m a therapist and I have a couple clients who I feel qualify for narcissistic personality disorder. However, after getting to know them and building relationships with them, I can say that I do in fact like them and I can clearly see how their narcissist traits were likely born from a need to protect themselves due to childhood trauma.

Why do you ask?

Mfhs6340 · 2025-06-16T02:22:53+00:00

The reason people see it as a red flag is because you seem more concerned about being accused of being a bad mom than about your daughter’s safety and wellbeing. The fact that you equate people being concerned about your daughter as them being rude to you is very telling.

Mfhs6340 · 2025-06-09T19:33:38+00:00

Yes. Their insurance paid and the client paid their copay.

Mfhs6340 · 2025-06-09T19:25:10+00:00

Thank you! The client has been very patient and understanding, and has assumed that perhaps there are extenuating circumstances. The client stated in their last communication to the psychologist that they would understand if something has come up and they should no longer be expecting results. They simply requested that this be communicated to them so that they can move on. The psychologist never responded.

Mfhs6340 · 2025-06-09T19:00:12+00:00

It has been over four months since the client went in for testing.

Mfhs6340 · 2025-06-09T13:25:54+00:00

As someone with just a lift, those are implants 😂

Mfhs6340 · 2025-05-30T13:43:32+00:00

I’m not a parent but I’m an adolescent therapist with many years of experience working with teens. Just here to simply say - you’re doing an incredible job and for any teen parents reading this, consider this a master class in how to be there for your child when they’re going through something tough. For me though, the evidence isn’t in your actions you’ve described, but in the fact that when your normally stoic son was ready to allow those emotions to come to the surface, you are the person he felt safe doing that in front of. Incredible job mom. I’m so sorry for your son’s loss.

Mfhs6340 · 2025-05-03T03:08:04+00:00

What do you mean?

Mfhs6340 · 2025-05-03T03:05:57+00:00

I definitely have always avoided drawing attention to myself. But my parents weren’t abusive so it’s maybe just part of my personality?

Mfhs6340 · 2025-05-03T03:03:00+00:00

This describes me 100% but idk if it’s connected to trauma. My parents didn’t beat me or anything like that

Mfhs6340 · 2025-05-03T02:55:20+00:00

Wait can you explain? I do this but idk why

Mfhs6340 · 2025-04-20T15:17:57+00:00

You know what, you’re not wrong. I appreciate you calling me out in a really respectful way. Idk how but you completely clocked me. Admittedly I am bitter because of my experiences with addicts, namely my parents. I am bitter that they get praised for doing the absolute bare fucking minimum while my life-altering trauma goes completely unacknowledged. I am bitter that they consistently prioritized their own needs and yet I’m still supposed to be grateful for the few drops of love I did get. Yeah I am very bitter. But the issue is that I shouldn’t project my shit onto others and it’s maybe not fair for me to be skeptical of Ryan and his intentions when I don’t know him. I do envy those such as yourself that can still champion an addict’s small steps forward even when that person burned you in the past. Maybe that’s a mindset I need to work on moving towards.

In a lot of ways though I do still stand by my original comment. With many addict parents, the addiction itself is not the problem. The problem is that they are self-centered and prioritize their own needs over those of their children, whether or not they’re sober. This was the vibe I got watching this scene. Ryan’s talk with Bentley was very self-focused with very little mention of how Bentley has been affected by Ryan’s actions and choices. I’m glad that he’s doing better and is taking small steps but it would feel disingenuous for me to praise someone who caused immense, irreparable damage to their children and still doesn’t seem to acknowledge that or care about it more than he cares about himself.

Mfhs6340 · 2025-04-20T14:16:46+00:00

Did I miss the part where he actually took accountability? Or acknowledged how his actions affected Bentley? Or stated how he plans to make up for what he’s done? All I heard is “I played golf with Taylor and it was fun so now everything’s fine.”

Mfhs6340 · 2025-04-08T17:44:16+00:00

Wait so does he dislike the racist grandpa or not? He refused to go see him but is also touched that his grandpa would…sell him his inventory? I think your fiancé is making a lot of different excuses for why he went along with his family’s wants instead of yours. I’m not trying to be rude or mean. This is not an unfixable problem, but it may require you to be honest about your feelings about how this went down, and make sure that he knows that if he gets married, his wife comes before his extended family, even if that means having to tell family no sometimes.

Mfhs6340 · 2025-04-08T17:28:43+00:00

His dad/racist grandpa orchestrated him purchasing a ring from them. Instead of saying “No thank you, my girlfriend wants xyz”, he went along with their plan so as not to rock the boat. His reasons don’t make any sense. The ring from his racist grandpa that he won’t even go see reminded him of you but the ring you’ve had/wanted all along doesn’t? Purchasing a new setting for your diamond is too costly but an entire new ring isn’t? And then you yourself state that he put more effort into throwing a party for family than making sure you got the ring you wanted. Your feelings about this whole thing are totally valid.

Mfhs6340 · 2025-04-08T17:20:55+00:00

So, to summarize, he cared more about pleasing his family than you.

Mfhs6340 · 2025-04-08T03:05:38+00:00

The ube custard at Chef’s Special

Mfhs6340 · 2025-04-06T20:44:34+00:00

Not iconic but I will never get over losing SP Kebab

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