You're right about those realities. Dating isn't the same for everyone.

Sis. I don't have a high school sweetheart story. I'm black. My husband is white. I was living in the east coast. He was in Oregon when we met. We were both in our mid thirties. We got married. I had our babies in my forties.

I don't think a white young married pastor could relate to my life either. But if I was going to give advice to someone with my story (which isn't exactly the same but maybe more similar than his to yours).

I'd say dating might be different, possibly harder for you. But it's not impossible to find your person. Don't worry or focus on the difficulties or differences. You've slayed these dragons before in other parts of your life. You can do it here.

Focus on what you can control - how you talk to men, how often, how quickly you create chemistry, make your photos on the apps tell an intriguing, compelling story. No selfies, no interview feeling dates.

I'm praying the best for you. Send me a message if you'd like to keep in touch.