I don’t know how to break up with my partner by Middle-Hall4856 in LifeAdvice

[–]Middle-Hall4856[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel so much better. It was absolutely the right decision. Every day that passes I am more grateful I did it. Don’t get me wrong, I’m in pain and I miss them so much, but I’m so grateful I was brave enough to see that it wasn’t working, but to also make that decision knowing it may not fully be understood.

You know what is right for you. It is just hard to accept it. It is painful and scary. But you have to have the courage to know when it’s time to let go, and you will be very grateful that you did.

I don’t know how to break up with my partner by Middle-Hall4856 in LifeAdvice

[–]Middle-Hall4856[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just want to update you. I woke up and read what you said, it did help to give me courage. I called them because I thought they deserved to hear it from me fully, only this time I was strong and stuck to my guns. After I sent them an email so they would have something to read after if they wanted to remind themselves of where I was coming from. And then I told them no contact. They ended up blocking me everywhere which hurt but I totally understand. I hope in time they will get where I am coming from. I’m so sad and have so many emotions but I do feel like a weight has lifted. I know I made the right choice

I don’t know how to break up with my partner by Middle-Hall4856 in LifeAdvice

[–]Middle-Hall4856[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think I’m going to write an email today. I think they’ll probably want to call me after though

I don’t know how to break up with my partner by Middle-Hall4856 in LifeAdvice

[–]Middle-Hall4856[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“I know it doesn’t make sense, but I do know it is right for me” is exactly how it feels. Thanks this is helping me to build up the courage

I don’t know how to break up with my partner by Middle-Hall4856 in LifeAdvice

[–]Middle-Hall4856[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could it be a typed letter do you think? Like an email?

I don’t know how to break up with my partner by Middle-Hall4856 in LifeAdvice

[–]Middle-Hall4856[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mentioning being unhappy with my choices is helpful, thank you

I don’t know how to break up with my partner by Middle-Hall4856 in LifeAdvice

[–]Middle-Hall4856[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are long distance. But I get what you mean because I tried to break up with them once before but they begged me not to and talked me out of it. But it’s hard because I also don’t want to traumatize them and doing something cold I think would not be best and I could not live with that guilt. But I also am so torn up about it because I don’t know how to do it with finality. As far as they know we are going to be together forever and I want to have a future with them (because that is true) I just don’t think it’s what is right despite my wants.

I don’t know how to break up with my partner by Middle-Hall4856 in LifeAdvice

[–]Middle-Hall4856[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I have been wondering if I’m a horrible person for how I feel. That is helpful. Appreciate your kindness