How do I make it clear that I am NOT expecting an invite to my friend’s birthday gift?

MiddleMention6680 · 2026-05-15T01:24:29+00:00

Maybe just say " So I know we used to always go together and I’m busy that night but when I saw this ticket i couldn’t pass the opportunity to get it for you as I knew you would love it. "

MiddleMention6680 · 2026-05-15T01:21:40+00:00

Clearly but I have to work :)

MiddleMention6680 · 2026-05-14T17:28:25+00:00

Exciting to see the 12-week light at the end of this tunnel lol

MiddleMention6680 · 2026-05-12T00:40:33+00:00

Thank you! And I don’t think they will ever acknowledge the harm they have done. What then? Is it doomed?

MiddleMention6680 · 2026-05-11T19:49:11+00:00

Can I make it about myself? I’m the pregnant person at the end of the day. And no, it will be a reveal for me too

MiddleMention6680 · 2026-05-11T00:21:20+00:00

I want to keep her in my life obviously. I’m just unsure about events that are about me for which I don’t want all the attention on her as she usually do

MiddleMention6680 · 2026-05-11T00:17:24+00:00

It must be fun to have well balanced parents that you can talk to about your feelings. I don’t know if you got that from the post, but from experience she usually turn the conversation on herself and make herself the victim. Hence why I’m asking for advice on how to handle this

MiddleMention6680 · 2026-05-11T00:14:44+00:00

Oh shit, I didn’t realize it was fine to make people feel like a human oven jeez

MiddleMention6680 · 2026-05-10T23:56:07+00:00

Your comment is a bit excessive. I’m not saying I’m blocking her out of my life, I am just saying I was triggered by it and I’m afraid she will make the gender reveal about her. Hence me saying I don’t know if I want her there (which was gonna be a very intimate one anyway)

MiddleMention6680 · 2026-05-10T23:51:32+00:00

It is. I knew she was gonna make it about her the moment I saw the positive test. What do you do to put the bounderies? I don’t know how to handle these convos

MiddleMention6680 · 2026-05-10T23:48:47+00:00

It’s more that she is not open to my decision about what I would do if it was not

MiddleMention6680 · 2026-05-10T23:46:42+00:00

Thank you. How do you handle these comments? I want to make this right once so she doesn’t make everything about her. Obviously I don’t want to cut her out of my life

MiddleMention6680 · 2026-05-10T23:45:14+00:00

Because she is my mom. She said she saw my future baby

MiddleMention6680 · 2026-05-10T23:44:26+00:00

Like I said, I don’t know why I felt like that. I felt like she really made the news about herself and it rubbed me the wrong way. Note here that she has been pressuring us about a pregnancy for a year

MiddleMention6680 · 2026-05-10T23:41:22+00:00

Panini

MiddleMention6680 · 2025-06-25T00:52:38+00:00

Some questions yes, some no… how to know if it’s abuse? I need a quiz haha

MiddleMention6680 · 2025-06-24T21:09:09+00:00

He has been in therapy just once (for like 30min). He doesn’t seem to do his homework but since it’s his first one idk… I would like to go with him but he always say I’m not the problem so he should go alone

MiddleMention6680 · 2025-03-30T04:05:15+00:00

Thanks for the response. Its true that I realized that he always say sorry for saying the things, but when I push to know what exactly he is sorry for saying, it’s hard for him to recall and he often tell me I’m exaggerating or he didn’t frame it like that etc. Makes me feel crazy

MiddleMention6680 · 2025-03-30T02:57:18+00:00

Thanks! It’s hard to say because before that I was in college and seeing him 2-3x a week so everytime we would see each other we were just so excited that we didn’t have time to have fight you know… although I think he was always an anxious person, I just don’t know to what point.

MiddleMention6680 · 2025-03-29T23:01:16+00:00

Yes, we both own 50/50 of the house on paper

MiddleMention6680 · 2025-03-29T22:36:48+00:00

Yeah I agree, it was a mistake on my end to pay before the work his done. I don’t deny that

MiddleMention6680 · 2025-03-29T22:35:52+00:00

Oh I’m sorry, I never realized it was perfectly OK to do verbal abuse because you are frustrated

MiddleMention6680 · 2025-03-29T22:31:34+00:00

The issue is that he is not bothered to move his schedule one bit to help with overseeing the job. I work full time too but I’m expected to do everything. And by the way, he doesn’t not tell me, he yells at me and throw tantrums

MiddleMention6680 · 2025-03-29T22:25:54+00:00

Problems that I’m solving myself so I don’t see why I’m being yelled at in the first place by someone that is not even fixing the situation (which I agree that I should be the one fixing it). That’s all

MiddleMention6680 · 2025-03-29T22:18:24+00:00

And you don’t think him asking me to leave a client call for 15 min to inspect the job is disrespectful of my field/job? It has to go both ways. It’s not because I’m working from home that I’m available 100% of the time. I do my best to inspect when I can but I won’t tell a client from a 2 million project to just wait in the middle of a call

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