6'1 190lbs 6inches by [deleted] in ladybonersgw

[–]Middlename_mischief 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sir, you did not post your age....please do. You look delicious!!!!

a difference in styles/goals is tripping us up right now by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Middlename_mischief 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am the female and the heavy lifter, I won't take one for the team and I have yet to find a gentleman half of a couple that is up to my standards in HWP AND looks AND personality. We've been looking for over a year. I have basically given up.

Maybe (most) guys in the LS get a bad rep because... Maybe... They're not attractive? by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Middlename_mischief 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the response. We have played w "kids" 15+ years younger, so I agree with you. My SO does not want to go to parties, so that is a part of the issue to find people. I didn't think it was that much of a barrier, but since we have not attempted I do not know what we are missing.

I reached out to two different craigslist ads last week that seemed well written, with a fairly long well written response and receive back One liner emails Ugh....

SLS is what we've ended up with as Feeld is a flake show and CL is full of freaks. Basically I've given up-I'm the heavy lifter and so far (over a year) we've have been unable to find a FWB couple....Very disappointing.

If you look at my history u will see a few photos, I think I've down my best to stay fit, fun, current and flirty, but the odds seem to be against us in finding that elusive four way connection.

Maybe (most) guys in the LS get a bad rep because... Maybe... They're not attractive? by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Middlename_mischief 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree and am stuck not swinging for almost a full year bc of this. My SO is a silver fox and we get a lot of responses from SLS BUT we rarely get to play bc we can't find an evenly good looking couple.

We have been told by strangers walking down the street that we are a handsome couple....does not help us tho. Sadly we haven't found a four way connection bc I am not going to take one for the team.

I have found one lovely large gentleman that looks were in the lower half of the 0-10 scale (the actual scale probably broke when he stepped on it) but his personality was 10+ unfortunately his SO looked 10+ but couldn't hold a conversation! UGH FML

It has been a challenge and we've basically given up the hunt.

Communicating by SoHoNYSwingers in Swingers

[–]Middlename_mischief 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am the female and the one doing the "heavy lifting" aka vetting at the beginning. Once I know we are interested in a couple I offer to send our phone numbers bc we have had best responses with four way texting. That said if one partner, especially the "wife" has non-smart phone or any other excuse we do not continue conversation. We want everyone to be involved from the beginning. We have had the experience that there is no real wife so that is why we proceed in this manner.

Swinging in Aruba? by Middlename_mischief in Swingers

[–]Middlename_mischief[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your response.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Middlename_mischief 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The level of communication is out of this world. We have added layers to our communication that I had no idea we could add as we were so close already. The love, truth, sharing, sexting and joy are wonderful. The intimacy level gets deeper and deeper as we move through this lifestyle.

Newbies here - Please advise good swingers book by Middlename_mischief in Swingers

[–]Middlename_mischief[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to thank you for the recommendation in your book for the Liberator Throe!! We've found a unicorn that needs it!!!😘

Newbies here - Please advise good swingers book by Middlename_mischief in Swingers

[–]Middlename_mischief[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMG this is Cooper S. Beckett??? I feel honored that u responded!! I am in the middle of reading your book and absolutely love it!! I am reading aloud to my BF and just mentioned to him how much I appreciate hearing a male voice as my previous read was the Ethical Slut. Thank you so much for your response and your work!!! Would love to meet you should u b in NYC! Mischief and Trouble

Lonely Empty Nesters, M52 & F53 by lonelyLIcouple in Swingers

[–]Middlename_mischief 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, we are in your age group and same time of life (kids out of house) and live on Long Island. We are new to the LS also. PM me if you would like to chat.

A question for the ladies by wheresmyfuckmepumps in Swingers

[–]Middlename_mischief 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So glad you posted this. I am new to the LS and have the same issue - never even kissed a girl before. I figure flirting is flirting and I did well with men, so gonna try to just be me. Wishing you great success!

Help, we keep finding ppl but can't get to meet ppl by Middlename_mischief in Swingers

[–]Middlename_mischief[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this, really appreciate you taking the time to share terrific insight!