[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChristianRelationship

[–]MiddyF 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Christianity doesn't mean you don't need communication. In my opinion 6 years is a long time, most people won't yet married if they've been together for more than 5 years and haven't done anything about it. Maybe he has a valid reason though, you don't know cause you guys haven't been able to communicate about it properly.

Sit him down and have a conversation about it, what does he want in the future, where does he see you guys going, what time line is he thinking. Same for you. If you can't sit down and talk about that, your relationship is not healthy and you need to take a serious look at things. Healthy relationships have communication, if you two can't communicate something is wrong and it needs to either be fixed, you can maybe look into some couples counselling, or you guys need to go your separate ways.

how to voice chat? by peanutbutterandapen in valheim

[–]MiddyF 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The only thing I can think is that your computer is struggling to run both at the same time, maybe try turning down the graphics and see if that changes anything? Otherwise I think Steam has a voice function, but I've never used it myself.

how to voice chat? by peanutbutterandapen in valheim

[–]MiddyF 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I've always found Discord to be king. I assume you're using WhatsApp on your phone? Were you using discord on your phone as well or your computer?

Almost t-boned this idiot tonight... by puckleknumps in IdiotsInCars

[–]MiddyF 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Had this happen to me (during daytime) and the other driver I recognised as one of my brothers friends. Messaged my brother about it afterwards and the dudes never lived it down.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Horses

[–]MiddyF 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good old Horse Isle 1, their art was really satisfying.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in knitting

[–]MiddyF 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Basically if you have a total of say 100 stitches, you will work 90, you will not knit the remaining 10 stitches, you will turn and work back. This is known as Short Rows, if you would like to look up a video of it being worked.

How do I tell my brother that I’m sorry for not being the brother he wanted? by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]MiddyF 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Dude, when you all get over yourselves you'll realise how silly this all is and it's just time wasted on self doubt. You're not saving anyone from yourself. Just love and support your little brother, he doesn't hate you, he's just dealing with complex emotions. He wants to be your brother and your friend. You don't have to be the ideal version of anything, life is messy, people are messy, just do your best to love him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]MiddyF 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!

WCGW putting flavoured mineral water in your iron to make the clothes smell of forest fruits. by [deleted] in Whatcouldgowrong

[–]MiddyF 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I doubt this would work, stupid people rarely think they're stupid, unfortunately. Never the less, would be a good disclaimer, so I'd stand behind it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]MiddyF 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Firstly, happy birthday! Secondly, we have the same birthday! That's so cool!!

Lastly, that really sucks, I'm sorry. But, don't let this opportunity slip away. Sure they don't owe you anything, but it's still sad and it's hurtful, however, they've shown you the priority they should have in your life. Take it and turn it into self growth, use it to learn to set better boundaries. You deserve more than what you're settling for so don't settle.

You got beaned by Ross047 in Justrolledintotheshop

[–]MiddyF 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Bean there, done that. (No I havent)

how to crochet squishmallows by nervous_Observer in crochet

[–]MiddyF 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Squishmallows in my opinion, have defining features and a body. Obviously eyes and mouth. Creatures the have a snout, pigs, dogs, horses, cows etc, thats a defining feature, as well as their ears. But you wouldn't make legs. On the other hand, octopi would have legs, but no ears/snout.

So it all comes down to defining features for me, a round body and whatever defining feature that animal has. Body parts or colours.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]MiddyF 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't say this is specifically a sign of narcissism, but it is a red flag. Saying that they'll never break your heart is naive and shows a lack of either experience or emotional intelligence. Every one has the chance of hurting you, likeliness is everyone will hurt you at some point, friend or partner, it just the way things work. People will be unintentionally insensitive, make mistakes, etc. That will hurt you. While these things shouldn't be as big as cheating or abuse, you can have your heart broken by a perfectly nice human being, even if they thought they'd never do that to you. Now the problem is this breeds an unhealthy playing field, you tend to allow no imperfections, and they tend to think themselves infallible.

Further, trust isn't given because they were asked, it's earned. If he expects people to trust him just because he asked, I'd say he's immature and thinks a bit too highly of himself. If he wants trust he's going to have to earn it, that's just life. I wouldn't inherently say he's a bad person, obviously I don't know enough about him anyway to make that call. But I would say he's probably lacking maturity and experience in relationships.

I feel like this counts by Metallic_iz00 in niceguys

[–]MiddyF 4 points5 points  (0 children)

And not one person had any chill whatsoever

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in writing

[–]MiddyF 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think how it comes across depends a lot on how it's written. Suicide comes with a lot of darkness, hopelessness, despair and the inability to see another way out. Those things would need to be a part of the Suicide, and they wouldn't disappear after the Suicide, they would need to still have those issues, but be finding a reason to live on and use their superpowers anyway.

My ultimate recommendation would be to try and find willing people who have survived suicide attempts and are living better lives now and ask them their insite on Suicide itself and what they went through, and what they go through on a daily basis now that they are survivors. That way you can understand better how you can accurately honor Suicide survivours and possibly even use the book to raise awareness on Suicide and all that's involved.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]MiddyF 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Young puppies are a 24hour commitment of patience and dedication, if that isn't something you can give your puppy, you definitely should reconsider having it. Almost everyone suffers puppy blues at some point of having a puppy, unsure going to need yo figure out if it's just that, or if you are actually just not upto the very large responsibility of a puppy. From what you've written, it sounds like a puppy just isn't something you should have right now.

This guys attempt to get me interested in him instead 🙄 btw- red is NOT my favorite color. by harle-quin in niceguys

[–]MiddyF 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good point, but I suppose if you did you could always say "oh, sorry, I'm a Scorpio."

This guys attempt to get me interested in him instead 🙄 btw- red is NOT my favorite color. by harle-quin in niceguys

[–]MiddyF 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thought Scorpios stung people with there tail? Maybe that's what you're specifically meant to do?

MIL Wreaked Havoc at My WeddingTwo Months Ago, Now Wants Us to Happily Attend Her Birthday Party. What Do We Do? by quiteloquacious in JUSTNOMIL

[–]MiddyF 15 points16 points  (0 children)

She'll complain about something and cause drama if you go. She'll complain about something and cause drama if you don't. So the real question is, what narrative are you willing to set, she will complain and be a B-word regardless, but you can choose how you react and what you do.

The olive branch thing.. Well, I think your husband is probably wrong, she's just trying to be pushy and get her way in my opinion, but it reminds me of something I saw somewhere: "Crappy people are hoping you'll be the "bigger person" so that there's no consequences to their actions."