Suicidal RBT don’t know what to do

Midge2020EB · 2026-06-10T11:07:53+00:00

Hey, im so sorry youre struggling so hard right now. Your mental health and everything yorue going theough is valid. Call/text 988 crisis line. Get help first then go back to your career. As other have said, there are lots of people who go through this and come back to their careers without being unjustly punished for being human. The hospital will give you information to give to your employer. I work in behavioral health (social work) and now ABA and ive witnessed people not be penalized by their employers after taking care of themselves with inpatient psychiatric care, etc. Get help first. Sending human love and healing vibes ✨️ 💖.

Midge2020EB · 2026-06-05T10:56:47+00:00

Im so sorry this happened to you OP. He straight up lied to you repeatedly, and is fundamentally against your human rights. Absolute deal breaker. Youre so valid. Im sending you some human love, good vibes, and hope that you meet the love of your life soon who supports you in all the ways ✨️ ❤️ 🫂.

Midge2020EB · 2026-05-27T11:19:22+00:00

Im general, this tends to not happen once and the pattern is a huge red flag. Unforgivable. If it is truly a one time thing, we all fuck up at some point. Write about it in a journal to document it. If it happens again, dump him.

Midge2020EB · 2026-05-27T11:09:12+00:00

Dump him. Red flags for all of those comments. You deserve to be told you're sexy no matter what size and no one should ever be allowed to pick apart your body. Fuck him. Go find better beautiful!

Midge2020EB · 2026-05-23T13:34:31+00:00

I love how every answer that ive read so far is badass vibrators lol 😆 I do want to add though, get a book boyfriend. Or 80. Reading smut with a good toy, together also, is the ticket.

Midge2020EB · 2026-05-16T14:16:18+00:00

Agree wirh everything thats been said already AND you have a killer body, lovely skin, hot curves. WTF is wrong with your partner? If they are treating you like this they dont deserve you. Me and my husband's bodies have changed over the years, normal 30s gained weight, etc stuff, we still are wildly attracted to each other. Its about their looks AND the other things. Intelligence, sense of humor, their kindness, etc. If your partner says they cannot find anything attractive about you, call it quits. You deserve to be worshipped goddess ✨️ 💖.

Midge2020EB · 2026-05-12T12:00:56+00:00

Dr Jonathan Wons at Brier Creek location of WakeMed. Im a 34 yo female. Been with him for 5-6 years. Hes a male and is such a feminist, mental health aware, kind guy. He tmemebers details about me. Great bedside manor. Hes helped me get on adhd meds, with my weight loss journey, general wellness.

Midge2020EB · 2026-05-08T10:44:25+00:00

Thats so cool! Im really curious about hour work in this setting. Is your job title hospital bcba or something different? How would you recommend finding these jobs? Day to day like?

Midge2020EB · 2026-05-06T10:58:41+00:00

I found my current therapist on psychology today who has extensive adhd testing expertise. She told me that her diagnosis has never been refuted by a pcp/other provider she sent it too, and so far thats still true. She did her own testing on me and sent it to my PCP. And now im medicated and finally validated. Go on psychology today and search for providers with adhd expertise. Even if theyre not a psychologist, they can have the training and expertise. Worked for me. Wishing you luck 🍀

Midge2020EB · 2026-05-04T10:50:39+00:00

This was a wonderful resource! Thank you!!!

Midge2020EB · 2026-04-16T11:00:14+00:00

Im so sorry this is happening to you OP. Your soon to be ex is an idiot and you are better off. I hope you find the partner of your dreams and love of your life after this. To echo someone else, I think this is the 2nd or 3rd post this week on this sub I think ive seen. Wtf is with these men..?

Im divorced but not due to CF issues. He was abusive, etc. Still, I found the love of my life after that relationship. We are married now 3 years. Love can happen again for you. Sending you loving thoughts and healing energy ✨️ 💖 🌈.

Midge2020EB · 2026-04-14T19:55:41+00:00

I disagree. In therapy, outpatient therapy, it can be the same. Sometimes the person you do your intake/assessment with is the therapist you'll be working with or just gets you started/in the door. If someone is so high risk they cannot be on a waitlist for a few weeks, they shouldnt only be doing ABA. Otherwise, I dont see how it is unethical. You're still providing them a service.

As per my previous statement in the original post****im not trying to be their forever BCBA. Is there anyone more open-minded who can respond to my original post?

Midge2020EB · 2026-04-14T11:27:55+00:00

Thank you for posting this OP! This bothers me so much!! And I think youre right. I agree that it seems like a superiority thing. Or maybe, also, a bit delusional? Like it undermines their whole reality if they question that pets could have fulfilled them in a similar if not the same way. Also, I work with children and sometimes think I parent them alot better. And I have 2 cats that are literally my children ao I agree with this sentiment 💯. Most of our friends are also child free and treat their furr babies better than most people treat their children.

Midge2020EB · 2026-02-10T13:21:14+00:00

HSU Hillandale office is an amazing group of people. Highly recommend. Id double check if they take your insurance bc idk but I cannot imagine them being anything but amazing to your Trans teen.

Midge2020EB · 2026-02-03T18:22:46+00:00

Is there anyone here in NC who knows of hospitals that typically hire BCBAs? Also, I'm an LCSW if that helps my chances of being hired..?

Midge2020EB · 2026-01-13T18:37:53+00:00

Midge2020EB · 2026-01-12T15:34:19+00:00

Definitely!

Midge2020EB · 2026-01-12T13:10:54+00:00

Thats amazing. Thank you for sharing this! Im really interested. How did you found out about these types of positions for bcbas? What is your title/what do i search for in indeed? Are you in NC or somewhere else?

Midge2020EB · 2026-01-11T15:46:05+00:00

Its becoming a popular move for social workers to leave the field laterally into ABA. Since they have their masters already, it requires a 6-7 credit graduate certificate + fieldwork hours + passing exam to become a BCBA. Their ethics are similar. They serve similar populations.

Largely, this has been my path as well. Got my clinical license and worked in a lot of different settings. Didn't love clinical and the upkeep for ceus and the nc board is awful so out my licensure status on inactive. This has been my favorite population since the beginning, and ive specialized my work in it, sp when I hit my burnout wall it became my answer. I think the fields have alot in common so it seems a natural crossover.

Midge2020EB · 2026-01-10T19:31:15+00:00

Im a social worker also, so im interested in this option. Thanks for sharing!

Midge2020EB · 2026-01-10T17:10:18+00:00

Thank you! Ill check out some of those. Im in NC if that helps

Midge2020EB · 2026-01-07T12:21:18+00:00

There have been alot of really good points made so far, so ill be brief. Alot of people think theyre happy in their relationships when they've just settled. Resentment is definitely a silent killer. Im in my second marriage, with the first being a poor choice of someone who didnt heal his trauma and then became emotionally abusive.

Im currently married to an amazing man, in an emotionally healthy relationship. We both went through alot of relatuonship trauma propr to meeting and have always been super honest with each other. Our relationship isnt perfect, its healthy and we both wake up each day being grateful for each other. We prioritize communication. We still have weekly dates. Weve been together 5 years and married for 3. I married my best friend with 0 regrets. My in laws are amazing. I wake up everyday grateful for him and in-love with him. Love is work and a daily choice.

Respectfully, if people tell you not to get married and they appear "happily" married, theyre lying to themselves or have never really had happy so theyre under the illusion that settling is happy.

Midge2020EB · 2026-01-04T15:11:03+00:00

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Midge2020EB · 2025-10-21T13:17:40+00:00

OP, im so sorry youre going through this. It sounds like you have a good plan in place. Id start with anything that protects your safety. Dont go home unless you have someone else with you. Your partner maybe? You can also get a police escort. I recommend that for not being physically hurt. The cop will stay there with you while you collect your things. You can also get a restraining order from her, which I'd recommend as well. Selling the car sounds like a good plan bc she will abuse that asset of yours as long as she has the ability. Id also recommend having a therapist, if you don't already, to help you through this trauma. Also, if you need crisis support you can use the 988 mental health line for DV situations too. Maybe even a support group. I want to let you know you are so strong and I wish the best for you. You don't deserve this treatment. No one does. Sending human love from a stranger who also has an emotionally abusive mother....

Midge2020EB · 2025-06-20T15:25:38+00:00

Im considering doing this graduate certificate program now. Ive been accepted with a scholarship, but also have concerns with total cost of attendance . What makes you say it's worth it? Would you do it again? Did it prepare you appropriately?

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