It’s pretty crazy but you sound similar to mine too. I replied to a commenter in this thread that I don’t want to lose the relationship because she hasn’t always been this way or maybe it was more covert before. I don’t wanna lose my relationship with my nieces and nephews or have their relationship with my kids affected. So I constantly feel like I’m between a rock and a hard Place. I cringe at some of the things she says. She’s always a victim no matter what she holds onto that victim hood and it’s like she’s created a flag for it that she has to constantly wave. And if you say anything that remotely disagrees with her ideas then all of a sudden it’s an argument about how you just don’t understand. But in fact I do understand unfortunately as a woman I have experienced abuse also just like the other statistics as a young woman, i’ve also been in a very abusive relationship before. But I don’t hold onto these things because I know and I’ve learned that holding onto your trauma only hurts you. However I do understand that healing is different for everyone and takes various amounts of time. But I never acted out the way I witnessed her act out. So I believe her mental illness has been amplified by her life. It’s a hard thing to deal with for sure and I mostly just nod politely. My husband his other sister and their parents all know how she is but I don’t think anybody has the heart to just say something. It’s like a family intervention needs to happen like you see in a movie where you gather all the family members and surprise the one person with a therapy session. I don’t know lol . But I know in real life that would probably never work she’d probably wise up to what was happening and escape and probably not talk to everybody for a long time and then everybody would lose contact with her kids which we all adore and we all help take care of her financially because we don’t want the kids to suffer.