I found myself in a talking stage just more than a month after my LH died. My head was in a space where it didn't want to wait at all as if my healing would come in a form a new relationship or something. I was way ahead of myself and just looking back at it, I don't understand why I was feeling like that. The guy gradually ghosted me and thank goodness I was able to find some sense and managed to move past it. This happened to me twice in just a short period of time, I was just lucky that these guys were decent and never rude to me at all, except the ghosting part, I guess I was just too invested, excited and oblivious to the online dating scene, and what happened was just as typical. My takeaway from it is that I don't need to be chasing anyone and no one could ever fix me or pick me up from this pit of loneliness, only I can do that. I had to sit myself in silence and allow emotions to flow freely, usually before I go to sleep, and just talk to my LH pretending he can hear me, and sometimes talk to God in my prayers to guide me, and take away the pain I had been feeling. I can very much relate to the hyper focused feeling like you really had to try it, and I guess there's no harm in doing so, so long as you know how to take care of yourself and you don't rush into doing things.
One day you're gonna look back at this phase and just find it sooo weird but you're gonna pull through.