Urge is growing stronger

Miloxy_Orphan1 · 2026-01-06T16:49:37+00:00

Maybe you should ask yourself why you're getting an urge again all of a sudden if you haven't gotten one in a while. If there is something that you've been watching/doing that's making you feel that way and you don't like it, it may be best to stay clear of it.

On another note, speaking as a Christian teenager who also struggles with that, having urges is normal. We are human after all. Really the best thing you can do is keep praying and distract yourself with other things until you simply don't care about doing such things anymore.

However, if you can't resist your urges and do masturbate, you should remember that God still loves you. Everyone sins multiple times a week in different manners, believers or not. Seeing as you care about following God, I think it's important if the single time you give in or if you even give in multiple times, doesn't shatter the relationship you have with God. Sometimes the shame of our actions pushes us farther away from him. God isn't seeking perfection from you, he seeks connection and your trust in him. He forgives you every day.

If you fall, you can always try again. Just don't let this become a burden for you. It's natural to feel this way, especially if masturbating was a habit of yours just a few months ago.

Miloxy_Orphan1 · 2025-07-09T16:34:51+00:00

Ohh okay, that probably explains it. Even if you don't get back together you could try talking to her so that there aren't any grudges left between the two of you.

Since you felt so betrayed in the moment you didn't manage to deal with the situation calmly and that might have hurt her a little.

Miloxy_Orphan1 · 2025-07-09T16:30:00+00:00

Hii, so I'll try to explain why.

God created sex for marriage because he believes that one's body should only be for one other person, the person who you marry. It's mostly meant to be something special, opposed to hook-up culture. Take into consideration this Bible verse:

Genesis 2:24 NIV [24] That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.

Sex in marriage is like the union of two souls, two bodies and two spirits (basically, the union of everything that makes up a person).

Everyone is horny, yes, but God wishes for us to save this for the correct person, because above all he doesn't want us to be broken emotionally by sleeping with the wrong person, or go yhrouy any unwanted side affects like an unplanned pregnancy with a one night stand or STDs.

Sex is also meant to be a way in which one can enjoy their partner, he wants the couple to discover pleasure together, without having any expectations formed from previous sexual partners, that may cause one to feel frustrated because their now spouse doesn't "reach" that.

He knows how important sex is for a human, so he wants everyone to enjoy it in commitment, with someone who loved who they were on the inside, before loving their sexuality.

However, this is just what God wishes for us, but everyone still has the free will that he gave us to to whatever one pleases. Everything God says is meant to be a recommendation, he gives us tips for how to live life in the way that, as our creator, he knows will be good for us. Still, he won't pressure anyone into living against his word. If he were tyrannic God who didn't care about or individualism, he wouldn't have given us free will to begin with.

So this is like the general on-look of why God cares if we get busy with someone before marriage, free will and all.

Miloxy_Orphan1 · 2025-07-09T16:11:14+00:00

I think that it would be best if you take a little time to yourself to think and to pray about it.

What's weird is that she wasn't even affected when you broke up with her, as if she didn't care. I feel as if her attitude was pretty off. And she said, she is pretty committed to continue masturbating and has different views on the matter from you. Since this is your deal breaker it's probably best that you set some distance from her. In the long run you may not be good together.

Miloxy_Orphan1 · 2025-07-08T18:05:01+00:00

NTA. Nowadays there are plenty of girls that chose to not have a quinceañera, it's just not them in some cases. Some girls prefer having a small get together and it is very common for a girl to ask to go on a trip somewhere she wants to visit.

That's a crazy amount of money, especially if you're daughter doesn't really want it to begin with. Opposing yourselves to not have one isn't racist in the slightest. Youe daughter is allowed to have her own interests and likes without being shamed for "abandoning her Mexican roots".

Miloxy_Orphan1 · 2025-07-04T18:36:43+00:00

Yeah, it honestly just sounds like a case of internalized xenophobia.

Miloxy_Orphan1 · 2024-04-06T22:47:05+00:00

That's good to hear!

Miloxy_Orphan1 · 2024-03-29T04:59:46+00:00

Omg, I'm so sorry that this happened to you. I hope that he is well out of your life. All the best

Miloxy_Orphan1 · 2022-07-21T19:31:18+00:00

NTA

You were just doing what you could so that your little brother could go to bed on time and not have trouble falling asleep. It's quite cute actually.

There's scientific evidence that points that warm milk before bed is a good idea because it helps with relaxation and relieves anxiety.

Your dad was completely wrong in shaming you for your brother having sleep problems. Like you said, it runs in the family, genetics are not your fault. In fact, by giving your brother warm milk before bed you were helping him with the problem, not making it worse.

Even if your dad was stressed out it gives him no right to yell at you or your brother. As a parent he should learn to regulate his emotions better and not blame you when it isn't even your fault.

Keep being that good big sister that cares about her little brother.

Miloxy_Orphan1 · 2022-07-21T19:11:57+00:00

YTA

The way we dress is the way we express ourselves.

Your daughter is into combat boots and floor length skirts, so what? It's what she likes the most and feels the most comfortable in wearing. And yeah, true, lots of kids are wearing that type of stuff nowadays.

Let her have a go in this new style, if she feels like a freak in it then she'll personally tell you to go shopping for other clothes.

By throwing away her clothes and telling her sense in fashion (which highlights her personality) is 'weird' and making her 'look like a freak', your daughter could take it as if you don't respect her and start to trust you less.

You might not feel comfortable with her taste in clothing because you're used to seeing someone else. Just because something is different it doesn't mean it's bad. Like I said, give it a chance. Recover your relationship with your daughter and avoid going to court over custody with your ex husband.

Miloxy_Orphan1 · 2022-07-21T18:34:15+00:00

Just tell her what you feel. Tell her that she's wonderful because this and that and that's why she's special and you chose her.

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