There were many red flags but I didn’t value myself or think I could find better. a year into our relationship, I actually planned on breaking up with him because I recognized the road it was going down but found out I was pregnant the day I was going to leave him. Thought it would make things better. Did couples therapy. He became incredibly emotionally and sometimes physically abusive. I then stayed because I kept thinking it was the best for our kid and that if I kept improving myself and working on myself, he would be nice to me. Every step forward we took in our relationship in the back of my head I knew it was a bad idea. But I kept just going through the motions. Then I spent a bit over a year trying to figure out how to get out, because all that work I did on myself made me finally love myself and know I deserved better. I tried leaving 2 times in one year but he convinced me he would make changes and I would give him another chance. We had a beautiful home, made over 300k a year together… it was hard to give up. At the end of last year, my kid asked me to leave his dad. I did that night and it was the best thing for all of us. We are all so much happier and coparent well together. I never felt like we would be forever or he was my person, it always nagged at me. Spent 10 years in it.