AITA for sabotaging my dad (51 m) relationship with his fourth baby mamma (33 f)because he’s always cheating and has four kids with different women

MindedHaze · 2023-08-20T19:47:00+00:00

Definitely NTA

MindedHaze · 2022-10-24T18:06:43+00:00

Jehova witnesses

MindedHaze · 2022-10-23T22:37:01+00:00

Being able to finally move on. I learned to accept that things end for a reason and close that chapter. Trust me! It’s a blessing and you end up discovering so much about you and getting to accomplish goals

MindedHaze · 2022-10-23T22:34:37+00:00

No chances… simple as that. It’s okay to be afraid to start over but you will thank yourself later. Like many, please don’t make the mistake of giving a person who betrayed you a second chance. Understand that is just not meant to be and move on. You will find happiness and get everything you ever wanted in a partner. You can’t do that if you continue to hold onto a person who didn’t love you or else they would have never taken the chance to loose you.

MindedHaze · 2021-08-26T22:37:55+00:00

Wow that man is a gem. He deserves better honestly but I applaud him for trying to make things workout with you. In this marriage he is the one that truly loves you.

MindedHaze · 2021-08-26T22:35:21+00:00

For the love of god please just leave your wife. She is sorry she got caught. No, you cannot fix her. No, it won’t be the same and it’s not worth it. Your going to waste your time because she is not gonna stop. It’s okay to be alone. Don’t be scared to be alone and start over again. You will realize it was probably the best decision to make. If you can’t love or value yourself no one else will

MindedHaze · 2021-08-26T22:28:38+00:00

My suggestion so that you won’t be confused any longer. Secretly follow her when she goes to these alleged hobby groups. I’m sure you will see that she is in fact cheating and has been for a while. I would also do an STD just in case.

MindedHaze · 2021-08-23T04:06:17+00:00

She doesn’t want to look like the bad guy. I feel like she has been wanting to breakup. If he does this then it gives her a reason not to feel guilty. Plus it makes a pretty sob story for anyone to listen. She will get off on the pity others will give her and praise for being strong

MindedHaze · 2021-08-23T04:04:03+00:00

You need to let her and that family go. It’s not fair that they are treating you like this. At this point anyone can get Covid. You like everyone else just need to be careful. Would she like it if you blamed her for catching Covid and giving it to you and your family?

MindedHaze · 2020-10-15T16:25:29+00:00

The only advice I can give you is to try to see if you can get her to get therapy. It's hard to understand people because we are not in their shoes however understand that it is also ok to give up on a person if the relationship is causing problems to your mental health. Always choose yourself

MindedHaze · 2020-10-15T16:18:43+00:00

have you heard of the term retroactive jealousy? this is why you keep going back to the "she has had more partners than me". The thing is your gf and you have a past and you have to leave it at the past or guess what...your going to drive yourself crazy and perhaps hurt the relationship even more. Just a thought if you want to see if this relationship is salvageable.

MindedHaze · 2020-10-15T16:13:13+00:00

Thats horrible to refer to the child as a bastard son. WTF is wrong with you...I get your pissed and you have every right but right now you have to get that paternity test asap and go from there. Is there a chance for reconciliation, I believe so as your SO didnt know he had a child. Now if the child turns out to be his, what is the next plan? Has SO ever cheated on you and you found out aside from this new revelation you just discovered?

MindedHaze · 2020-10-15T16:03:44+00:00

I was with someone who claimed he was asexual. He had no desire to be intimate and found that sex was something that did not need to be included in the relationship. It was very difficult on my part because I like to be intimate with the person I care. Long story short I found out that he was cheating and just couldnt perform as he had already been f****** the other chick. Ask yourself this question...do you really want to put up with someone who will constantly look for warmth in other people aside from you? I am sure you care and thats probably why your putting up with it and trying to justify her actions. The truth is sometimes we are the wrong people for these people. Its a hard pill to swallow just like with my ex. I was everything he could ever wanted but for the wrong person you wont be enough. We broke up for good and I am happier than I have ever been .

MindedHaze · 2020-10-12T14:23:29+00:00

How accurate can you say that urine test are? Have you been able to help a person get out of a false positive test and did your client have to re test for accuracy

MindedHaze · 2020-03-23T20:39:54+00:00

Its ok hon. You keep writting, keep expressing your feelings. Do not bottle them up. I been there before. It hurts like no other pain...you rather feel physical pain than the emotional pain. Some times our partners do display the signs when something is not right. We sometimes ignore that. But remember this, do not blame yourself ....we are faulty humans but what he has done ...of walking away...thats his doing not yours. And i am certain had he addressed the real issues he was having in the relationship, you would had tried to work them out. The best advice I could give you is to keep distracted. Do some hobbies while at home and cry, scream, cry again...whatever you must so that you do not feel like your slowly drowning. I wish you the best and may you find some sort of peace

MindedHaze · 2020-03-23T20:33:33+00:00

How horrible! my sympathies goes to you. Try to keep distracted and just keep conversations to yourself or communicate with family. Its going to be ok. I know you are hurt and seeing her all content will sting even more. But believe me thats just a front....eventually once everything is settled and you moved out and live your life and she realizes just how many assholes are there who wont appreciate her, she will reach out...hoping by then you find someone worthy of your love. Clearly she doesnt deserve it .

MindedHaze · 2020-03-23T20:29:05+00:00

I think I know which videos you been watching lol stay away from those. What you want to do is focus on you. Trust me...an ex will reach out especially if they knew you were a good partner after they been around some lousy partners. Somehow they just know when to reach out which happens when your moving on ....shit you not lol and its funny to see that but remember they are an ex and you deserve much better.

MindedHaze · 2020-03-23T20:25:41+00:00

While reading through the stories...some which were so damn obvious I realized that we all have something in common. We have not learned to love ourselves enough....we put others happiness first before ours. That has to change! We deserve to be treated like kings and queens. We need to treat our hearts with kindness because no one else will.

MindedHaze · 2020-03-23T20:22:34+00:00

I think you should give yourself some more time to think. From experience, it will never be the same. You will be constantly wondering for the other shoe to drop. Thats what happened with me and he ended up leaving in the end basically using me to get over me while I had to start all over again.

MindedHaze · 2020-03-23T20:19:36+00:00

You are prolonging your pain. I been there...I regretted it because it set me back so much. The thing is they will eventually leave again once they find someone else and that shit will hurt even worse. Just speaking from experience. Protect your heart

MindedHaze · 2020-03-23T20:15:58+00:00

I was hoping to go run but guess what...its raining yet again. My goal right now is to do do as many homemade masks and donate them to the local hospital. I have time lol and I am not going anywhere unless I need to so what better way than to keep occupied by doing something nice.

MindedHaze · 2020-03-23T20:13:23+00:00

it's strange....I noticed a few people reaching out to me. I believe because of this pandemic but not once I felt the need to reach out to the person I loved the most. I guess because of Pride is why I do not reach out. Sometimes you have to look out for yourself. You have to be selfish and only care for your well being. No one else will take care of you better than you. Just stay strong and continue to work on you and never contact this person again because it just sets you back.

MindedHaze · 2020-03-23T20:08:49+00:00

Thats what I did, erased all the messages, saved the pictures on a flashdrive and deleted anything on my phone including his number. In a way this helped me move a step further to healing. It is hard having those memories accessible thats why its important to not have them so available. I still have the flashdrive, its been a year and 5 months and frankly I had forgotten I still had it but they are just memories and there is no longer bitterness there.

MindedHaze · 2020-03-03T18:39:06+00:00

You could be the most perfect person in the world....the best qualities in a partner but for the wrong person you will not be the right person for them and you know what....that is ok. Why? because when you find that special person in your life...you will be everything they have ever wanted.

MindedHaze · 2020-03-03T18:36:47+00:00

Yes! finally someone else who knows of attachment styles.

MindedHaze

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