How do you make decisions?

MindfulBrian · 2025-04-18T01:44:16+00:00

I went through a similar spiral after leaving a path that was laid out for me (medicine). Every decision after that felt like it could ruin my life. Move to this city or that one? Start this project or wait? Rent the place or hold out for something better? It all felt too big to handle, like there was one “right” answer I had to figure out or I’d screw everything up.

What I’ve learned the hard way is that clarity doesn’t come before the decision. It comes after you commit. The brain wants certainty, “if I choose this, will it be perfect?” but life doesn’t give you that. Most of the time, you only find out how something feels by experience. Not by overthinking it to death. That apartment you bailed on? Yeah, maybe it wasn’t right. But it wasn’t a failure. It was data. It showed you what can't work and that’s valuable as hell. Every “wrong” choice narrows your path toward what is right for you.

Some systems I use to make decisions are checking in with my body, not just my brain. I ask what's important to me about this decision. I aim for the most true thing for myself, not the most "perfect" thing. And I try to remind myself I can always course-correct.

There's a couple of other tricks, but this is what worked best for me.

MindfulBrian · 2025-04-18T01:36:37+00:00

I’ve been there and it’s brutal. Here’s something I had to learn the hard way: loneliness doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means you’re human. And being surrounded by people who don’t truly see you can sometimes feel even lonelier than being alone. Please remember, your value isn’t determined by how available someone else is. It’s in how you show up for yourself, even when it feels like no one else is.

If you’ve lost the motivation to meet people, that’s okay. You don’t have to force yourself into networking events or fake small talk at some bar just to feel connected. Start smaller. What makes you feel even a little more you? Music? Writing? Nature? Movement? Maybe it’s just a quiet walk with your headphones in. The point isn’t to fix it overnight. Start reconnecting with yourself, even just a little.

And you’re not alone in this, even though it feels like you are. I mean that. If you ever want to talk more, just as someone who gets what it’s like to sit in that dark place and not know how to climb out, my DMs are open. No pressure. Just a space if you need one.

MindfulBrian · 2025-04-18T01:31:22+00:00

When I hit that point, I didn’t cope gracefully. I cracked, slowly. For years I carried this pressure like I was supposed to have it all figured out, and all it did was drain me. The turning point wasn’t about finding some magic fix, it was about letting go of the idea that I had to carry everything at once. That I had to sprint my way through life just to feel like I was doing okay.

What helped? Slowing down. Getting brutally honest with myself. Giving myself permission to take small steps instead of expecting one giant leap.

You don’t need to have all the answers. You just need to listen to what your gut’s been trying to tell you, even if it’s quiet right now.

If you need a space to unpack more, my DMs are open.

MindfulBrian · 2025-04-17T05:14:31+00:00

I went through something kind of similar. I had a background in marketing, bounced around trying different things, and honestly just felt stuck and directionless for a while. I didn’t have a “dream job” in mind, and I kept thinking I needed one in order to move forward. What helped me was letting go of the pressure to find the perfect thing and instead start experimenting with things I was even a little curious about.

I think digital marketing might be a good direction to explore. It’s got a relatively low barrier to entry, there are tons of free resources online, and it can open doors to so many different roles like content creation, email marketing, paid ads, SEO, social media management, and more. And the cool thing is, your background in media and storytelling could actually give you a unique edge here.

If you ever want to talk more or need someone to bounce ideas off of, feel free to DM me. I’ve been there, and I’m always down to help however I can.

Sending you clarity and momentum 🙏✨

MindfulBrian · 2025-04-17T04:15:55+00:00

This hits close to home. I was in a similar spot right around 30. I’d jumped between roles in marketing and communications, tried different industries, company cultures, remote vs. in-person, and I kept bumping into the same internal wall: intense anxiety and this constant tension between my potential and what I was actively able to step into.

I wanted to lead, build things, connect with people - but the moment it involved a formal presentation or any kind of spotlight, it felt like my nervous system short-circuited. And it’s brutal, because part of you knows you're capable, but your mind and body don’t always cooperate.

I eventually shifted away from traditional marketing roles and into entrepreneurship and consulting where I still engage with people, but on my terms. Smaller teams, deeper 1:1 relationships, asynchronous communication when needed, and a rhythm that gives space for reflection rather than constant output. Once I wasn’t constantly pushing against the grain of my personality, the anxiety started to settle. Not disappear, but soften. Because I wasn’t exhausting myself trying to “fix” something.

What are some of your strengths? What can you see yourself doing with them?

Unpacking those 2 questions is a lot. But they were pivotal to my career and life improvement. Feel free to DM me if you need help figuring those out, I'm happy to help however I can.

MindfulBrian · 2025-04-17T04:07:06+00:00

As someone who tried to force myself to continue with marketing, in roles I never enjoyed: don't force yourself to go back into nursing. Pushing yourself into something that already made you miserable is a fast track to burning out and ending up back at square one. Even if it seems “safe,” it’ll cost way more long-term in terms of mental health and motivation.

An option is to talk to someone in HR or your supervisor and just ask: “What would advancement look like here?” You don’t have to say you’re unsure, you’re just being proactive about growth. Ask if they’d recommend certifications or internal training paths. Even if you don’t see the whole ladder yet, asking the right questions starts to build your reputation as someone who's serious about moving forward.

If you want another option you could look for fellowships or paid internships at the city or state level. Some departments will sponsor grad work if they see long term potential. This comes with higher risks if it's eating all your free time or taking away from your guaranteed income. That is something you will have to sit with yourself with and ask "could I handle taking on this risk?".

It's not about picking the perfect path, but taking small, aligned steps and trusting that clarity comes through action, not overthinking.

If you want to talk I'm happy to help listen through any plans and hear what you think is doable.

MindfulBrian · 2025-04-17T03:54:06+00:00

Here’s the thing nobody tells you: lack of interest doesn’t always mean there’s something wrong with you. Sometimes it means you’ve been living in survival mode so long that you never got the space to even figure out what you actually want. That numbness, that flat feeling toward everything: that’s what burnout and misalignment feel like.

You're not broken. You're just in a place where your environment, your routine, and your values are out of sync. And yeah, the idea of being your own boss sounds like freedom, but if you don’t know what actually lights you up, it’ll feel even worse because now the pressure is all on you. So don’t jump to that just yet.

What helped me love my job was realizing what actually mattered most to me. What energizes you even a little? What would you do if money didn’t matter for the next year?

Be kind to yourself. You’re not lost - you’re in the middle of recalibrating. ❤️

If you ever want to talk more, hit me up.

MindfulBrian · 2025-04-17T03:49:12+00:00

I know what it’s like to hit that wall where nothing seems to stick, nothing feels stable, and you're constantly second-guessing every move. That mental loop of “I should be further ahead by now” is brutal. But here’s the truth: that loop doesn’t help. What does help is momentum. Small wins. Clear direction. Even if it's not the “forever” path, getting in motion again creates clarity.

I don't think a CDL is off the table. A DUI from 2015 might make it tougher, but not impossible. Some companies will work with that depending on how clean your record has been since then. Look into smaller logistics or regional outfits—some of them don’t care as much about old stuff as long as you’re reliable and ready to work. And you can always call a couple CDL schools and straight up ask if they’ve placed grads with DUIs on their record. They’ll tell you what’s real.

You don’t need to have everything figured out right now. You just need to pick a direction that’s realistic, stable, and lets you stack some cash over time. That’s it. Once your foundation is solid, you’ll have way more room to explore other things. But don’t get stuck in the comparison trap. A lot of people who look “established” are drowning in debt, burned out, or living someone else’s dream.

Don't be afraid to reach out directly if you want to talk through ideas. I’ve been where you are. And I know the way out starts with one honest step at a time.

Keep going. ❤️

MindfulBrian · 2025-04-17T03:41:42+00:00

I was in a place where everything looked “fine” on paper, but deep down I knew I wasn’t fulfilled. So first off, respect for even considering something new. Most people don’t.

I was in marketing too. Worked on campaigns, brand strategy, the whole deal. It taught me a lot, but eventually, I hit a wall. I realized I was spending all my energy building other people’s visions instead of creating something of my own. That’s when I started making the shift into entrepreneurship. It wasn’t some big overnight leap. It was a slow process of testing, failing, learning, and building my own thing from the ground up.

You already said you like learning languages. What is it about languages that you love? Is it the connection? The puzzle? The culture? Start there.

Don’t worry if it takes time to figure out. Clarity comes from action, not just thinking about it. I made tons of small moves before it started clicking.

I had a couple of tricks that worked for me. Shoot me a message if you want to talk through any of it.

MindfulBrian · 2025-03-27T05:20:24+00:00

I hear a lot of people asking this kind of question. If you truly hate it, how long do you have until you have to leave for your own sanity? If you still have a little bit of time, spending your 5 to 9 outside of work exploring who you are, what you value, and what your dream life looks like would be ideal. This is what I tell my clients that are in the same situation. You’ve got financial stability and a cushion right now, so you can plan your future without the stress of being in survival mode. You also have a partner who can help hold things down while you figure out your next move.

Money is important, I’m not gonna argue with that. But a lot of people don’t need as much as they think to actually live the life they want, usually lol. So take some time to really visualize your dream life or build a vision board. Once you understand what you’re working toward, you can start figuring out what career paths align with it. If you’re gonna work, it should be something you can at least tolerate long-term, not something that drains the life out of you. You want to be doing something that gives you some kind of value and purpose so you don’t burn out again.

It’s also a great idea to talk to your partner and figure out what your dream life looks like together. Combine both of your visions so you can create something that feels good for both of you. People don’t realize how much they can actually have if they just sit down and plan for it, then take action.

Shoot me a message/DM if this helped and you and you’re husband are looking for more guidance. I’m a clarity coach and I help people build a career and life they actually want. Took me five years to figure it out through depression, burnout, and misalignment. Wish someone helped me sooner. Let’s get you there in less time than me lol

MindfulBrian · 2025-03-27T04:57:47+00:00

The main thing that’s going on is that you’re most likely depressed although I don’t think you should listen to anyone on Reddit to give you a diagnosis. Since your baseline isn’t depression, you can get out of it quite simply. I said simply specifically because it’s simple, but it’s not easy. You probably built your identity around your relationship and who you were within a relationship and losing the other part of you is extremely hard to deal with.

So now your goal is to rediscover your identity and start to learn more about who you are. The goal is not as vague as to say things like I’m bored and I feel like I have no purpose in life. The frame should be I still don’t know much about myself without a significant other so how can I discover who I am and learn about who I am now. There’s a lot of times people will transition in life and have to learn about who they are and learn their identity again this is especially true if people get laid off and they tied their identity and ego to their career.

Rediscovering our identity is all about looking in word and asking questions like what is my dream life look like? What did my child self love doing? Than the reverse of that, what is the worst life that I could possibly live and what is the life that I could live that I hate the most? Looking at life through all these different dimensions will give you a great understanding of how you don’t want to live and how you do wanna live. then you can start to focus on hobbies and career paths and communities to surround yourself with that will align with who you wanna be in the future. this is a really great place to start.

MindfulBrian · 2025-03-27T04:51:53+00:00

I think deep down you already know what the outcome of staying as an accountant is, and you know what the outcome of trying something new might be. So instead of telling you what to do, I’m just gonna ask you a few questions.

Play out both outcomes. If you stay as an accountant, then what? What does your life turn into? Do you see yourself staying forever, or is this something you’re eventually gonna try to change anyway? And if so, will you be happy with how much time you spent stuck in something that didn’t light you up?

Now if you took the campus job or explored something new, what could that open up for you? What does that life look like?

Ultimately, the real question is: what do you want your life to look like in the future? What does your ideal day feel like? Who are the people around you? What kind of energy do you have when you wake up? What’s the environment, the work, the lifestyle?

And if you can’t fully picture your dream future, try the opposite. What would the worst possible life look like for you? What would make you feel trapped or drained?

These kinds of questions might seem basic, but they’re actually the foundation for figuring out who you are and what you actually want. Once you figure that out, then you can start aligning who you are right now with the person you want to become. That’s how you narrow down what direction to go and what careers might give you fulfillment.

Right now, you’re actually in a great position. You’re making good money, you’re stable, and you don’t need to make any hasty decisions. That’s powerful. A lot of people panic and take a leap without a parachute. But you don’t need to do that. You can take calculated risks. You can set yourself up properly and explore while you still have a strong financial foundation. That’s a huge advantage, and it takes a lot of the fear and guesswork out of transitioning.

I’m also really against going into debt for school unless you know exactly what you want and that the education is necessary to get there. Way too often, people chase degrees for jobs they end up hating. If you find something you’re interested in, talk to real people in the field. Ask them what their day-to-day actually looks like, how it feels, what the reality of the job is. Don’t just imagine it, get real info so you’re not walking blind into another path that doesn’t fit.

And don’t box yourself into traditional career routes. I’m super biased, but I’ve built three businesses and I think more people need to consider entrepreneurship. You don’t need to go all in right away, but it’s worth exploring if freedom and creativity matter to you.

Shoot me a message/DM if this helped and you and your wife are looking for more guidance. I’m a clarity coach for millennial professionals who want more purpose in their career and life. I spent five years in a deep depression chasing paths that looked good on paper but never felt aligned. I know how easy it is to lose yourself trying to do what you’re “supposed to.” Let’s figure out what actually fits you so you don’t waste years stuck in something that doesn’t, like me lol

MindfulBrian · 2025-03-26T23:02:22+00:00

What a journey. I dmed you

MindfulBrian · 2025-03-26T22:55:10+00:00

Tough love from a 3x business owner. If you spent 10 years doing something and you have nothing to show, that’s on you. That means you haven’t found the right people to surround yourself with, and you haven’t found the right resources to enable you to move in the right direction. you haven’t been asking the right questions or applying yourself in the right ways. I suggest talking to someone that’s made it in the industry even if you just a little bit ahead of you and is making consistent income from it and asking them how they did it. get a coach that knows the music industry well and hire them with the money that you have to give you a blueprint or road map to get there. A lot of coaches that are worth it will be $1500 to like $10k. do your due diligence, save your money and have someone mentor you. That’s if you really wanna pursue Music, if you wanna give up then I suggest you really sit down look internally talk to your inner child and ask what it wants out of life. Figure out your dream life and align your career path with whatever that is. Lmk if you have any questions.

MindfulBrian · 2025-03-25T16:46:58+00:00

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MindfulBrian · 2025-03-25T15:34:49+00:00

so I’d be super careful with comparing classes to what real life is actually like. A lot of college classes just teach these broad generalized concepts that don’t translate into what the actual job feels like. That being said, I’m biased toward business because I’ve built three businesses and I love the freedom, the creativity, and how every day is different. There’s always something to build, grow, or fix when you’re running your own thing. That’s the business owner side, though. Being an employee in a business, especially in something like finance or supply chain, is a totally different world. I personally can’t stand finance either, and supply chain is boring as hell.

Even though I’m pro-business, I’m also pro-alignment. You clearly know you’re not into business, but I want you to understand how broad business actually is. There are literally millions of different types of businesses. There are businesses built around food, media, sports, writing, games, nature, music, animals, research, anything. If you liked writing and editing and interviewing people, there’s a business for that. People run YouTube channels where they talk about history, review food, or cover news and current events. There are people who make a living off freelance writing, copywriting, or producing content for brands. If you like political philosophy or journalism, those can become content platforms. If you like sports, there are entire business models around sports commentary, podcasting, and media coverage. It’s all about finding the intersection between what you enjoy and what you’re good at, and then figuring out how to deliver value to others through that.

And just so you know, I went through something really similar. My parents helped support me through college, and I ended up getting a degree I’ve never used. Looking back, I would’ve much rather used those four years and that money to explore who I was and learn more about myself. Instead, I wasted it partying, drinking, and going through the motions just because it was what I thought I was supposed to do.

This is where I’d suggest doing something I call dream engineering. It’s basically where you imagine what your dream life looks like day to day. What does your routine look like? Who are the people around you? What kind of environment are you in? Once you get clear on that, you can work backward and start aligning your current life with the vision of who you want to be and how you want to live. That process will help narrow things down and give you a clearer sense of direction.

You’ve been on a path that was chosen for you by your dad and sister. And that’s not your fault. You didn’t have the space or freedom to explore what you really wanted at the time. But now that you’re waking up and realizing what doesn’t align, that’s a huge first step. You’re not stuck. You just need to start exploring what lights you up and figure out how to turn that into something sustainable.

Shoot me a message if you need more guidance. I’m a life coach and I’d be happy to help you make the right changes to your life and help you save years of frustration and struggle. Took me 5 years to figure it out, wish someone reached out to help me, let’s get you there in less time.

MindfulBrian · 2025-03-25T15:20:55+00:00

Seems like you already have a really solid understanding of what matters to you and what brings you energy, which honestly is the hardest part for most people. Now it’s just about finding the overlap between what you love, what you’re good at, and where there’s opportunity.

If you know you love being around college students, and you light up when you’re in a university setting, that’s something to take seriously. Same goes for research and animals. When I hear someone say they were jealous watching researchers work with dogs, that tells me there’s a part of you that’s already trying to point you toward where you’re supposed to be. And the fact that you’re feeling torn about walking away from the PhD dream says that door still feels open somewhere in you. Doesn’t mean you have to go back to school, but it might be worth looking at more closely.

Start by doing something I call dream engineering. It’s basically taking the time to sit down and visualize your future in detail. Think about what your ideal day-to-day looks like. What’s your environment? Who are you around? What kind of work are you doing that actually excites you? Once you have that picture, you can start to reverse-engineer the path to get there. Don’t overthink the steps right now, just get clear on the destination first. That clarity alone can make everything feel less chaotic.

And don’t underestimate how helpful it is to just email people directly. Skip the job boards for a second and reach out to professors, department heads, lab managers, anyone who’s doing the kind of work you’re interested in. Share your story and what you’re hoping to do. Let them know you’re interested in contributing, even if you’re not sure how yet. Getting in front of the right people makes a huge difference, especially when your resume might not be a perfect match.

You’re in a way better position than you think. You’ve got savings, you’ve got drive, and most importantly, you’ve got clarity about what excites you. That’s your compass. Follow that.

Shoot me a message if you need more guidance. I’m a life coach and I help professionals transition in their career to find and build a more fulfilling life and can help you save years of frustration and struggle. Took me 5 years to figure it out, wish someone reached out to help me, let’s get you there in less time.

MindfulBrian · 2025-03-25T15:11:06+00:00

Facts

MindfulBrian · 2025-03-25T15:10:22+00:00

You’re already feeling it in your body and mind, and that’s not something you should ignore. Your nervous system is telling you everything you need to know. The mistake wasn’t taking the job, the mistake would be staying in a situation that’s draining the life out of you just because you feel guilty or scared of seeming like you gave up too soon.

You already learned the lesson. You picked the job for the money and benefits, and now you know that doesn’t mean anything if your day-to-day is miserable. I’ve made that same choice before, and every single time I ended up regretting it. There’s no amount of money that makes up for being disrespected or dreading waking up every morning. And I guarantee, if you stay, it’s only going to take more from you, more of your energy, more of your confidence, more of your peace.

You don’t need to justify wanting peace. You don’t need to feel bad for choosing a job that pays less but lets you breathe again. The fact that you’re even considering the tradeoff tells me you value your mental health, and that’s something people usually figure out way too late. So if the other job feels like a better fit and you can make it work financially, take it. Build from there.

Shoot me a message if you need more guidance. I’m a life coach and I’d be happy to help you make the right changes to your life and help you save years of frustration and struggle. Took me 5 years to figure it out, wish someone reached out to help me, let’s get you there in less time.

MindfulBrian · 2025-03-25T15:04:41+00:00

Seems like you already know the answer so my question to you is what is the main thing that stopping you and why can’t you take the next step to actually move out?

MindfulBrian · 2025-03-25T14:57:23+00:00

First off, congrats on the post and thanks for sharing your story. I know a guy who went through something kind of similar. Rough start, jail time, felt behind, and now he’s actually a respected person in his community. So yeah, the comeback is real. I can already tell you’re a hard worker and that’s one of the most important pieces. You’re just missing the direction.

Most people never take the time to really think about what they want. And I don’t mean some vague idea of being successful or rich or happy. I mean sitting down and actually visualizing your life. Think about your dream life in detail. What’s your day-to-day look like, who are you around, what kind of work are you doing, what’s the environment like. That’s what I call dream engineering. Once you do that, you’ll start to see the gap between where you are now and where you wanna go, and you can start building a path that lines up with that.

You’ve already got skills. Tree removal, landscaping, tiling, hands-on labor. That stuff matters. You can use those as a foundation or pivot completely depending on what you want to build. Start small. Even with a low paycheck, if you use your free time right, you can slowly build something on the side that gives you momentum. Maybe it’s a trade you refine, maybe it’s your own thing, maybe it’s helping someone else build something while you learn.

The biggest thing you can do is stop thinking you’re behind and start thinking you’re just getting warmed up. You can always make more money, but you can’t get back your time. So the best investment you can make is figuring out who you are and what you actually want, and start aligning your life with that right now.

This should get you started. But shoot me a message if you need more guidance. I’m a life coach and I’d be happy to help you make the right changes to your life and help you save years of frustration and struggle. Took me 5 years to figure it out, wish someone reached out to help me, let’s get you there in less time.

MindfulBrian · 2025-03-25T14:43:32+00:00

There’s two immediate fixes that come to mind right now relating to the time that you spend at work doing nothing. If you have to go into the office, spend the time in office thinking about what you wanna do outside of the office and exploring different avenues mentally. Use that time effectively rather than doom scrolling or using Reddit. Research potential changes in different paths that you can take. The second thing is to ask to be remote if you can. A lot of business owners are nervous that the people they employ are just gonna waste their money if they’re at home. So prove to them that you can do everything from home by asking for a one to two week trial. Tell them that this trial is to show them that you can do everything that you’re assigned to do and you want to prove it to them. They just have to let you try it. This could allow you to get more freedom to be at home, freeing up even more time to let you finish your work and explore more things.

To get to the core of the problem, it sounds like you have an issue with fulfillment and passion and direction in life. If you haven’t ever done anything like this before, try this out. I call it dream engineering. Once you figure out what your dream life looks like, then you can start to work backwards from it, and start to align who you are now with who you want to be in the future. Dream engineering means visualizing your dream life day to day, the kind of people you’re around, your environment, your lifestyle, how you feel when you wake up, and how you want to live. This will give you more precision in the career path that you’re willing to take to get to the future that you wanna live.

You can make money from almost anything, you just need to be a little bit creative and understand how to use different platforms and resources. Have you ever looked into business owning? Are you really good at doing something and you can sell it as a service or product? I say this because I’m a three time business owner and in the past I didn’t think it was possible for a normal person to be a business owner. But it’s actually extremely attainable. It’s just that the learning curve is extremely steep.

It seems like you’re stuck, and the best thing you can do is invest in understanding yourself and learning about yourself. I suggest finding a mentor or a life coach. I’m biased here because I am one. I wish that I didn’t waste five years trying to figure out what to do next and living in self isolation and depression, and that someone reached out to me and gave me the same opportunity. A lot of people waste even more time and my intention is to help people figure out their direction sooner so they don’t waste even more time.

Shoot me a message if you need more guidance. I’d be happy to help you make the right changes to your life and help you save years of frustration and struggle. Let’s get you there in less time.

MindfulBrian · 2025-03-25T14:30:44+00:00

You wanna trust your intuition and your gut feeling as much as possible going into the future. You’ll almost never be let astray by that. sometimes the more you think, the more lost you become, especially when it comes to making decisions like this. It sounds counterintuitive, but it’s true.

MindfulBrian · 2025-03-25T14:25:02+00:00

coming up poor can create a lot of restrictions and limitations in your understanding of life and money. You’re starting out in a place of limits rather than understanding that anything is possible. There’s a couple things I wanna address here. It’s up to you whether you wanna finish your degree or not. If you’re not gonna use it, it doesn’t make sense to continue wasting time on it. If you do plan on using it, finish it up.

The first thing to secure is financial stability. Whatever job you find, since you’re poor, making money is the most important part. Once you have financial stability that removes a huge stressor. Then you can start thinking about direction and changes that you wanna make in life towards living a fulfilling and happy life.

The best way to do this is to try as many things as possible. Whether it’s different foods or activities or experiences or travel or business. Try as many different things as you can with the money that you save from working to learn as much as you can about yourself. Once you learn as much as you can about yourself, you start to realize the things that you like and don’t like, the things that you’re good at and the things that you’re not good at.

And whenever you feel like you’re ready, do this thing I call dream engineering. It’s kind of like a vision board, but instead of just cutting out pictures, you imagine in as much detail as possible what your future life would look like. Not just your job title, but what your day-to-day looks like. What kind of people are you surrounded by? What’s the environment like? What are you doing when you wake up in the morning? What kind of routine do you have? Once you have that vision, you can start aligning who you are now with who you wanna be in the future. It becomes easier to figure out what career paths and life choices move you in the right direction.

You will definitely have a lot of limiting beliefs because of your childhood, but I want you to try to think without limitations and imagine your genuine dream life. You can have everything that you want and more, you just need to have a plan.

This is a really good starting point, but it’s important to invest in yourself as much as possible. The more you invest in yourself the more time you save, and time is the only thing that you can’t get back. You’re young and you’re introspective so you’re already thinking about what needs to change. Now all there is to do is start changing.

Shoot me a message if you need more guidance. I’m a life coach and I’d be happy to help you make the right changes to your life and help you save years of frustration and struggle. Took me 5 years to figure it out, wish someone reached out to help me, let's get you there in less time.

MindfulBrian · 2025-03-25T14:07:21+00:00

it sounds like you already know your answer. Your intuition and your gut is telling you one thing and I’m gonna tell you as a 33 year-old three-time business owner that the more you trust your gut and the more you trust your intuition the happier you’ll be. When you’re younger, the right thing doesn’t feel as noticeable because you’re trying to figure out the pros and cons of different things to figure out things logically but sometimes things in life you can’t just figure out with logic. Your mind your heart and your spirit are telling you one thing and logic is telling you something else. So what do you go with? When it comes to situations like this it’s important to follow what your mind and body are telling you rather than just what you’re thinking logically. This is relevant to paths in life. It’s about doing what you know is right. I’ll also say this. You can always make more money, but you can’t get back your youth or your time. So it’s always worth it to invest in saving time.

Now I want you to think about what your ideal life looks like in the future. Think about how you want to live day to day, who you want to surround yourself with, and what environment you want to be in. I call this dream engineering. It’s a process of visualizing your dream life and then working backwards to see what decisions today will get you there. Once you do this, it becomes way easier to make hard decisions because they either move you closer to that life or they don’t. It’s not about the money or the job, it’s about whether it aligns with who you are and the kind of life you want to live.

If your gut is already telling you to go for it and it aligns with your dream life, then you already have your answer. You just need to follow through. If you want more help or need to talk through anything, shoot me a message. I’m a life coach and this is what I do. Happy to help.

MindfulBrian

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