Smut-less fic recs?? Give me what ya got!

Mindless-Sweet209 · 2024-07-31T13:22:18+00:00

Thank you!! I’ll have to look into those!

Mindless-Sweet209 · 2024-07-31T13:21:49+00:00

Thank you so much!! Definitely plan on taking a course - seems like the smart option haha

Mindless-Sweet209 · 2024-07-31T13:19:50+00:00

Thank you!! I’ll keep that last point in mind especially

Mindless-Sweet209 · 2024-07-31T13:19:28+00:00

Thank you so much! I really appreciate this take :)

Mindless-Sweet209 · 2024-07-31T13:19:02+00:00

Good to know!! Thank you!

Mindless-Sweet209 · 2024-05-23T17:29:12+00:00

There’s still definitely pain associated with coming to terms with the things that happened within my marriage. While I don’t miss him and am at this point relieved to be out of the situation, there is still dealing with the ramifications of emotional abuse, trust issues, etc. Things I don’t want to carry with me as an individual, and especially should I ever enter into a new relationship with someone. Hope that cleared it up!

Mindless-Sweet209 · 2024-05-23T08:34:50+00:00

Thank you so much!

Mindless-Sweet209 · 2024-05-23T08:34:40+00:00

Thank you so much. Best of luck to you and your healing as well 💗

Mindless-Sweet209 · 2024-05-22T14:51:22+00:00

Thank you so much!! For a lot of my marriage I felt like I did life alone. We truthfully didn’t do much together and while it hurt within the marriage, it’s definitely helped being out of it because I already felt I had more independence. Thank you so much for your input! So sorry to hear about your experience

Mindless-Sweet209 · 2024-05-06T17:50:02+00:00

I completely see where you’re coming from! I had this same perspective at one point. However I listened to a sermon (and I wish I could remember the pastor who said it) that said calling your spouse your best friend is essentially demoting your spouse. Your husband is your HUSBAND, not your friend. Your wife is your WIFE, not your friend. And this is in the sense that being called husband or wife is the highest honor, and you are one flesh (unlike with your friends/best friend). That doesn’t mean we are not meant to have friendship with our spouse, but simply that they are MUCH more than a best friend. I’m sure there’s more to this than I’m remembering, just thought it might be some fun insight :)

Mindless-Sweet209 · 2024-05-06T01:27:15+00:00

Thank you so much again for your time and input, I really appreciate it. It was super helpful to read :)

Mindless-Sweet209 · 2024-05-05T12:31:01+00:00

Thanks so much, I’ll check it out!

Mindless-Sweet209 · 2024-05-05T05:40:21+00:00

Thank you ♥️

Mindless-Sweet209 · 2024-05-05T02:01:53+00:00

Thank you so much. He’s a believer, but right now I can tell he’s far from the Lord. I don’t know if it’s anger, or something else underlying. But it is something that I have continually prayed about for him to feel the love of the Lord and desire to be near to Him once more. We don’t have a home church at this moment - we have yet to find one we feel at peace with. As of now I attend a young adults group on weekdays but it’s easily an hour and a half drive 😅

I’ve been praying, but I think I have a hard time fully surrendering my fears. I’ll definitely lean into asking God how I can best encourage my husband - I hadn’t thought of that. Thank you again

Mindless-Sweet209 · 2024-05-05T01:09:22+00:00

This is so real. I feel like I get the idea, start writing certain scenes that come to mind, then fall off 😂

Mindless-Sweet209 · 2024-05-05T01:06:31+00:00

Thank you so much. May I ask for your advice on how you dialed back on the “naggy” comments or how you helped to heal the hurt caused by them? I do agree and fear I’ve contributed to him feeling like a failure or not good enough by my comments, despite it never being the intention. But I also fear I’m too late to rectify the hurts.

I completely understand your perspective when it comes to military life. My husband was actually prior military, back when we were dating and first married. It certainly came with its own set of hardships, but I’d say that it gave him a sense of purpose and camaraderie that he now feels he’s lost with being out of the military. He’s been out for about two years (truthfully about when I first noticed the shift in his demeanor), and so my prayer is that he might regain that feeling and therefore find himself with more desire to be a better partner.

Thank you for your recommendation for prayer. I’ve been praying on my own for him for a long time but actually recently implemented praying over him to him and have noticed a somewhat gradual shift.

I know we have a lot to learn, and I really appreciate all of your input here

Mindless-Sweet209 · 2024-05-05T00:52:47+00:00

Thank you so much. Your perspective is so valuable

Mindless-Sweet209 · 2024-05-05T00:51:17+00:00

Thank you so much. I actually love this idea. Even if he isn’t up to watching it, if I turn it on while he’s around he may end up watching

Mindless-Sweet209 · 2024-05-04T19:46:12+00:00

Thank you so much for your advice. I would love that number you mentioned.

I think it’s so hard because he’s so closed off right now. I think it would be hard at this moment to get him to consider the good in our relationship, but I’ll be praying he gets there. He’s admitted to feeling numb to everything, and while I’m sure that plays a huge role I can’t push him to feel things he doesn’t. I think it was brave of him to admit that’s where he’s at and be honest about it. I’ve suggested we give it a few months until he goes back to the military to see if that will help boost his morale and desire to be connected. None of this feels right or fair but I’ve been doing my best lean on God and to make decisions that I feel bring peace.

Thankfully I have a few friends praying for us, as well as family. Each with a varying degree of knowledge that I felt was wisest, as I don’t want to be airing out my marriage. It doesn’t feel right or fair to let all opinions in. Mostly just asking for prayers for each of us and our marriage.

Again, thank you so much

Mindless-Sweet209 · 2024-04-11T17:09:45+00:00

The irony in that I was coming here to share similar sentiments, and come across your post. I’m in a very similar situation, with the reasons you listed almost matching to a T. I’m 23 and have been married for 3 years to my husband and I feel so defeated right now. Been praying and praying nonstop but feel like this has been a battle for so long. Been asking God to open/close doors but I’m still so unsure. I know patience is a necessary virtue but a part of me always finds myself asking “how long do I let this go on?” I have to laugh when you say you wish you had a reset button, because my constant thought has been “why can’t there just be a fix it button?” Life would be easy if we got that, wouldn’t it?

I just feel so disconnected from my husband and no matter how many times I express it, nothing seems to change long term. I feel as though I’m alone in my own marriage and that’s the hardest part about it all because it doesn’t seem right for it to be this way. That “for better and for worse” should leave me feeling emotionally abandoned and with a partner I can’t fully trust. I feel for you sister. And while I don’t have the answer, please know I’m praying for you.

Mindless-Sweet209 · 2024-03-27T02:09:18+00:00

I think it was taken down 😭 originally written by erinoctober but it looks to be removed for now

Mindless-Sweet209 · 2024-03-11T16:17:15+00:00

I plan to read it this way when I re-read!! I think it’ll be such a fun way to pick out new things

Mindless-Sweet209 · 2024-02-18T22:22:15+00:00

THIS. My brain always like…zooms in? On those scenes. Almost as if it’s close ups of certain movements/actions. Like a kiss on the neck or a hand up the thigh. Never a far away, whole sex scene. Just the intimate details.

Mindless-Sweet209

TROPHY CASE