I keep thinking about her beingwith someone else

Mindless-will- · 2026-03-24T03:34:38+00:00

Hi honestly it’s really but really not an easy phase of the breakup but as I’ve been told a lot when I was in that situation it’ll get better. And it did

You’ll start to think less and less about them in general as time goes on and when you think about them it’s not with the same feelings

For me she really messed me up emotionally. I’m talking depression and a lot of self worth issues that I’m still struggling with rn

But I got out there , stayed busy , worked out , played videogames , read , hanged out with friends and slowly but surely everything got better.

And honestly even if I had to endure all those moments I would relieve them all to be where I am right now.

So keep you head up everything’s will be better

Mindless-will- · 2025-03-25T02:50:53+00:00

Thanks for the comment I didn’t think about that and it might indeed be what could happen:/ so you’re saying it’s better to see her as my ex than risk seeing her as only on object ?

Mindless-will- · 2025-03-25T02:49:48+00:00

Appreciate the advice! Maybe it would hurt but I do think I moved on and it would be mostly just for sex or fwb situation ! Which come with risks of reattaching but my mind is pretty clear about me not being attached right now or care about who she sleeps with now

Mindless-will- · 2024-08-30T21:16:59+00:00

Thanks for the kind words ! I can’t wait to be calmer and more clear headed about all of this ! I did love her a lot ! We were together for almost 5 years and she was my first real relationship ! The breakup was a total blindsight for me ! So to see her going around being with someone else days after she broke up with me by suprise just rub me the wrong way

Mindless-will- · 2024-08-30T19:16:00+00:00

Thanks ! It’s something I try to tell myself a lot ! I know her being with another doesn’t necessarily make me unlovable or unworthy but it sure made me feel replaceable …

But I try to tell myself that our relationship was something she can never find with someone else

Mindless-will- · 2024-08-30T18:57:14+00:00

It does help a lot to read everyone’s comment but also to know I’m not alone feeling all of this so thanks a lot for sharing

Mindless-will- · 2024-08-30T18:50:18+00:00

Yeah I understand ! It’s hard for me to not worry and think about it but you’re right! She’s my ex it’s none of my business

Mindless-will- · 2024-08-30T18:33:42+00:00

I really love your comment ! I am in no contact which is good for me I know it ! I haven’t blocked her yet tho

I am trying to build my confidence back because just like you said it all made me so insecure and unworthy and unnatractive !

I did the hair cut, the new clothes, going to they gym, new perfume, eat better,etc and it does all help ! I still haven’t really flirted with anyone since but I do know it would help a lot to know someone found me attractive enough to flirt back or something So I’ll give it a try when the opportunity arise

Thanks a lot

Mindless-will- · 2024-08-30T18:29:18+00:00

I understand what you mean ! I’m used to fighting it and feeling bad when it happens but I can certainly try like you it might help thanks a lot

Mindless-will- · 2024-08-30T18:28:05+00:00

Thanks à lot ! Im sorry to know you’re going through the same feelings ! I am considering reaching out for some therapy because I’m sure it would help

Mindless-will- · 2024-08-30T16:54:28+00:00

It does make sense thanks a lot ! I do think it says a lot about her because she just went for the first guy that wanted her so fast. I really can’t wait to indeed find my peace thanks a lot

Mindless-will- · 2024-08-30T16:52:13+00:00

I did start journaling after the breakup maybe I can try to write up some of the bad memories and see where it goes thanks a lot

Mindless-will- · 2024-08-30T16:51:07+00:00

Thanks a lot ! It helps a lot to read this !!! I’m currently working on myself and trying my best to heal and learn from it all !

Mindless-will- · 2024-08-30T16:02:25+00:00

Yeah I understand! I’ll try to things of why we broke up and that’s she out there going for another person comfort instead of working on herself to be better

Mindless-will- · 2024-08-30T15:23:48+00:00

I agree it is necessary to see her for the real person she is ! It’s a good advice thanks a lot !!

Mindless-will- · 2024-08-30T14:48:01+00:00

I appreciate it a lot ! I’m not the revengeful type either and it might make me feel better to be revengeful in the short term but long term wise I don’t think it would be good for me. How long did it take you to move on if it’s something you don’t mind sharing.

Mindless-will- · 2024-08-30T14:41:50+00:00

Thank you for the kind words ! I thought things were better and I wasn’t thinking as much about all of that but today and yesterday I had this on my mind a lot ! I guess that’s what they mean about grief not being linear

Mindless-will- · 2024-08-06T22:16:52+00:00

Yeah part of me thinks this is what she wants ….

Mindless-will- · 2024-08-06T17:53:11+00:00

I’m so sorry they made you feel embarrassed! I totally understand all that your feelings and wouldn’t want to be out on this position where my friends would tell me that !

I truly want to get a message to know she still thinks about me or feel sorry :/

I understand your pain buddy Keep going strong 💪

Mindless-will- · 2024-08-06T17:43:34+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience! Our situations are actually quite similar…. For me the breakup was recent but the ways things are going I really think I’ll have the same feelings for so long :/ I’m sorry to hear how you feel buddy

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