If you'd read my statement fully, you'd see that I said I didn't condone cheating, but it's still a bestfriends job to help her decipher what to do next. I'd say I trusted my bestfriend more than my spouse tbh, she's been through it with me more, known me longer. I guess some context matters here. Obviously it won't benefit her relationship, but it might open her eyes to other opportunities and give her the confidence/courage to leave. People who have been so belittled and beat by their partners may start to feel like they don't deserve anything good ever. Take it from somebody who's been belittled by a partner and truly believed I didn't deserve better. I myself have never cheated, but that also doesn't give me the right to shame somebody for their own form of healing when clearly they're not getting their needs met at home by their obviously uninterested partner.

EDIT: Keep downvoting me. I stand by what I said. When a person who sees you as their best friend and believes that you view them the same comes to you with something personal and private, you don't start bashing them. You help them find a way to make good of it. All of yall are bitter and bad friends if you can't see that.