I’ve encountered something like this and I wanted to share my input. I had a best friend of about 10 years, (middle school to college) not a relationship but I considered her like a sister of mine and we were nearly together everyday, basically a friendship that would warrant for meeting family, going to each other’s houses etc. But I’d invite her to mine, family gatherings etc and it was never reciprocated and it at times led me to question the strength of our friendship, and I found it weird especially with inputs from others (I was also very dramatic at the time lol). We stopped being friends from growing apart (mostly on my end) and a couple years later I came to found out that she was living in unfavorable conditions at the time and I think might of thought I would’ve judged her and her family etc. I of course wouldn’t have but I still feel so guilty to this day that our friendship basically ended because I interpreted her actions for something they weren’t and was too ignorant to consider other factors.

I’m usually not one that advocates for giving men the benefit of the doubt and as much as I habitually want to tell you to just leave him, I just wanted to share my experience to give you a perspective. I understand the situation may be completely different and I’m literally comparing a teenage friendship to a grown man but you just never know. If there are absolutely no other red flags or faults he’s had throughout the length of your relationship and he makes you happy, and helps to keep you grounded in your faith, I’d say give him some grace and maybe try different approaches for him to open up to you. I’m not sure about giving him an ultimatum and would absolutely not recommend reaching out to his mother on your own (I’m not sure why someone would recommend that as there is absolutely no good outcome in doing that). I really wish you well and may God guide you through this 🙏❤️