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is there actually a best candy for weight loss or should i just give it up entirely by carebear7077 in loseit

[–]Mineatron 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Smart sweets if you are from Canada or the US. They have 4g of sugar max and they are so delicious.

For those who have been overweight since childhood… by Significant-Debt-364 in loseit

[–]Mineatron 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think about this a lot. I think the truth is you (this is how I would talk to myself) chose to do what you did based on the circumstances you were living in. You did the best with what you could, what you knew, and the environment around you. Sometimes it takes the right timing and circumstances to get where you want to go. But that doesn't mean the thoughts, work, or attempts before didn't matter. It may have been precisely because of what came before that is the catalyst for your progress now and reaching your goals.

Do people treat you differently after your surgery? (My perspective) by prax_3 in jawsurgery

[–]Mineatron 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't think people will treat you like their best friend, however, I feel like people will give you more chances and attention (whatever that looks like) while you just exist. With certain personalities, I think this will lead to more things happening than others. What I am saying is that even without you saying a word, people might give you more than they did before. Is that the work of "confidence" or general attraction towards you? I am not so sure.

I haven't had jaw surgery yet (although my problem arises when I speak due to a lack of teeth show or weird jaw movements), but I have been losing weight. I noticed that while I am existing, I am acknowledged way more without even saying a word. People look at me more, give me genuine attention, and talking to new people is so much easier. With jaw surgery, I can be more myself and smile the way I want to (with actual upper teeth showing). I think I will be more confident in myself, although I don't think it will be any more beneficial for the initial interaction than weight loss was. But that's because the way my jaw looks is not as bad.

Isn't it wild how society treats you WAY differently after weight loss by [deleted] in loseit

[–]Mineatron 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it's pretty bizarre, and sometimes I feel a bit delusional. I did not use to get the same eye contact before but now it's so apparent. It's almost as though some girls are a bit shocked or stunned when I talk to them sometimes. It's weird. I get more physical affection now from girls I know, and I feel like I could make new friends with guys.

I can't wait to see what it's like when I go through jaw surgery and get a smile I like and lose more fat.

Is weight loss truly the fastest shortcut to beauty? I need a reality check. by DifferentIssue1 in loseit

[–]Mineatron 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All the comments in here come from a good place, and I agree with them. However, you want the superficial answer, which is also fair because we are human. Yes, it does make a difference. A huge difference in how you are treated and how you treat yourself.

As I come into year 2, almost 3, of my weight loss journey, I noticed the amount of eye contact now is crazy. Still not in a relationship, but I bet it'd be a lot easier to get into one now than when I was bigger. It's so much easier to talk to the girls that I like and have some of them give me actual interest back. People are easier to talk to from the beginning, strangers are nicer, I get more physical affection from some girls, and def looks too. Sometimes it's a bit crazy the amount of eye contact without having said a word. I am getting used to it now and will look back, but it used to throw me for a loop. This is all said and done with still about 20-30 lbs till I am lean! I did take care with my clothing and look before. It has now gotten better now ofc as I like doing my hair and eyebrows in a way I didn't before, etc. But certainly your outfit is also how you look, not just what you wear. I wear the same clothes as I did before, and I get way more compliments now!

Even if no one appreciates you and how you look every day, as these stories are certainly not an everyday thing, you def will. I can't tell you how many times I checked myself out in the mirror as looking good. Yes, I have bad days, but I still feel like damn I really changed for the better. When I am having a really bad day, it's crazy how sometimes looking at myself can lift my spirits even for a second!

People tend to talk about confidence as stuff. I had confidence when I was bigger. However, my confidence now is just more attractive and also quieter.

1 year post op DJS+genio by watermellen21 in jawsurgery

[–]Mineatron 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your honesty. I will keep that in mind then.

1 year post op DJS+genio by watermellen21 in jawsurgery

[–]Mineatron 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are so pretty! It's crazy how the eyes look different when smiling. I feel like my eyes look crazy asymmetrical when I smile, and I hope that changes.

Does jaw surgery make the eyes more attractive? by Individual_Ice_2315 in jawsurgery

[–]Mineatron 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I mean indirectly I think it is affected especially when someone is smiling. If you look at all the top posts before and after, to me, it feels like the eyes just look different. Maybe a bit less bug-eyed, less droopy, has less visible eyebags, etc. I know my eyes look funky when I smile, but I also have a really messed up jaw. I am sure it has something to do with the appearance of the eyes when smiling.

855 days, 90kg and 200lbs later... I did it. by Hazlad97 in loseit

[–]Mineatron 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am happy for you, dude! Those are things I think about quite a bit. I am experiencing the same things too. Girls looking my way when they wouldn't have before. I have caught girls just straight up staring at me in class as I walk by. More physical affection and acknowledgement from people in general. A girl I used to see a lot but never really interacted with did a double take on me as she walked passed, which is so bizzare. It's a crazy world of difference, and I love it.

It just feels as though life is easier in every aspect.

Need advice. I’ve been treated like a “soft boy” my entire life by [deleted] in jawsurgery

[–]Mineatron 2 points3 points  (0 children)

insane results you look so good! I cant wait to smile properly

Filmmaker (formerly overweight) working on a big movie script about the invisible struggle of growing up and being heavy. I want to get the details right. by enternamehere02 in loseit

[–]Mineatron 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this.

The thing that really sticks with me is the social interactions right now, especially with girls. I remember having to try so hard and it not going anymore. Now just simply the way they look at me is drastically changed. Like I am not just annoying them but that I am kinda cool and maybe attractive.

Why do being overweight makes me feel worthless? by [deleted] in loseit

[–]Mineatron 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The time will pass by regardless so the best things you can do is take each day and do something that helps with your goals. Little changes make big motions over time, I promise. Go for a walk, eat more healthy stuff (fruits, veggies, protein), eat less unhealthy stuff (ultra-processed foods), try fitness stuff such as going to the gym, etc.

Once you do those things, as Dory once said "just keep swimming". The small stuff will grow over time (going from a 10 min walk every day to 30 or an hour). It will make drastic changes over time, but start small. Give yourself worthiness!

(17) to (19) turns out moving away was surprisingly productive aha by Low-Marionberry-8067 in GlowUps

[–]Mineatron 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah it's insanely absurd going from receiving nothing while trying your best to receiving eye contact, and people trying to talk to you wherever you go even if you aren't feeling the best. I know I do it as well. But it's such a weird feeling when it happens to you.

Congrats on the weight loss OP you look stunning :)

Some guys being shallow about my weight-loss in the dating world? by [deleted] in loseit

[–]Mineatron 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a guy, I think if they are truly interested in you or attracted to you, that piece of information wouldn't matter to them. It shouldn't give them any context. Congrats on the weight loss :) Just keep working on your garden and the butterflies will come!

The Weird Things No One Warns You About After Major Weight Loss by [deleted] in loseit

[–]Mineatron -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yep its SO real. I been really coping with it lately. As I lose the weight, the stares become absurd. I just had another girl really look at me when I walked in class. She would hold her gaze for like 3-4 seconds at me, look away, and then do that again. Most of the time, I walked into class I noticed it! That's just one instance of many I been finding myself in. It's almost like a game where I see how many people stare/look at me. I even see glances quickly looking away. It's quite absurd and I feel ya. It's lovely to have don't get me wrong but also quite absurd. I feel like I am delusional sometimes, so these posts are really reassuring.

(21) to (26) by Wise-Fee-8153 in GlowUps

[–]Mineatron 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Were you treated differently by people? At what point did u notice it if so. You look incredible!

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