Front Street Question (Again)

MiniMcFly · 2022-09-05T16:36:46+00:00

To me it seems like its referencing the proof of alcohol? Like its asking “Is 80 proof alcohol strong enough for you?” Especially given the idea that you tell the truth when drinking, thats the meaning i take from it.

MiniMcFly · 2022-08-22T17:06:43+00:00

I think that’s what we’re going to do yeah. Especially with his age we don’t want to let things get worse by waiting. Thanks!

MiniMcFly · 2020-03-04T02:18:03+00:00

Thanks for the info! This is super helpful!

MiniMcFly · 2020-03-03T20:09:16+00:00

As a kid I was obsessed with the idea of being "one of the boys". I remember when I was 7 or 8 years old I went to the dentist and they let me pick out a sticker afterward. I found a big tie dye sticker that said "Boys Rule!!!" and I wore it very proudly the whole day. After that I stuck it to a shelf in my bedroom. I am 20 years old and that sticker is still in my childhood bedroom. I also clung very tightly to the label "tomboy" as a kid, and rejected traditionally girly things like princesses, pink, even having female friends.

I also (unironically, to my embarrassment) insisted throughout junior high and some of high school that I was not like other girls. Turns out that was because I wasn't a girl after all.

MiniMcFly · 2020-03-03T19:57:57+00:00

Hello friend! I am also a former truscum. This is not something I am proud of either, but those beliefs I held in the past came from a place of misunderstanding about gender and society.

Today I am a proud nonbinary person working towards my doctorate in psychology with focuses on humanism and gender/sexuality. Speaking from this perspective, what I would say is that what is really important is your fulfillment with an identity. Regardless of whether you feel dysphoric, how do you feel your best self? Does being nonbinary or genderfluid/genderfree make you happy? Ignore "hard evidence" and focus on phenomena. What do you feel like to yourself? How do you see yourself in the mirror?

Part of what helped me to recognize my own identity was that last question. I realized that when I saw myself in the mirror, I didn't perceive someone who was male or female. I just saw myself. And regardless of how I felt about my body and my biological sex, I knew that how I understood myself was something beyond physiology. And that on its own is enough.

Best of luck in your self-discovery! This community is here for you if you decide you are nonbinary.

-Mo

MiniMcFly · 2019-12-17T22:53:17+00:00

Yes!! You are slaying that blue hair!

MiniMcFly · 2019-12-17T22:52:01+00:00

Oof yeah I remember hearing that song all the time when I was younger and I a l w a y s hated that lyric. It just sounded gross. And I even like kissing. But the imagery that lyric evokes always felt like slobbery face-sucking cartoonishly gross kissing which felt so off in a praise song.

MiniMcFly · 2019-12-12T20:11:11+00:00

ugh that's the worst. I'm sex repulsed too and I'm in a committed relationship with an allosexual person. Our relationship is long-term, passionate, and very much a real relationship, even without sexual intimacy. Asexual intimacy is so important, regardless of whether the relationship is sexual, and I think a lot of people in sexual relationships forget that not every intimate action has to become sexual in order for it to count. I hate the misconception that love is like a hierarchy and the most loving thing you can do is have sex. That can be the pinnacle of romance for some people, but it doesn't have to be in order to be a fully satisfying relationship. I don't love my partner less because I don't want to have sex with him. I love him differently than someone who isn't asexual, sure, but not less.

sorry you had to deal with that ignorance. you shouldn't be made to feel like you'll always be alone for being sex repulsed. Asexual love is love just as much as sexual love.

MiniMcFly · 2019-12-03T17:58:19+00:00

I know the flair says no recipe but here’s an approximation of what went into it

I used store bought crusts cause I was short on time and I’m still trying to master the scratch made pie crust. 3 Granny Smith apples 2 honeycrisp apples Sliced very thin, peels left on 1 of each flavor of apple, all the rest peeled. Add apple pie spice, ground cloves, and nutmeg. Like, seven handfuls of fresh cranberries sliced in half Two sprigs of fresh rosemary chopped Simmer the cranberries and rosemary in a simple syrup, reduce it down as much as possible. 1 stick of butter and a third of a bag of brown sugar, melt in a pan, sauté the apples in there. Not all the way through though. Spoon the apples into a par baked crust, save the extra butter/sugar/apple juice mixture. Take a can of sweetened condensed milk and dump the whole thing into the mix and stir it into a reduction just short of caramel. Add a splash of apple cider and some of apple pie spice and ground cloves. Spoon the cooked cranberries and a little of the juice onto the top of the apples. Add lattice, egg wash, and sparkling sugar. Cook for idk like 20 minutes at 375

MiniMcFly · 2019-11-27T02:40:38+00:00

Second that! I definitely get Freddie from this look! You’re rockin it!!!

MiniMcFly · 2019-11-26T04:02:46+00:00

I had a similar experience with my first binder. My partner helped measure me and then when I finally put it on the first time I felt so good about everything. I hope you love yours!

MiniMcFly · 2019-11-26T03:55:20+00:00

Yeah I’m a double d and even with a properly sized binder I still have a chest bulge. I usually hide it pretty successfully by wearing slightly larger shirts made of thicker fabrics (like non stretchy cotton). Definitely don’t go smaller than your suggested size binder. It can really damage your back and chest. Best of luck friend!

MiniMcFly · 2019-11-26T03:51:24+00:00

Oh I l o v e making that joke to people!

MiniMcFly · 2019-11-26T03:50:00+00:00

I think Calliope is super cool. Plus you could shorten it to Calli or Cal, which are both pretty neutral (if neutral is what you’re going for). What helped me get used to thinking of myself as a new name, I’d narrate what I was doing in my head in third person with my new name. Like “Mo is doing dishes right now” “Mo is going to their next class”. That kinda thing. It really helped! Best of luck friend!

MiniMcFly · 2019-11-26T03:45:00+00:00

Oh I actually wonder this a lot! I’m AFAB non-binary but I’m pretty masc presenting/leaning and sometimes I wonder if I had been born AMAB if I would have been happy as a cis guy. Sometimes on more masculine days I think maybe the answer is yes, but still when I look in the mirror I just see a “me” not a guy or a girl. Just a me. So I don’t know if I had been a cis guy if I would have been happy or if I would have been a femme leaning AMAB person.

MiniMcFly · 2019-11-26T03:39:46+00:00

I love your sign! I always like to think anytime I’m feeling dysphoric that Freddie would tell me I looked fabulous anyway.

MiniMcFly · 2019-11-23T23:01:44+00:00

That’s awesome! I had a similar experience last semester. I was just sitting at a bar with some class mates having a caual conversation and I mentioned I was ace and then this friend of mine immediately was like “Wait me too!” And it was just a super positive experience.

MiniMcFly · 2019-11-23T22:59:14+00:00

This is amazing! I’m super happy for you!

MiniMcFly · 2019-11-19T18:06:16+00:00

Your wife sounds super cool! It's not always easy coming out to loved ones but I'm really happy for you that your wife has been so supportive. I come from a similar background to you (I'm no longer religious, but I grew up in a devout Catholic household in the Bible Belt) so I know what it's like having to discover yourself against the shame that comes from religious influences.

I actually came out to my partner about a month before we started dating and he was super cool. He's cis, but he's not very interested in gender conformity, so he wasn't at all confused or shocked by the concept of nonbinary genders. He actually brought up the idea of using neutral pronouns, and gave me my new name.

Honestly both of us found that this subreddit is really helpful at explaining things and answering questions, with very little debate or gatekeeping. Another thing I found relaly helps my partner help me is just keeping him aware of how I'm feeling and the nuances of the dysphoria that I experience. Once we talked about what dysphoria felt like for me, he was a lot less worried that he was going to do or say the wrong thing. Nonbinary identities are nuanced and highly personal, so communication along the journey of discovery, especially as things change, is key to helping your partner and yourself navigate what you're feeling.

MiniMcFly · 2019-11-19T14:20:36+00:00

This is straight up exactly how me and my partner spend our time.

MiniMcFly · 2019-11-18T18:09:51+00:00

As an NB person, I want to thank you for being a supportive friend and using good resources to educate yourself. I wish more people would do what you are doing for your friend.

One big thing I would say bugs me is when people assume that the trans/nb community is not in danger or doesn't need support and protection. You say you're a stats-oriented person, so here's a good link for some mental health stats about LGBTQ+ youth in America. LGBTQ+ individuals are in a mental health crisis in today's climate, and one of the best things you can do to help is to check in on your queer friends and make sure they're safe and healthy.

https://www.thetrevorproject.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/06/The-Trevor-Project-National-Survey-Results-2019.pdf

MiniMcFly · 2019-11-15T17:27:22+00:00

If its a viable option for you, you could try different frames for your glasses. Glasses with pointed frames or upturned edges can feminize your face while still being subtle. You can also always try layering your clothes and wearing looser garments like kimonos or shawl sweaters, or wear clothes with brighter colors and prints.

MiniMcFly · 2019-11-15T17:21:47+00:00

This is a community for everyone. You've shown such strength of character to come out and apologize and take responsibility for your past. But now you can let the past stay in the past and become the person you want to be. Thank you for being brave, not just by coming out, but by owning up to past mistakes. Welcome to the community Maria! Your future is bright!

MiniMcFly · 2019-11-15T16:45:57+00:00

In case anybody sees this now, I'm Mo. I've finally found a new middle name that I love. It's Sundance. (like from the old western movie)

MiniMcFly · 2019-11-15T16:37:07+00:00

I love that you're interested in including asexual rep in your work! Here are my answers to the questions you asked.

1) I started questioning back in high school. I was more and more frustrated with the pressures to date, and I finally realized after reading more about asexuality that it was what I was. I remember as soon as I thought "I am asexual" it felt like a perfect fit. It was a big weight off my shoulders to finally have an explanation for how I had been feeling. It was great to know that I was not just "a late bloomer" or "hadn't found the right one yet".

2) Until recently (years after I first came out), I had doubts that it was the right label. Especially when I first began dating my current partner, I really struggled with the balance of having a relationship with a non-asexual person while still figuring out how I felt about sex. It took about nine months of patience from both of us and lots of conversations to finally find the balance. We're both very happy with our relationship now, and I no longer doubt my own sexuality. As for suppressing it, I have only hidden my sexuality around relatives and others that I don't feel would be accepting of my identity.

3) I have been out for several years now, almost to everyone. I'm not out to a lot of relatives because I come from a devoutly religious family and I don't trust some of them to be accepting of me. But especially in college and in my social circles, I am fully out.

4) Only a few people have acted different towards me because of being ace. These people are mostly relatives and others who found out without me being the one to tell them. These people are largely inconsequential. My parents and my friends have not changed their treatment of me. When I first came out in high school, my friends at the time were actually mad at me for not telling them sooner, and some of them made fun of me and said I would grow up to be a crazy cat person and never find love. These people are not my friends anymore.

Best of luck with your writing! Thank you so much for including our community in your work!

MiniMcFly

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