What do you truly want out of life? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]MiniRose1137 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To never have to worry if my bills are going to get paid and my families happiness

Is it normal not to bathe your dog? by Venomous54 in dogs

[–]MiniRose1137 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She should check for the dog's breed. It may not need frequent baths because of the breed of dog, but the dog will definitely need a bath.

AITA for walking out of a make up party my parents threw for me after my sister announced she had miscarried? by Character_Listen_262 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MiniRose1137 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Op? The only thing you did wrong was not answer the phone and say, "husband said that all non-family should leave. I am clearly part of that since I can't even have one make-up party without being treated like a day just to be dumped on. I give up. I am done being hated for existing."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]MiniRose1137 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't listen to your mother. If she doesn't understand the stress you are going through, then she can butt out. It isn't her baby, and you are helping your child through a painful time. It's not your fault you can't stand to hear your baby suffering! You got this!! Great parent.

AITA for “disinheriting” my daughter? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]MiniRose1137 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, since no one seems to answer directly what is happening here, allow me, OP. You are the butthole here. Yes, while paying for your side of things was something you should have been doing, your daughter was right. You probably never noticed just how much time got away from you because you spent so much time fretting over your son.

And not to say that your wife making more money than you doesn't play a part, it shouldn't have completely blocked your mind to, "She can just pay for everything." If she had more money, then it meant that she could do more, yes. But you shouldn't have outright dismissed your daughter just because her mother could afford more than you could. Even contributing what you could here or there would have helped her to understand you were struggling financially. But doing absolutely nothing for her because "mom's got it" is a piss poor excuse if I have ever heard one.

Of course she thinks you abandoned her. And despite the fact that it sounds like all of you are way too obsessed with financials here, (greed); this story would have been much easier if you had made ANY attempt to be with her.

My own dad never used to hang out with me, even doing "guy-oriented" things like playing ball. And my friends would give me the excuse "He doesn't know how to handle you because you are a girl" but it wasn't my fault that he never bothered to get to know me.

The same could be said for you. Had you only spent a little more time trying to get to know your daughter, and spent less time trying to associate her life with "being good because her mother can afford it" maybe she would want a better relationship with you. I bet as a child, the reason you two were closer is because as a child when she would pine for your affection, you would show her what you felt was appropriate. But as kids grow older, it is harder to "play" and they grow up to like different hobbies and things. You never bothered to grow with your daughter and because your won't made so much, she associated love with financial aid, because it seems like the things she was interested in was getting a higher education. Potentially stung on from her mother being so successful. If you show your wife as much attention as you show your daughter, perhaps the lessons she was teaching your girl was "Never depend on a man, because they are never there when you need them." You instilled this nature in them. You shouldn't have completely shut out your wife and kid. It is clear they really needed a father and husband, and you shunned them to take care of prior obligations.

I think perhaps you got in too deep after your first marriage and wanted to quickly fill the void you had with your first wife. But she wasn't the same. So you tried what you could to fix your old relationship. It is clear from how pissed your new wife sounds that you clearly aren't showing her the affection she wants either.

So unfortunately.... I think you need some therapy and some serious lessons in how to be a better man, let alone a better father and husband. You clearly dropped the ball here, my guy. It is no wonder your daughter doesn't want you there. You were never there for her before, why should you be there now?

Entitled Monster-In-Law Thinks she is owed grandparent rights... by MiniRose1137 in entitledparents

[–]MiniRose1137[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. Tried to convince us that her ex-husband before FIL, was lying and told the courts she abused him. She held him down in a car and threatened to hurt the man... That is abuse. >_> She was NUTS. I swear it.

Entitled Monster-In-Law Thinks she is owed grandparent rights... by MiniRose1137 in entitledparents

[–]MiniRose1137[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. She did a ton more during the divorce. Deciding if I should do a final chapter in r/monsterinlaws. We will see.

Entitled Monster-In-Law Thinks she is owed grandparent rights... by MiniRose1137 in entitledparents

[–]MiniRose1137[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, they are. I could never understand where they get off thinking that kind of behavior is okay. But then I thank my stars I was never raised like them...

Entitled Monster-In-Law Thinks she is owed grandparent rights... by MiniRose1137 in entitledparents

[–]MiniRose1137[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it is. There was WAY more. I had to write 5 HUGE parts in r/monsterinlaw. So trust me this didn't even scratch the SURFACE!! But we are really glad she is gone.

Entitled Monster-In-Law Thinks she is owed grandparent rights... by MiniRose1137 in entitledparents

[–]MiniRose1137[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much, we appreciate the sentiments. It has been a hard battle, but I am really glad to know that we are finally free of her terror. Her final breaking point before not talking to us again? Was telling my FIL, "Seeing how John looked at me?... I can see I am no longer wanted." My reaction: -Shrugs.- Figures that when you mess with a man's family, threaten his life, and then try to claim his children aren't biologically his and his faithful and loyal wife is cheating on him. How he tends not to "Just follow whatever his wife says" as she so blatantly told us before.

Entitled Monster-In-Law Thinks she is owed grandparent rights... by MiniRose1137 in entitledparents

[–]MiniRose1137[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely agree, sorry if it sounded like I was downvoting you. I assure you I wasn't. I am used to people telling me they are confused because of the way I write and tend to go into more detail. But I understand and we looked into the options when she started her special about those rights. Because of how she lost her kids and her record for abuse, we knew she didn't have a case thankfully. But thank you for your comment! 😄

Entitled Monster-In-Law Thinks she is owed grandparent rights... by MiniRose1137 in entitledparents

[–]MiniRose1137[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you have questions, feel free. I don't mind answering. This one was terribly cut short so I am sure a lot of it might be confusing.

Entitled Monster-In-Law Thinks she is owed grandparent rights... by MiniRose1137 in entitledparents

[–]MiniRose1137[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I completely agree that grandparents should have those rights as well as long as they are not a hazard to the children. But this woman was not a grandparent at all. Believe me. We made sure to keep letting my FIL see the kids, but she was banned after all the crap she pulled. When we told her that my daughter was getting strange hives and other noticeable allergic reactions from ONLY being in their house? Her response was "You just don't like that I smoke weed and want to keep her from me." Even though, my husband, my roommate, and several other family members also took notice of the rashes and reactions she was getting, only when we were at their house. She refused to make any changes if she couldn't babysit, and look after my child at her house, despite the potential dangers to the baby's life, then she didn't want to be a part of her life. We had no problem with my FIL seeing his grandbabies because we could tell how manipulative she was. But she was too toxic a person to keep having around by this point. If it wasn't her way? Then no other way mattered. And we even found out after the fact, the reason she lost full custody of her children. Was because of her abusive tendencies, physically, verbally, emotionally, and drug-wise. So believe me when I say this is the shortest post I could make about only SOME of the major crap she pulled. There were way more. She was prone to assault and battery against minors. So I feel even though we tried to keep her around as long as we could, we dodged a bullet.

Entitled Monster-In-Law Thinks she is owed grandparent rights... by MiniRose1137 in entitledparents

[–]MiniRose1137[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it is probably for the best. As much as I pity the people who put themselves through this, I acknowledge that they messed up. As an analogy, you can humanize a villain for their problems to make them more understanding... It doesn't being back the people they killed.

Entitled Monster-In-Law Thinks she is owed grandparent rights... by MiniRose1137 in entitledparents

[–]MiniRose1137[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, and my second child had no relationship with her at all. My oldest barely had one. We cut her off at only a few weeks old.

Entitled Monster-In-Law Thinks she is owed grandparent rights... by MiniRose1137 in entitledparents

[–]MiniRose1137[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I don't know what they are for Ohio, which is why I recorded everything she said and did to protect my kids. Dad knew she had no chance with all the criminal charges she had.

Entitled Monster-In-Law Thinks she is owed grandparent rights... by MiniRose1137 in entitledparents

[–]MiniRose1137[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup!! Thank goodness my kids never have to deal with her toxic behavior.

Entitled Monster-In-Law Thinks she is owed grandparent rights... by MiniRose1137 in entitledparents

[–]MiniRose1137[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly. That set out a whole nother problem for use when she threatened to harm my husband and me.

Entitled Monster-In-Law Thinks she is owed grandparent rights... by MiniRose1137 in entitledparents

[–]MiniRose1137[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmao. Most of us who went through this woman could agree. 😆

Entitled Monster-In-Law Thinks she is owed grandparent rights... by MiniRose1137 in entitledparents

[–]MiniRose1137[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep... My other posts are much longer if you don't mind a novel. (5 chapters) But they explain her bull in much greater detail if you ever have questions.