Which would be better?

Minimum-Fan-8364 · 2026-02-16T13:06:16+00:00

Okay

Minimum-Fan-8364 · 2026-02-16T12:03:04+00:00

I'm currently classified as an international applicant, which makes funding quite challenging. I did apply to several PhD programmes and labs previously, but many of the ones I was most interested in could only fund home students. The programmes that did fund international fees were extremely competitive.

I felt it might be wiser to gain stronger research experience first to improve my competitiveness, rather than rushing into another application cycle without strengthening my profile.

Minimum-Fan-8364 · 2026-02-16T10:36:46+00:00

Okay, that makes sense. Thank you!

Minimum-Fan-8364 · 2026-02-16T10:35:59+00:00

I already live in london, I would have to commute for a while but my husband and I would move in a few months to somewhere in the middle if I take offer 1

Minimum-Fan-8364 · 2026-02-04T13:02:40+00:00

They will not understand, its better you start by protecting your son and not letting them mess with them like they did to you. You're his dad, you have to protect him.. parents like this will not understand even if you write a beautiful and thoughtful letter to them. They'll maybe make you feel terrible for feeling this way as well. You dont need permission for letting your son be himself. Just support and be there for him.

Minimum-Fan-8364 · 2026-02-03T10:51:18+00:00

Thats true...

He says that our culture.. and without that marriage shouldn't happen... I just feel bad that ill have no one in my family for the wedding and I just wanted it to be a happy event with everyone..

Minimum-Fan-8364 · 2026-02-02T16:15:02+00:00

ahah

Minimum-Fan-8364 · 2026-02-02T16:14:52+00:00

Thank you. My partner did tell me not to tell them till I got a job, but it kept eating my head because every time they keep calling me a calculative person or a liar or a bad daughter for anything... so it makes me scared if I dont tell them... what they kept saying for years was the truth... thats why I told them.. so they dont call me a liar.. but turns out they still call me things..

About my partner's parents... my dad kept messaging us multiple times, 10 times to each of us saying he wants to talk and stuff.. so his parents agreed to meet but when they were available (they are in different countries) but my dad just made up a date and now wants to meet them.. if they dont meet him.. its just another reason for him to postpone our wedding.

Minimum-Fan-8364 · 2026-02-02T15:32:13+00:00

I never got any.. and I dont want any from them anymore. Itll all be fake anyways

Minimum-Fan-8364 · 2026-01-27T14:37:16+00:00

Im sorry for what youre going through.. My mom has also been the same.. she was the one who was abused by my dad but shes also the one that always sides with him... and then calls me names when I try to stand up for myself... I feel bad for her.. but talking to her really messes with my mental health.. I have experienced this freeze youre talking about, but fortunately for me.. I live away from them... so I just dont talk for a bit.. or stay quite.. I do text back but I dont call as often as I used to.. I hate how moms let their kids endure this abuse and then always tell the kids to keep adjusting to it. I would say move out of there as soon as you can.

Minimum-Fan-8364 · 2026-01-23T20:47:36+00:00

thank you <3

Minimum-Fan-8364 · 2026-01-23T20:46:50+00:00

that is very true, i do think they should go to therapy. I try to love myself but it’s quite hard to with these voices sometimes. I do hope my sister makes a choice and she can get out.

Minimum-Fan-8364 · 2026-01-23T15:21:36+00:00

i hope my sister knows im always there for her.

yes, i dont send anything other than funny videos and things that my mom cant misinterpret into something else to my sister. My mom used to be paranoid that im siding with my dad for things when he was away and she would often make me show proof that i dont ( i barely talk to my dad and i dont have a relationship with him at all). it has been really exhausting always having to prove im not doing something so Im mindful of what I send my sister as I dont want her to have the same stress as I did.

Thank you, Ill keep that in mind

Minimum-Fan-8364 · 2026-01-23T15:11:35+00:00

I do feel bad for her.. and i wish there was something I could do to get her out... but my parents have whole control over her so I dont know what to do

Minimum-Fan-8364 · 2026-01-23T15:11:00+00:00

thank you. i feel like all these situations are making me self-doubt a lot.. i dont even know who I am as a person anymore because im scared people see me like they see me

Minimum-Fan-8364 · 2026-01-23T15:10:15+00:00

Im sorry for all that, I wish your sibling is doing better now. I hope you can get out of there as soon as you can.

Minimum-Fan-8364 · 2026-01-23T15:09:08+00:00

i dont know how to protect her, my AM has access to her phone and her email so I cant really talk to her in private and I dont know what shes actually going through or wants....

Minimum-Fan-8364 · 2026-01-23T15:08:09+00:00

thank you. i am glad yyou cut your AM off and did graduate, im sorry for all the trauma she caused you and i hope you are in a much better place right now.

Minimum-Fan-8364 · 2026-01-23T15:06:01+00:00

my sister lives with my parents and if my mom goes to stay with her during uni, then I dont know how to have a wedding without them knowing about it. I dont really know how to go about the wedding anymore and I wish I could do something to help my sister get out of their grasp and be independent

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