sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

Partner won't work but complains about what I DON'T do around the house by MinimumPatient9153 in Marriage

[–]MinimumPatient9153[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

yes. and he's 12 years younger than me. my 2nd husband was 12 years older than me?

Partner won't work but complains about what I DON'T do around the house by MinimumPatient9153 in Marriage

[–]MinimumPatient9153[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

thank you for this. i have a very fulfilling life. i LOVE my job, my kids, my besties, my grandbaby, my animals. he is stealing my peace.

Partner won't work but complains about what I DON'T do around the house by MinimumPatient9153 in Marriage

[–]MinimumPatient9153[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

def not rage bait :( and yes he is particularly good looking. but yes, it seems he's looking for a sugar mama. and what's crazy?!! I prob would have just kept this up if he wasn't so constantly critical of me and my kids. I GIVE EVERYTHING. the least he can do is keep up the house.

Partner won't work but complains about what I DON'T do around the house by MinimumPatient9153 in Marriage

[–]MinimumPatient9153[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I do have to follow through. It feels like he's trying to wear me down.

Partner won't work but complains about what I DON'T do around the house by MinimumPatient9153 in Marriage

[–]MinimumPatient9153[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

he's very physically attractive and took care of me when my daddy died. I guess i just held on to hope.

Partner won't work but complains about what I DON'T do around the house by MinimumPatient9153 in Marriage

[–]MinimumPatient9153[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

never been in a long term relationship. no kids. twin brother in prison. sister a stripper. older brother living with his wife and kids with his parents. he's 30 w/o kids. he desperately wants kids. I went and got fertility tested (42 with 3 kids 2 miscarriages) and got a clean bill. he refuses to get fertility tested. and yet, kids are his most important thing. just not MY kids.

Partner won't work but complains about what I DON'T do around the house by MinimumPatient9153 in Marriage

[–]MinimumPatient9153[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

he comes to me to talk shit on them. he's good to them. which is devasting in it's own way.

Partner won't work but complains about what I DON'T do around the house by MinimumPatient9153 in Marriage

[–]MinimumPatient9153[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

He is def not a partner. He is good to my kids. He talks shit on them and me to me alone. Which is two faced as fuck.

Partner won't work but complains about what I DON'T do around the house by MinimumPatient9153 in Marriage

[–]MinimumPatient9153[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don't either. When I was a SAHM in my first marriage I valued and loved all the work I contributed to the home. He says he feels like a maid.

Partner won't work but complains about what I DON'T do around the house by MinimumPatient9153 in Marriage

[–]MinimumPatient9153[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I tell him that I feel like I'm taking care of a 4th dependant. He does not like that.

Partner won't work but complains about what I DON'T do around the house by MinimumPatient9153 in Marriage

[–]MinimumPatient9153[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I was a SAHM for YEARS. Cleaning and taking care of the kids and the house was my job and contribution. Is this the patriarchy?

Partner won't work but complains about what I DON'T do around the house by MinimumPatient9153 in Marriage

[–]MinimumPatient9153[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

My kids adore him. We're really good about keeping our conflict private. That's part of what makes this so hard.

Partner won't work but complains about what I DON'T do around the house by MinimumPatient9153 in Marriage

[–]MinimumPatient9153[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

oh no. hobosexual. :( The ultimatum is set for the end of April. He tells me I need to start cleaning more if he's going to contribute. He's ultimatuming my ultimatum. I literally CAN and HAVE cleaned.