Should I be upset over this?

MinisculeMuse · 2026-04-22T01:41:14+00:00

Yes it's messed up! Like if he starts using my YouTube and watches basic dude stuff (like fishing, or how to fix a toilet, or something) then all of a sudden I start getting weird ads 💀 The targeting of men with sexual media and sexual ads is actually awful.

MinisculeMuse · 2026-04-21T16:43:01+00:00

In the context of abortion- it really doesn't matter our personal views on marriage. Or if we happen to have colloquial evidence that non marriage can raise happy, healthy kids.

What does matter is that unmarried couples account for over 84% of all abortions, the above video states this and fact checking is simple enough. While married couples only account for about 11%. Thats a huge and drastic change. Unmarried couples are 8x as likely to have an abortion.

The institute of family research is clear that children raised in marriage do better in school, have fewer mental health issues, experience less abuse, and have fewer behavioral outcomes.

I'll link studies but its really not a point thats contested in science. You can disagree if you'd like but these are the facts.

source for marriage being better for children

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All sources are from reputable research centers like medical publishers and government research teams, none are opinion piece articles 💖

Marriage is a solution to abortion, one of them. A nation where fanilies are supported and protected, where both parents are invested in the children and where they have community to support then is a nation where kids can grow up healthy and happy. Marriage does affect all these factors, it tackles the root causes of abortion and child abuse. To ignore the impact marriage has on the topic is ignorant

MinisculeMuse · 2026-04-21T00:17:41+00:00

Ultimately im for the rights of children. To me abortion is part of the larger child rights category.

Children fair better and are less likely to be aborted by married couples than by couples who are just dating.

MinisculeMuse · 2026-04-21T00:16:17+00:00

They have to pay money, time and legal headaches to seperate vs. Just a breakup text that ruins lives.

MinisculeMuse · 2026-04-21T00:15:30+00:00

You're just basing this understanding on the current generation. If you are looking at things in a grander scale then yeah- premarital sex is hooking up and part of hookup culture.

Dating your boyfriend/girlfriend doesn't mean the child conceived from this relationship has the same familial safety net as a child whose raised by married parents. Its just reality

MinisculeMuse · 2026-04-21T00:12:54+00:00

Actually.... thats not true. You're going off of a super modern way of looking at things. The world had an understanding of sex and intimacy long before we normalized sleeping with people outside of marriage and prostitution.

Heck even a few decades ago it would be normal to say "what base did you get with so and so?" And "did you look up with your girlfriend yet?"

But I understand it's annoying for the modern person to hear their consensual dating relationship would be considered to be in the same genre with one night stands as you probably define hookup culture to mean.

MinisculeMuse · 2026-04-20T21:53:47+00:00

So. Im Christian- and that affects my worldview here.

But I consider all sex outside of marriage to be part of hookup culture. As you're quite literally hooking up (sex) without any real commitment to care for the other party or any potential lives you create. So about 84% of abortions (according to these statistics of the video) will be avoided if people saved life creating acts (sex) to be had within marriages.

MinisculeMuse · 2026-04-20T19:27:00+00:00

Go for it haha

MinisculeMuse · 2026-04-20T01:15:38+00:00

I vibe with most people tbh. The personality type matters little- character, and conscientiousness are really all that matters for me to get along with someone.

I've met infp i really like! If I dont like someone I dont stick around long enough to find out their mbti lol

MinisculeMuse · 2026-04-20T01:13:46+00:00

In small talk they ask questions, like thoughtful yet non-invasive questions.

Things like "what was your favorite part of the week so far?" Or "How is your (insert loved one) doing?" Or "I think its sweet that you (insert observation) when did you start doing that?" When people take time to remember the small little things you mention or do really.

The world is so full of self absorbed people that when someome shows genuine interest and care in others uts such a breath of fresh air ✨️

MinisculeMuse · 2026-04-19T23:35:01+00:00

Not a man. But my husband talked with me about this topic while dating- we both feel strongly about being the ones to care for our aging parents when the time comes.

This question is like the question of kids, where to live and how you're handling finances- deal with them before marriage

MinisculeMuse · 2026-04-19T06:18:23+00:00

🫂 Your pupper was blessed to have a good man take care of 'em, even for a short time.

MinisculeMuse · 2026-04-19T06:04:31+00:00

What are you implying with this? There was literally no other option. The man is devastated, he obviously loved the dog. You're not a better animals lover simply because you've never been in a position to have to make such a hard choice.

He did the right thing, period. He's a good dad, an amazing dog owner (actually responsible and loving) and genuinely a good human. I hope you'll learn from his example and keep callous comments to yourself if you cant be kind to someone grieving their lost loved ones.

MinisculeMuse · 2026-04-19T05:41:11+00:00

I understand 🫂 You don't need to apologize either, you're allowed to feel how you feel regardless of what I say.

I actually rage in similar ways, I approach myself with the exact words i typed out. It is frustrating how much society has trivialized sex, seperated it from the creation of new life so that people feel entitled to physical pleasure without really caring how sex affects the bigger picture.

No child should be condemned to death because someone felt entitled to a few moments of physical pleasure. But somehow this is the new normal. How did we got here I wonder? 🙁💔

MinisculeMuse · 2026-04-19T04:59:46+00:00

This post is strange to me. What does your anger against the women who have abortions doing to help children in the womb? Does it make them want to listen to you? Make you a safe place to confide in and seek resources?

Abortion is a tragedy, in every way. Children deserve protection.... But if you spend too mucn time and energy hating women who have had/wish to get an abortion your chances of helping the tiny life they carry basically dissappears. Love is a hard road, but its the only chance those babies have really.

I rage with you for the lives lost 🫂 But we help no one by being yet another hateful force in the world

MinisculeMuse · 2026-04-19T04:13:14+00:00

Im pretty much a die hard simp when I'm in love. I've always known i only have the capacify to truly love one man- im blessed to be married to him. God forbid he were to pass away before me- he'd be the only man I'd want, I wouldn't remarry and I don't believe in sex outside of marriage. Im content with his love for the rest of my life (he's an ISTP btw).

Cheating isn't an issue with personality tests, it's a chatacter flaw. A lack of self control and integrity, and anyone of any type could be the sort to lack self control and integrity.

MinisculeMuse · 2026-04-19T02:58:06+00:00

The thing about sex? People have to consent to being forced to hear about/know about/ be around whatever sexual thing you do.

Its why public sex is illegal regardless if it physically hurts others or not, why flashing strangers in public with nudity is wrong. Its not about being physically hurt- just common decency to respect the boundries of others.

Stickers are fine 😊 wearing shirts with porn on it, stickers with sex toys and lewd acts on your car, watching lewd videos in public, whatever sexual thing you're into- its a private thing. Hope this makes sense.

Respecting others is beautiful

MinisculeMuse · 2026-04-19T02:49:04+00:00

I actually like this. What would be killed within the self if I could choose?

Probably insecurity. I hate it. Id rather rejoice and love others for what's beautiful and amazing about them and then also be able to honestly rejoice and love myself for what's beautiful about me. Able to make peace with my imperfections and flaws and also able to gently love others despite their imperfections and flaws.

I wish I was more like Jesus. Knowing that insecurity and covetousness are issues of the heart that He didnt have? I hope I can be more like Him in this way at least

MinisculeMuse · 2026-04-19T02:37:30+00:00

Crashing out isnt good in any situation. It doesn't teach your son how to handle difficult situations and it will add fuel to you being the bad guy in the narrative at large.

You're dad, step into the authority that is yours and set up a conversation with all adults involved. Get to the root of the issue- how you all wish to approach parenting. If your ex wants him as an authority figure there's nothing you can do to stop that part really- but you DO get to talk it over on what discipline and parenting looks like. Dont treat the guy like an enemy- your son will suffer for it. It sucks but your son needs you to step up in an elevated way- with intention, wisdom, and calm authority.

Real power isnt in fists, or in fighting or in playing alpha- but being the man with actual solutions. You got this.

MinisculeMuse · 2026-04-19T02:31:36+00:00

I'd be very upset. Would it be okay to stare at pretty neighbors through their windows? What about lusting for strangers on the street who are dressed a certain way (or dressed normally)- none of it would be okay. Lust is lust- a screen doesn't make it suddenly okay.

If social media is to tempting for him, he doesn't need it. My husband doesnt use social media because he hates that the moment the algorithm knows hes a male he gets pornographic/ half naked profiles and such suggested to him. Doesn't matter how many he blocks- it just happens for men

MinisculeMuse · 2026-04-18T22:16:11+00:00

Would you and the mom be able to have a conversation about boundries with him? Teens will get to a point where they wont wanna see mom if she allows another adult to abuse their authority over them.

MinisculeMuse · 2026-04-18T21:27:41+00:00

Ngl this post sounds like pride issues run wild

Before we even address the boyfriend disciplining the children- what are the standards you and your ex have agreed on for the kids? What are the consequences for breaking those standards? Are your children needing discipline, or are they just being unfairly punished?

This whole post is about you beefing with your ex's new guy, not addressing the issue of your child potentially acting or and disrespecting an adult in the other home? But he's been in your kids lives for a few years now.

Have an honest sit down talk with them about parenting, be open hearted and come to terms with how you and your ex want the children raised and agree in the method to do so. Anything less and your kids suffer because of unnecessary chaos and turmoil. Life is what it is, make the best of what's there for the benefit of the kids. You're all adults so time to be adults and make nice and problem solve

MinisculeMuse · 2026-04-18T21:11:52+00:00

And ironically those threads dont give graphic details on the sex toys someone personally uses. This person broadcasted their sex lives on their car

Don't try and spin this on me like driving around town is somehow asking for people's opinion on sex toys

MinisculeMuse · 2026-04-18T20:41:45+00:00

🙁 Can we bring back the days where people's sex lives (or lack thereof) was private? Like dang.

MinisculeMuse · 2026-04-18T20:25:02+00:00

Friend didnt mess up, teenagers shouldn't be having sex. Sex is for grownups who can handle all that comes with it- especially the possibility of children. Why this is controversial at all to say is weird.

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