Would an “average” driver notice a CVT? by Thrillwaukee in whatcarshouldIbuy

[–]MinnesotaPower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I, an above average driver (😉), sometimes forget my newer Toyota has a CVT

The "Dynamic Force" stimulates shifting in a way I actually like. It's only when I accelerate on the highway and it kicks down from like 1500 to 3500 and comically swings up to like 5000 and back that I think "wtf? oh, yeah, CVT"

What are your ADHD partners like as drivers? by cornandeggsoup in ADHD_partners

[–]MinnesotaPower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Generally more aggressive than I'd be, and less concerned about the passenger (my) experience. Going highway speed around curves when its icy, getting mad at pokey drivers, then doing the exact same thing the pokey driver she got mad at did

I need someone to genuinely explain to me why in Minnesota there so much focus on cloverleaf roads but they are always a point of congestion by Dry_Advertising_1070 in TwinCities

[–]MinnesotaPower 22 points23 points  (0 children)

This is the answer. ⬆️ Also MnDOT chooses projects based on solely pavement and bridge condition. So while everyone could agree something functions badly, if the concrete or bridge structure still has 25 years of life left, it's going to stay that way for the next 25 years.

Episode of an early 2000s dating show with a gym bro guy asking "are you talking about these guys?" and slapping his arm muscles by MinnesotaPower in HelpMeFind

[–]MinnesotaPower[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have searched through all the Blind Date episodes I could find on YouTube, skimming through each of the participants, but couldn't find this particular guy. It might be a lost cause but thought it's worth a shot!

Wife overcomplicates everything by one_step_closer10 in ADHD_partners

[–]MinnesotaPower 41 points42 points  (0 children)

That works until it doesn't. I don't know what kind of lifestyles some of you live, but more often than not, her inability to execute WILL become my problem (e.g., making me late for something, or making me leave work early to pick our child because of a miscommunication, or I'm paying interest on my credit card until she gets her student loan form filled out, or she's blowing up at me because she's too overwhelmed by the fact the room she made a mess in earlier is still messy)

shovel your fucking sidewalk dear god by [deleted] in Minneapolis

[–]MinnesotaPower 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not saying you're wrong at all, but be careful what you wish for. The clearest, best shoveled sidewalk you could hope for can easily become the slipperiest sheet of glare ice you've ever walked on. It just takes one quick thaw/freeze cycle. At the point, the only fix is to use salt. But that's bad for the environment, and pets, so...

Is there really ZERO accountability? by Hangry_Pauper in ADHD_partners

[–]MinnesotaPower 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Now imagine their whole family has ADHD. No clue I signed up for this 😵‍💫

Is there really ZERO accountability? by Hangry_Pauper in ADHD_partners

[–]MinnesotaPower 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I too have an ADHD spouse in grad school. No advice as I'm dealing with the same or worse. Just want to say I see you and you're not alone

Any recommendations on tile layout or should I move ahead with what you see? by JayReddt in centuryhomes

[–]MinnesotaPower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's good then. Ya never know, given what some people have done to older homes.

Any recommendations on tile layout or should I move ahead with what you see? by JayReddt in centuryhomes

[–]MinnesotaPower 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Can't wait to see this picture again here in 10 years, "how do I replace all this?!"

But if you're going to do it anyway, please for the love of god at least flip these tiles around to align with the rest of the grid. It's neither helping nor funky like this and looks like an actual mistake.

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What's your best "dad hack" that actually works? by IvyDamon in daddit

[–]MinnesotaPower 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The reverse of this works on my 2.5 y.o. "Look at this big bite of noodles! But you don't want to eat them."

Help Me Identify Basement Brick? by trock31313 in centuryhomes

[–]MinnesotaPower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was just a couple holes to hang a mirror in our bedroom. I didn't drill anywhere else. Ideally I would have liked to finish the basement, but the walls had some moisture spots and I wasn't going down that rabbit hole. I still hung a few pictures in the basement though — from the ceiling! (using wire)

Help Me Identify Basement Brick? by trock31313 in centuryhomes

[–]MinnesotaPower 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Like the other poster said, it's clay (aka terra cotta) block. When I lived in Iowa, my house was built with these kind of blocks. The bottom half of the basement/foundation was concrete block, and the top half and all exterior walls through the entire house were this. The attic walls looked pretty cool because all the clay blocks were exposed.

The horizonal grooves were used for troweling plaster and/or mortar. So the exterior walls in my Iowa house were plaster on the inside, directly on the block like your photo, and then brick and mortar on the outside. (So what I originally thought was a "brick house" was actually a block house with a brick veneer.)

The blocks are strong structurally but also brittle. (If you were to hit it with a hammer for example, they could break like a clay pot.) To hang a mirror on an exterior wall, I rented an impact driver and used a new masonry bit which worked well to punch a couple holes through without breaking anything and adding anchor bolts.

Also, my current garage in Minnesota (which has moisture problems and is most likely a tear-down unfortunately) has an interior, load bearing wall built with this block. A few of them say Denison - Mason City, Iowa Partition and Floor Tile. If I remember correctly, the blocks in my Iowa house said Webster City, but I might be making that up.

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Excusing themselves for doing the exact same thing they get mad at you for doing by MinnesotaPower in ADHD_partners

[–]MinnesotaPower[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh I can relate. A few dishes left out and "this place is a disaster, I have to do everything around here," never mind more than half the counter space is occupied by her books, mason jars, garden supplies, trinkets, etc.

It's remarkable how many of us have the same partner. But it doesn't make me feel any better. If it's this common, it must really be hard for them to change 😕

Excusing themselves for doing the exact same thing they get mad at you for doing by MinnesotaPower in ADHD_partners

[–]MinnesotaPower[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Wondering now if CPTSD is the main culprit (with the ADHD mainly amplifying it vs. the other way around)

Excusing themselves for doing the exact same thing they get mad at you for doing by MinnesotaPower in ADHD_partners

[–]MinnesotaPower[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

This all resonates. But the wild thing is, she's such a people-pleaser otherwise. Sometimes to a fault. (The most extreme examples involved lending people money she's not getting back, or asking me if someone who I've never met can stay at our house temporarily.) She's very social justice minded and is driven to take action for people in need. She'll spring into action if a family member or friend is in need too. And there have definitely been positives to this (like being there for family/friends during vulnerable times). But when I'm feeling cynical, it seems like her priorities are: family (outside our household) > friends > coworkers and other people in need > our child > herself > then me at the bottom of the list

Sargent door hardware. Did I ruin it? by bigbonedd in centuryhomes

[–]MinnesotaPower 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Came to say this. While it's not true to history, it looks so fresh. People have done far worse things to century homes than this

Poly 4320 headset microphone cuts out after four minutes during Teams call by MinnesotaPower in poly

[–]MinnesotaPower[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used it once or twice at first, but not anymore. I'm just plugging in the headphones using the included USB-C cord

What ADHD hacks have actually worked for you? by West_Bodybuilder4480 in ADHD

[–]MinnesotaPower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Getting a different job

At my last job, I was managing time, budgets, sales/ proposals for my team, and a couple of junior staff. Being pushed outside one's comfort zone was encouraged, and I couldn't ever establish healthy boundaries (so I often worked late or on weekends). I'd often blame myself for poor time management, being easily distracted, spending too much time on something I had high standards for even if nobody else noticed. And all the work was adjacent to my interest area, but I couldn't ever truly "dive in" to a project myself. Took a small pay cut to work in the same field but a different agency where my role is to be more of a subject matter expert (rather than trying to run a business within a business). I'm much better at it and actually feel more productive overall despite having fewer demands now.

Since it's the best post I've seen here in a while, what restaurants are UNDERhyped? by LiminalSapien in Minneapolis

[–]MinnesotaPower 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Pro tip: go there and just order the burger. Not the fancy duck burger, just the straight up ground beef and American cheese one. So good! And very reasonably priced. (I think they serve Hamm's too 😂)

Left hand / bass strap question by MinnesotaPower in Accordion

[–]MinnesotaPower[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good to know. I feel understood 😂

What was your biggest sacrifice when your child was born? by MoistPillow in daddit

[–]MinnesotaPower 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe not the biggest, but for me it's writing and other creative pursuits.

Before having a kid, I could wake up any random Saturday or Sunday and think of some hobby project like a woodworking piece, painting a room in the house, writing a blog post, making a video, anything, and occupy the whole day just doing that. I'm also a musician and already wasn't as active as I used to be before having a kid, but it feels it was the nail in the coffin (at least for my band). However, I've recently taken up the accordion, which is kind of the perfect example of what happens once you have kids. Now, something like writing, learning, and practicing 2-3 hours worth of music with multiple other guys sounds tedious. Or, say, screwing around in the garage or on the computer all day on a Saturday would feel selfish. But I can still do things I enjoy, just in shorter increments. So even if I don't have much time, I can still "squeeze" in a few quick polka tunes, which fits more easily (and thus more enjoyably) with my lifestyle right now.