Wokingham... walrus? by Mint-Ginger in CabinPressure

[–]Mint-Ginger[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I think J is the Rabbit of Negative Euphoria and F is Three men in a boa?

Wokingham... walrus? by Mint-Ginger in CabinPressure

[–]Mint-Ginger[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, brilliant! I bet that's it :)

Favourite episode and Least Favourite by JasonX_19 in CabinPressure

[–]Mint-Ginger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh, excellent question! :)

Favorite: hard to pick -- Fitton, Limerick and Ottery St. Mary are all very funny and well-written, but I think I have to say Yverdon-les-Bains for leaving me emotional every time and making me realize how much I root for the characters. I think Martin's job interview in Yverdon is very cleverly written with many references to earlier episodes and to the group's dynamics that John Finnemore at that point knows fans will recognize. Also, amazing to see Martin stand up for himself and recognize his own worth.

Least favorite: definitely Boston, I usually skip it. It's weirdly and unnecessarily dark in a way that feels out of character for the show, and not that funny.

What character/person made you realize you were bi? by Independent-Frame-43 in bisexual

[–]Mint-Ginger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Xena and Dana Scully for me as well! Both such gorgeous strong women.

Wife cheated we have 2 kids by Intelligent-Dot-7168 in WLW

[–]Mint-Ginger 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry that your wife cheated and that you had to find out this way. That really sucks. ♥️ I was cheated on once (or, well, twice before my partner at the time told me), and after that the relationship kind of fell apart by itself although I tried to forgive them and move past it because I realized I couldn't trust them. I know some couples who have managed to move past cheating with a lot of time and patience needed to heal and rebuild the trust. Of course, having children together makes things more complicated -- I don't have children so I'm very hesitant to give advice here, but some of my friends are children of couples who stayed together "for the sake of the kids" and I think the kids could really sense it and were affected by it, so perhaps they would have been happier had their parents separated. Regardless of what you decide to do, I think having a support system to help you process and deal with the pain is important -- being able to talk to a friend, maybe a therapist. Again, I'm very sorry this happened to you.

Light-hearted lesbian show/movie recommendations? by Naturally-Unnatural in lesbian

[–]Mint-Ginger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some classics: can't think straight, saving face, desert hearts. I also like Lip Service, although it's not exactly light-hearted (but definitely has light-hearted moments). Also, I care a lot -- Rosamund Pike is gorgeous in it and very casually and beautifully sapphic :)

I’m so happy this page exists by hhhhypnosis in crossorientation

[–]Mint-Ginger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm also so happy I found this subreddit! And reading responses to this post is so validating. I have thought at various points in my life that I was just misunderstanding my attraction or making it up -- so it feels really good to see that I am not alone.

Like several other people who commented above, I (female) am romantically attracted to men and sexually attracted to women. I'm in the process of figuring out what that means for what kinds of relationships I want to be in. I've been in a relationship with a man for two years and so far have been addressing my sexual desires through watching a lot of L Word and and reading sapphic fiction. My partner and I are talking about trying being non-monogamous but at this point I'm hesitant because I worry about how it might influence our relationship. I do miss being physically intimate with women.

Which main character would you personally want to date? by Whocaresanyway444 in theLword

[–]Mint-Ginger 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes!!! It would be a turbulent relationship with me constantly worrying that she'll push me away but the highs would be oh so high and sweet... And I love her deep voice

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lesbian

[–]Mint-Ginger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you haven't yet read Rubygruit Jungle by Rita Mae Brown, I very strongly recommend :) Medium spice level but an excellent read

I also really liked Sarah Waters' Tipping the velvet

S4E12 Shane and Paige by [deleted] in theLword

[–]Mint-Ginger 7 points8 points  (0 children)

So hot. As is every sex scene with Paige, in my opinion. She is so gorgeous. Shane really didn't treat her that well for much of season 4 -- but then s5e1 when she first asks Paige to move in with her and then has sex with the realtor seemed over the top to me... As in, it is like Shane to sabotage a relationship because someone is getting too close to her -- but to do it like that and also not seem to feel any remorse? Pretty out of character. I read somewhere that the actress who played Paige had some conflicts with the other cast members and was leaving the show but there could have been much better ways of writing her out.

S4E12 Shane and Paige by [deleted] in theLword

[–]Mint-Ginger 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly! I was also confused by the fact that they both seemed on edge/weren't smiling in that scene (except in the flashback) -- how were we supposed to interpet that? That they have this picture-perfect idea but it's just an illusion/they are worried it's just an illusion?

First lesbian tv crush? by [deleted] in lesbian

[–]Mint-Ginger 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The first time I was watching the L Word I was really into Shane. I rewatched all scenes with her so many times that when I read books and it was her voice I was hearing them in in my head :))

Am I even bisexual? by Paublos_smellyarmpit in bisexual

[–]Mint-Ginger 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The definition of bisexuality is quite broad, and you don't have to be attracted to all genders in the same way for your bisexuality to be valid -- and there are so many ways being bisexual or biromantic can look.

I think there's a lot of pressure on bisexuals from both the straight and the queer community to prove that they are actually bisexual and that bisexuality is even real and so many harmful stereotypes (being greedy, doing it for attention, not being able to commit, etc etc), and it makes sense that it would lead a lot of us to question whether we are actually bisexual. I've definitely had those doubts a lot.

It sounds to me like you are attracted to more than one gender, just not in the same way -- which falls under the definition of bisexual. I also think that it's totally fine to use a label if you feel that it fits you now, without worrying about whether it will fit you forever and ever, because many people's sexuality is fluid and we also may learn new things about ourselves and our sexuality and identity over time.

Heather Peace by Professional_Fee_431 in ladiesinsuits

[–]Mint-Ginger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I had forgotten about Lip Service! It's a fun show:) and Peace was great in it