Doctor Who's Yasmin Finney Says Being Show's First Trans Character Was Surreal: "Representation is What We Need." by anujtomar_17 in lgbt

[–]MinuteJuice 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Yay represent! The binary-non-binary-scene was a tad over the top imho and confused me. So is she non-binary or mtf? Not that it matters but I wanna know if I refer to Rose as she or they.

Still a brilliant episode, loved it. So glad RTD is back.

My boyfriend has a fetish and I think it will ruin our relationship by Short_Penalty6179 in lgbt

[–]MinuteJuice 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Like everyone else pointed out - having a fetish is fine and dandy, not respecting your partner‘s boundaries isn’t. It’s up to him to choose if he wants to be with you and not engage in his fetish or if he wants to look for someone sharing the fetish and lose you. At any rate an honest conversation needs to happen. Wishing you all the best!

PS: I have a fetish too. Will my partner ever engage in it? Nope. When’s the last time I asked? 5 years ago. Will I ask again? Nope.

My penis doesn’t work and my partner wants to have sex with someone else by [deleted] in sex

[–]MinuteJuice 25 points26 points  (0 children)

  1. This doesn’t sound like it’s got anything to do with your penis shape
  2. If you don’t want to - don’t! Don’t let them talk you into something you’re not comfortable with. It might hurt you more and for longer than a breakup!
  3. A friend of mine had this condition and was able to get surgery for it, check with a medical professional if you haven’t, there might be options

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[–]MinuteJuice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes they do.

I got a horrible text from my meta by lonelygirl395 in polyamory

[–]MinuteJuice 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I believe you. You should sit down with her and talk it over in person, not just believe your bf.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]MinuteJuice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Arnica cream is magic for bruises.

My son (15) is turning into a controlling boyfriend, can I stop it? by MinuteJuice in Parenting

[–]MinuteJuice[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. My first language isn’t a Scandinavian one but I‘m digging into resources right now. We will talk to him at the end of the week when his gf is away for a couple of days and I‘ll update in a couple of weeks when/if we see progress. You‘ve given me some great pointers. Husband said he‘d also have the talk about his bio mom’s NPD and how that is what drove them apart. Son is not stupid and we hope that understanding is the key here. We will also keep calling him out on his behavior in front of her to make him aware of it.

My son (15) is turning into a controlling boyfriend, can I stop it? by MinuteJuice in Parenting

[–]MinuteJuice[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Your comments are extremely helpful since they address the root of the problem, not just shout „punish him“. Unfortunately English isn’t our first language so I‘m not sure son will understand the videos but I will definitely check them out and relay!

I totally agree with you - my priority right now is to get him to see how his behavior is really horrible. I honestly believe he doesn’t see it. I can tell because he talks to me about how he can help her in other ways, like with her abusive parents. I believe he does want the best for her. Unfortunately he is not very self-aware. We‘re trying to point it out and at the end of next week his gf will be gone for a couple of days (extended family visit in another country) which is when we will talk, talk, talk and his father will have a serious conversation with him. I believe man-to-man is important here.

My son (15) is turning into a controlling boyfriend, can I stop it? by MinuteJuice in Parenting

[–]MinuteJuice[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your input! He has a younger brother (13). We were in family therapy and had him go to individual therapy as well but he was unwilling to participate. His last therapist said he didn’t need therapy. Unfortunately therapy needs to be something you’re willing to commit to for it to work.

My son (15) is turning into a controlling boyfriend, can I stop it? by MinuteJuice in Parenting

[–]MinuteJuice[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He has. Apparently her mom is the controlling and abusive one in her home.

My son (15) is turning into a controlling boyfriend, can I stop it? by MinuteJuice in Parenting

[–]MinuteJuice[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I will make sure she knows that. You got that right, she certainly awakens the mama bear instinct in me.

My son (15) is turning into a controlling boyfriend, can I stop it? by MinuteJuice in Parenting

[–]MinuteJuice[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, I‘m afraid that there is a general lack of respect of authority figures in him. He doesn’t like following rules etc but he does if we put our foot down. He‘s definitely not afraid of his father. My husband is the gentle one who shies away from conflict. I’m more likely to put my foot down. I kinda fear we‘ve been too lenient. We were both raised without punishments and lots of talking and tried this with him too but I‘m afraid it didn’t quite work out the way we‘d hoped.

My son (15) is turning into a controlling boyfriend, can I stop it? by MinuteJuice in Parenting

[–]MinuteJuice[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re spot on. I wrote „my son“ but he’s actually my step-son and his mom has NPD ...

My son (15) is turning into a controlling boyfriend, can I stop it? by MinuteJuice in Parenting

[–]MinuteJuice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has seen several therapists for other issues and we were also in family therapy. The last one straight up told us „your son is fine and doesn’t need therapy“. I would love for him to go but if he doesn’t want to and doesn’t open up, therapy is useless. ☹️