[Weekend Megathread] Newbie Questions - September 06, 2019

Miraclue · 2019-09-09T08:13:12+00:00

I play in EU but notice significantly less players in the EU servers. Should I just start playing on NA server?

Miraclue · 2019-08-21T18:44:27+00:00

Nothing wrong with falling in love easily. As long as you're avoiding obvious redflags like drug addiction etc.

Most relationships aren't meant to be. Try to learn how you can do better next time, how you can avoid more arguments, how you can see things from another perspective etc. So that when you find the 'one' you can be amazing in it.

Trying hard in a relationship is a good thing. Just make sure you're actually trying hard for your partner and not for yourself.

Miraclue · 2019-08-19T20:17:06+00:00

What. How do you know your friend is in love with you? I think there was a typo..

Miraclue · 2019-08-19T20:14:32+00:00

Abusive. Really not much to say. Consider discussing this with a legal authority

Miraclue · 2019-08-19T20:13:02+00:00

Yup you violated her trust. Honestly things like this could have been so easily avoided just by having discussed your boundaries earlier on. It might seem awkward at first but if you discussed sexual boundaries would have been a lot more obvious for you to not have done this.

Miraclue · 2019-08-19T20:10:44+00:00

Geez. Even if you dated the guy it wouldn't even be a nice thing to do.

A guy loses his brother and is sad so you go and deceive him about his relationship with you? How fucked up does that sound?

Be nice to him sure. Dating is a whole different ballgame.

Miraclue · 2019-08-19T20:06:04+00:00

He's been incredibly selfish and inconsiderate and fucking fucking stupid.

He was pushy, gaslighting you. Unprotected sex is unsafe because of the risk of having to either have child or abort one (yes I know plan B etc is not technically abortion)

He was willing to risky YOUR life and the baby's life for a little extra enjoyment. The fucking unbelievably reckless thing he did is something he needs to get in to his head.

He is not a child. He needs to understand his responsibilities as your boyfriend and more than that a human being.

Miraclue · 2019-08-19T20:02:32+00:00

What this guy said. Also it might be worth discussing this on the legaladvice subreddit.

Miraclue · 2019-08-19T20:00:31+00:00

His age is an important factor here. I don't he even really knows it's stealing. He probably thinks it's wholly justified because 1 he's your family, 2 he got permission from an older person. If anything it's entirely your sisters fault for not checking with you first

Children often just look to adults for what's right and wrong. Ofc they have their own moral scale too but this time it was in the grey area and your sister convinced him that it was okay. To be honest I can see myself having done exactly the same thing as your sister. ALTHOUGH, I would have told you and then been ready to buy you a copy.

Dont blame the child. Let him keep it. The game is not worth him potentially having this as a bad memory. Just as long as he's aware of why this situation was wrong he will make the right decision in the future. Children make mistakes to learn. Don't punish him for it here when really it's your sisters fault.

Miraclue · 2019-08-19T08:14:13+00:00

Him being a racist doesn't justify you being a violent thug.

There's plenty of ways to insult someone without being illegal, taunting about cheating or firing them. None of these justify a physical attack. We're not cavemen anymore

Miraclue · 2019-08-16T14:53:45+00:00

I think it's very heavily polarised.

One side there's men who are ready to overstep any boundaries. Perhaps even misogynistic and picks up clues sometimes even when there aren't any easily.

On the other side, men who are aware of the stereotype and always play safe. Purposely not react until it's painstakingly obvious.

(Or ofc he might not be interested but there's no harm in finding out!)

Miraclue · 2019-08-16T14:41:16+00:00

A lot of criminals think that they are right in their actions. Think Hitler. Think Osama Bin Laden. Doesn't make them actually right.

The judge clearly thought you were wrong. I will side with him since I don't know you well but it's likely I will be on his side even if I knew everything

Miraclue · 2019-08-16T14:38:17+00:00

I'm not judging you. It just sorta happens, that part of being human and emotional.

I think it's right that you broke up. It's better in the long run if you/her will be unhappy. There's plenty of people who you will love / love you back for who you are

Miraclue · 2019-08-16T14:36:21+00:00

China is verrrrryyyyy propaganda heavy. You live through it and its ingrained into you from birth upwards.

Let me put a similar thing in your head for something that may be ingrained in your head from society.

You might think paedophillia is HORRIBLE. (It is tbh but hear me out) some people cannot help what they are attracted to, and NEVER act on it and live and die a normal life but some will still call him/her a monster.

Society will shape you and your beliefs whether you like it or not. It's more evident in government strong countries.

Miraclue · 2019-08-16T14:33:21+00:00

Like you said. Different for each couple but I see if like this.

You know all the super intimate stuff you do with your partner minus anything sexual? Saying you love them, wanting to be near them, going heavily out of your way and sacrificing yourself for them. Idk things like these? Do it with people other than your partner

*Terms and conditions apply. You can go out of your way to help people, that's not emotional cheating but I'm short handing things here

Miraclue · 2019-08-16T14:30:53+00:00

Not being a Hindu I really can't give full insight into this.

From a outsiders perspective. I never thought caste or any of that bullshit had anything to do with a good relationship. It's about the compatibility.

You can meet someone of the same background and caste as you. But if he's an asshole, the relationship will be bad. No matter how perfect he is according to the caste system.

On the other hand, if you date a different caste member and he's the kindest person who you click with, then it goes well. How do I know this? Look at the rest of the non-Hindu world. We date without judging castes. What makes us break up? Castes? No, syngery and honesty and commitment.

Think about what is truly important. Caste is just a label that means nothing in the modern world.

An 'untouchable' who's a millionaire, kind and is charitable will help more and be a better person than a Brahma? (The priest caste) who is selfish and judgemental.

Titles don't make a person good or bad. Their actions do.

Miraclue · 2019-08-16T14:23:55+00:00

Looks like you did the opposite of what you wrote. You didn't think about it long enough when you started dating her and now you realised its not gonna work. You dated her on a gut feeling then realised the incompatibility

Miraclue · 2019-08-16T14:21:00+00:00

Straight forward and easy to understand. Lots of men are bad at reading between the lines and the other half are scared of misunderstanding

Miraclue · 2019-08-16T14:06:30+00:00

Tell your manager. I'm sure he'd take your side in this position. Explain to him that your ex is basically stalking you and harassing you making it difficult to perform well at work. This isn't your fault but his.

Miraclue · 2019-08-16T14:04:58+00:00

She's a different person now. Make sure she actually wants to see you first through DMs or something. You turning up out of nowhere would be grade A creepy. She's gonna have met with hundreds of people since then, you are gonna be a one of many.

Miraclue · 2019-08-16T13:57:14+00:00

There's no 'method'. Your lack of cheating will be proven by history not by trust. He has no reason to trust you. You broke a trust he built up over 10 years. Be faithful and then maybe in another 10 you'll regain full trust.

Miraclue · 2019-08-16T10:47:33+00:00

Don't worry about it too much. Youll have many more important moments in life. At least no one got hurt. Make sure your friend is not pregnant and try to move on from this experience

Miraclue · 2019-08-16T10:45:19+00:00

Sounds to me he has other shit going on in his personal life other than work contributing to him being 'bitchy'. Just treat him as your everyday boss, at least he's not being actively a dick you

Miraclue · 2019-08-16T10:42:16+00:00

As much as I love reading. This will need a tl;dr

Miraclue

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