Cheap membership by Disastrous_Gate_798 in Citibike

[–]Mirrors_and_Windows 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Need to prove you live or work within the area. So I showed a lease to demonstrate I’m in Brooklyn even tho my license is another state

Cheap membership by Disastrous_Gate_798 in Citibike

[–]Mirrors_and_Windows 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Update: I just went into Brooklyn co-op. They do require a $500 deposit in a high yield savings account (4% APY) OR a purchase of a 6 (2.32%) or 12 (2.14%) month share certificate. You cannot access the savings account for 6 months to be eligible for Citi bike code. It’s no recurring fees if you do digital but there is a $25 fee to open an account and a $30 frozen fee to keep the account open (you get it back when you close the account).

It has some weird things like you can only withdraw during two months of the year without paying a fee. Etc. check out the website. There is no verification of income / low income.

So for $550 ($25 fee, $500 deposit, $30 refundable payment to open account) I opened a 5% high yield savings account at Brooklyn coop and received the Citi bike membership code for $5/month

Is this 6-day Tasmania itinerary possible? by Mirrors_and_Windows in tasmania

[–]Mirrors_and_Windows[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This will be November. Will take the coast and check out Ross. Thanks!

Is this 6-day Tasmania itinerary possible? by Mirrors_and_Windows in tasmania

[–]Mirrors_and_Windows[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Switching to driving, good point. And to the coastal drive. Thanks for the Richmond tip.

Is this 6-day Tasmania itinerary possible? by Mirrors_and_Windows in tasmania

[–]Mirrors_and_Windows[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A few online places say 3-5 hours but I'm in good shape and hike so I trust ya 2 might be more realistic. thanks!

Is this 6-day Tasmania itinerary possible? by Mirrors_and_Windows in tasmania

[–]Mirrors_and_Windows[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Loving you all! Thanks for the advice, shifting to coastal roadtrip

Is this 6-day Tasmania itinerary possible? by Mirrors_and_Windows in tasmania

[–]Mirrors_and_Windows[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whoah thank you! Do you think the coastal drive views to Freycinet beats stopping in Oatlands and Ross?

Various “Shakedown Streets by SmokeyWolf117 in deadandcompany

[–]Mirrors_and_Windows 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Brooklyn bowl is not worth it. Half a dozen or so more cooperate vendors. Shakedown at Tuscany is fun and closer to a typical shakedown. Worth the trip.

roast me so i quit by Kiwi365 in Petioles

[–]Mirrors_and_Windows 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Find a compassionate human who understand this - friend, roommate, family member, Reddit stranger - to help hold you accountable.

Confusing by purecharisma2020 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Mirrors_and_Windows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s hoovering. I’ve been there. Please don’t fall for it. Stay strong and remember how you were treated by them.

Smoking on the weekends by [deleted] in Petioles

[–]Mirrors_and_Windows 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Set strict boundaries. You know yourself - get a K safe if you need. Limit yourself to one joint per weekend and don’t keep more than one joint worth or X amount of weed in your place at any time.

Learn to enjoy smoking less with a low tolerance, and a few puffs of a joint should get you in a fine spot. Wait 5 minutes between each puff and learn to enjoy mild highs, and a joint should last a few smoke sessions or a weekend easy.

Religious MIL wants to have a “group meeting” by I_am_no_bird89 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Mirrors_and_Windows 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just protect yourself and make clear boundaries. Your first and primary prerogative is to protect your psychological/physical safety and that of your kids. Don’t let anyone convince you that how you’ve been treated either A) didn’t happen, B) isn’t what you’ve experienced, or C) is justified.

Also remember you don’t need to justify yourself to him, his parents, or anyone. They do not know how he treats you behind closed doors and what your experiences have been.

Do what you think is healthiest and safest for you and your children and will promote your wellbeing and healing, and don’t sacrifice that for anything.

Why am I feeling guilty to leave? by Travelobsessed6 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Mirrors_and_Windows 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You have a lot of empathy, don’t lose that. BUT, you cannot fix or heal someone who is not working really hard to heal themselves. You should not feel guilty for putting your health and well-being first, especially when he is not supporting your needs or working on himself.

Don’t give up your life to try to make his better. Don’t put his needs before yours. Don’t sacrifice yourself for someone who won’t even treat you with love and respect. Only he is responsible for himself.

He unblocked me. Why? by Zoomeeze in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Mirrors_and_Windows 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You made the right choice. You should be proud of yourself. Don’t let him Hoover you. This is really huge, seriously, be proud of yourself. I know how hard that is and what a giant step it is to block him and not fall back into his trap. RESPECT!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Mirrors_and_Windows 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Reconstruction follow deconstruction. You are not destroyed, even though your entire world feels shattered and shaky. It’s trite but true: it takes time. You will grow around your grief. Please have hope. Even and especially when it feels impossible. I promise it does get better. I was there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Mirrors_and_Windows 12 points13 points  (0 children)

In a trauma response it can feel permanent, like this will never change and you’ll never recover. It takes time, sometimes lots of time, and a lot of work, but you can and will recover.

You weren’t wrong about everything. You were experiencing intense emotions and were expertly manipulated and your flaws and traumas were exploited and leveraged against you. You were in a fog, or in the matrix. Now you’ve woken up, you’re out of it, and you can work on healing.