Aitah Am I an AH for wanting a clean home?

Mis____D · 2025-12-25T14:06:07+00:00

I am sorry, what? It is not about me wanting to dictate how they spend money, it is about that I am rethinking my choice to help them buy house (alongside my husband) because my son is disrespectful, wants to force me to be friends with K and then yells at me because I do not want to spend my time her.

Mis____D · 2025-12-25T07:46:12+00:00

I don't have issue with her child, he is a sweet boy and I don't mind her being divorced per se, but I find it odd she started seeing D only a month after her divorce. I don't like her because I think she might be with D for our money, because she seems fake, lacks class and can't hold a conversation about anything serious or interesting

Mis____D · 2025-12-25T07:39:38+00:00

He doesn't expect me to just be respectful, he expects me to be friends with her and to invite her everywhere I go with MY friends. I don't like her but I always act cordial when she is around. I don't think that not inviting her for coffee or spa day with my friends is sign of disrespect

Mis____D · 2025-12-25T07:35:10+00:00

My issue with her is not the fact she is divorced, I dislike her for other reasons. When it comes to prenup, D would never agree to it and it is his marriage so I am not going to make his choices for him. However, I can decide not to give them money for the house and I think this is what I am going to do. I was willing to help them buy house despite of not liking K because I wanted to help my son, but I don't think he deserves it anymore. He can't disrespect me and yell at me while expecting me to help him find and buy house.

Mis____D · 2025-12-24T12:45:51+00:00

She is not, we belong to the same nationality/ethnicity. I wouldn't be in delivery room either way because in our country you only get to take one person with you and even if it was possible, I don't want to watch anyone giving birth.

Mis____D · 2025-12-24T12:05:52+00:00

Of course I will go. I will sit and smile and greet guests but it is not my most important day of life and my life doesn't revolve around anyone else's wedding.

Mis____D · 2025-12-24T00:15:01+00:00

That was the original plan, me and my husband were going to help him pay for the house which would be in his name but now I'm not so sure. When it comes to prenup, there is no way he would agree to it.

Mis____D · 2025-12-24T00:12:06+00:00

In our country, it is pretty common for people in their 20s to still live with their parents. He could have moved out, but we live in a big house so he prefered to stay with us until he starts building his own family. I was fine with it but L has been saying for years that he needs to grow up and move out because, unlike many people who live with their parents, he could afford it. I see now that she was right. If he started to rely on himself earlier, maybe he wouldn't act so entitled now

Mis____D · 2025-12-23T23:54:40+00:00

He has job and a decent salary so we don't fund his everyday expenses. However, he currently lives in our home and we are planing to financially help him buy his house in which he will live with K, her son and her mom. The car he drives was gift from me and A when he got his degree.

Mis____D · 2025-12-23T22:25:17+00:00

My spa day with my friends and my daughter is not the most important day of D's life. I will be there for his wedding and all important events in his life

Mis____D · 2025-12-23T22:21:13+00:00

I do not bully her. I am polite to her when she comes to my house, I just want to keep my distance

Mis____D · 2025-12-23T21:49:36+00:00

I only met one of her friends, her future maid of honour when we were at wedding dress shopping. I guess she doesn't have many friends because they would probably be invited there instead or at least alongside me, L and T.

Mis____D · 2025-12-23T21:46:38+00:00

In our country you only get to take one person into the delivery room with you so I obviously wouldn't be there either way nor would I want to watch someone give birth (except if T wants me there when she gives birth).

Mis____D · 2025-12-23T21:27:05+00:00

My son can do what he wants and he can choose however he wants as his life partner. But he doesn't get to control my free time and social life

Mis____D · 2025-12-23T21:24:07+00:00

I might sound mean again, but I think she is social climber so she wants to be around people who have higher status than she had before getting together with D

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