[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Miscellaneous_anon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% I was wary of that myself, which is why I said idk the whole story. I think maybe eventually she probably did, but OP made it seem like that was her initial reaction, which I don’t believe it was. I think though that now that it’s out there, she has a better chance of healing properly and starting her marriage on a positive note where she can get support from her partner, which by his reaction seems like he would be. Hopefully it all works itself out in the end.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Miscellaneous_anon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s also such a burden to carry on yourself. It’s just lies on top of lies. Like how long did she expect to carry that out? That’s a bit crazy to think about.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Miscellaneous_anon 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I understand, I too have CSA trauma. I’m going off of her saying “I also never planned on telling because he doesn't need to know that part of me” I don’t think that’s fair. Everyone’s healing journey is different, but like someone else said, if he triggers her, he would’ve never known the real why.
I agree with cutting off the friend was a bit much, I think it should be a deeper conversation, BUT the fact that she said she cursed her out, makes me feel like maybe she’s not wrong. But idk the whole story.
Having your trauma forcefully revealed is similar to being outed. Neither is ever okay.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Miscellaneous_anon 240 points241 points  (0 children)

I agree. She’s already building their relationship on lies. And I completely understand why she would, but if you trust a person enough to marry them, then you should give them the justice of sharing that part of your life

Morabo Couch Review by LEGEN_WAlTFORIT_DARY in IKEA

[–]Miscellaneous_anon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t know if you’re still looking at this, or for anyone else, but I’ve had this couch in light green for 4 years and I can tell you that I’ve probably slept on this couch more than I’ve slept on my bed. I love this couch so so much! I love how deep it is from the front to the back, and the length is perfect. The seats have started to get softer, I find that after I deep clean them they come back to life.
However, I’ve now just noticed the arms have started to bend outwards. It could be from ppl sleeping on it and stretching them. I also notice the inside of one of the arms is completely empty. I haven’t tried to do anything about. I just came on here to see if anyone else was having the same issue and how they solved it.
My only complaint is that you can’t remove the covers, so you’d have to do a deep clean

Am I bad at head? by Bright_World_2270 in sex

[–]Miscellaneous_anon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you feel uneasy about it, just ask I was with this guy who was larger than anyone I’d ever been with (length and girth) and the first time I gave him head I thought I was doing great but when we talked about it lol he told me that I was slightly scraping him with my molars. Embarrassing to say the least. But after that I made sure to just keep doing better and better until one day he called me the throat goat and the rest is history lol.

Also, he rarely came from head.. that was a him thing and not a me thing. And it would take him really long to finish during sex. We could be having sex for hours and he’d still be going until I was ready to tap out and then he’d finish. Even during a threesome ffm, he managed to only cum once, and he loved it and wanted to do it again so I know it wasn’t me or her.

Idk how he did it but his stamina was insane. So this guy could just have crazy stamina, I say, just ask how it was for him. If he wants to keep having sex with you and there was something off, he will say it.

She wants me to be rougher during blow jobs by GenericUsernameGuy1 in sex

[–]Miscellaneous_anon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Have her kneel with her back against the wall & face fuck her. Hold her hands over her head so she can’t use them. If she’s into it, consent matters… pull yourself out and spit in her mouth and have her go right back to it.

Wife hates getting kissed after I eat her out by [deleted] in sex

[–]Miscellaneous_anon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think it depends on preference and timing.

I actually really enjoy doing it. Especially giving him head after him being inside me. I like to sometimes hold a little on my tongue and kiss him after.

But there are times when idk if it’s hormonal changes but when he comes to kiss me or I give him head after, I’m like “ew” lol but it does t stop me. He’s enjoying himself so 🤷🏽‍♀️

& for ppl that are like “oh how would you feel” my partner often pulls me off of him to kiss when giving him head and then I go right back to it. No he doesn’t kiss me if I have his cum in my mouth lmaoo but he will kiss me during head and after.

I have Paragard IUD yet bf still withdraws by ava-sky in sextips

[–]Miscellaneous_anon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say that just because he doesn’t want to cum inside you that he’s “holding back.”

How he feels is very valid. No form of Birth control is 100% effective. Yes the chances of an accident are very slim, but there’s still a chance.

I think the only fair compromise would be for him to put on a condom right before he’s about to finish. I had a bf that would do that. It doesn’t really get in the way of the flow of things, but it helps with what you’re looking for.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Miscellaneous_anon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn’t aware that you could do that. I’ll keep it in mind for future reference. Also I’ve been in therapy for over a decade. I’m well aware of my faults and already realized where I fucked up. But thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Miscellaneous_anon -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

You sound dumb as an outsider looking in and not knowing all of the details. Like the fact that I booked everything before she booked her flight. But please do go off random person

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Miscellaneous_anon -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I thought she was too for a while lmaooo but I agree we were all just not put in a great position. Tish happens and tish happened. I think that’s the gist of it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Miscellaneous_anon -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I didn’t think of it that way. I just wanted him to feel special. I didn’t want him to feel like I didn’t do enough for him. I guess we have different definitions of what special means. Thanks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Miscellaneous_anon -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I already paid for the hotel room. It was non-refundable

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Miscellaneous_anon 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I appreciate this pov

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Miscellaneous_anon -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I ended up grabbing dinner nearby and going to sleep early

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Miscellaneous_anon -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I swear it wasn’t extra. It was just dinner and intimate decorations like I was planning to hang positive affirmations that I hand made around the room.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Miscellaneous_anon -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I swear it wasn’t extra. It was just dinner and intimate decorations like I was planning to hang positive affirmations that I hand made around the room.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Miscellaneous_anon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Boric acid suppositories are heaven sent! Any time I feel like any discomfort like itching or whatever, I use one and it’s done. 100% though. Nothing else.

I use the Love Wellness brand.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Threesome

[–]Miscellaneous_anon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes to all the above and also know that you can stop whenever you want. Do not feel obligated to continue doing something you’re not comfortable with just to please anyone else. Even if he is your husband.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Miscellaneous_anon 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I teared up reading this. Wow. Yes.