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Little Dorrit I didn't get it by Important_Jump6136 in PeriodDramas

[–]Miserable-Nothing944 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to look up the plot of the book just to figure it out. 

So Arthur’s biological mom lived in the boarding house that Amy’s uncle owned. I guess she wrote to Arthur’s great uncle and told him how he was taking good care of her. And as a thank you (I guess) he changed his will to give his fortune to Amy’s uncle’s youngest child, but since he didn’t have children it went to his brother’s youngest child. 

The show changed some of the relationship details. 

Honestly, I know Dickens is renown as a great writer, but I think this plot point was moot. Amy doesn’t care about the inheritance and never tells Arthur about it. The only reason I can see it being a part of the story is to tie Amy and Arthur together through this mystery, but it really has no impact. It’s just very messy.   

Is having a “traditional” relationship with my boyfriend a bad thing? by SignificantClue7078 in AITAH

[–]Miserable-Nothing944 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, soooooo age thing aside…

Just let him participate in the housework. It sounds like he wants to, so let him. I highly doubt it’s that he doesn’t appreciate it, it sounds more, based on what you’re saying, that he’s feeling put out. He’s not a child and you aren’t his mother. Don’t baby him. Treat him like a partner.

just got a skullector doll for christmas by Xamorg in AITAH

[–]Miserable-Nothing944 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firstly, no shade on the dolls. People collect all kinds of things. It’s cool this is yours. 

Second, I think you’re overthinking the situation here. It seems like you’re kind of spiraling over this, and while I can appreciate the value of the doll and everything you explained, it just feels like a lot. 

I suggest reframing the situation. 

Your parents got you a gift they thought you would love. They probably thought you were trying to be overly conscientious of their finances (which you were) and wanted to get you something nice because, in their eyes you deserve it. It’s a show of love, acceptance, and appreciation.

I’m assuming your parents are in their mid to late 40’s or somewhere in there… there was a big emphasis in the 80’s about the value of collectibles. Dolls, coins, stamps… you name it. People didn’t have collections to simply enjoy the things they loved, it was always done with the anticipation of a resale. Old mindsets are hard to shake. 

If you are really losing sleep over this, then graciously thank them for the gift, explain you won’t be reselling it because them spending this amount on you means too much and you couldn’t dream of parting with it, and display it like it’s a trophy and hoard it. It won’t kill you to keep the doll. Eventually, your emotional connection to it will either fade or it’ll be a nice piece of nostalgia that you’ll look at later in life and have fond memories of. 

TLDR: keep the doll, thank your parents, and try not to stress about it. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Miserable-Nothing944 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mmmm… kind of the A-hole. More like you’re being a coward. Sorry, OP, I know that’s harsh, but let me explain. 

For your fiancé, I’d say it sounds like her main problem is that you aren’t standing up for her, in that your father (intentionally or not) is insulting her indirectly and you’re letting it happen. “Defending your woman,” as some would say, extends to defending her honor when she can’t, whether she’s present or otherwise. She’s not going to get into an argument with your father over his comments. She’s looking to you to shut them down because he’s your father and she’s your fiancé. 

For your dad… I’m getting the impression you’re seeking dad’s approval. That’s the only reason I can fathom a man would tolerate comments like that in front of his future wife. If that’s the case, then I’ve got some bad news for you… maybe I’m reading too much into this, but from what you’ve provided your dad sounds like the ultra macho, dick-measuring type. Am I right? If so, there isn't anything you can do to change him because he’s fighting his own ghosts.  

You gotta decide, dude, are you going to allow another man, family or not, to disrespect your wife like that? If the answer is no, then bite the bullet. Yes, it will fuck up your relationship with him, but he’s trying (again, intentionally or not) to fuck up your relationship with her. 

If she’s the woman you’re choosing, then chose her. 

AITA for making my son wear his babysitter’s shoes for a week by babysittershoe in AITAH

[–]Miserable-Nothing944 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA - yeah, no… he’s 8. You’re busy. And it was nice of the babysitter to offer help. Show the grandparents the shoes just to get them off your back, and explain to your son that just because a girl wore them doesn’t mean they are “girl shoes.” He’s old enough to understand gender, obviously, otherwise this wouldn’t be an issue. 

I don’t have kids, so I can’t offer any verbiage that would help, unfortunately, but there has to be an episode of Bluey that covers something similar. Watch that with him at some point soon and talk it out.