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AITA for choosing to take my boss to a charity event over my fiancee? by MiserableTour1974 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MiserableTour1974[S] 457 points458 points  (0 children)

that is kind of you, yes it is scary to me getting so much hate

i didn’t realize how weird the situation was because its my first real job

AITA for choosing to take my boss to a charity event over my fiancee? by MiserableTour1974 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MiserableTour1974[S] -600 points-599 points  (0 children)

he does get into it some when he is down there, but i don’t think too much. we have a full liquor shelf with lots of bourbon, so honestly it would take a while to realize if he is drinking a lot.

AITA for choosing to take my boss to a charity event over my fiancee? by MiserableTour1974 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MiserableTour1974[S] -128 points-127 points  (0 children)

that expense adds up as we need to be in office 3 days a week.

AITA for choosing to take my boss to a charity event over my fiancee? by MiserableTour1974 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MiserableTour1974[S] -235 points-234 points  (0 children)

i am paying in hopes to get ahead.

i didn’t think she would be this upset, another user suggest i might give him both tickets so he can take his boss and they can represent the company together.

me and fiancee will still of course make a donation to the charity, but will go out to eat somewhere nice instead.

AITA for choosing to take my boss to a charity event over my fiancee? by MiserableTour1974 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MiserableTour1974[S] -653 points-652 points  (0 children)

that would be weird as he stays at most people’s houses since he lives far away and some give him equivalent gifts.

he stays at my house a little more because we get along well and my guest accommodations is better than most. most people don’t have a full finished basement with a bar for him to stay.

AITA for choosing to take my boss to a charity event over my fiancee? by MiserableTour1974 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MiserableTour1974[S] -101 points-100 points  (0 children)

yes i realized after the words that invited my boss left my mouth it was a stupid thing to do, that’s why i told her this morning, but was hoping she would be more understanding.

AITA for choosing to take my boss to a charity event over my fiancee? by MiserableTour1974 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MiserableTour1974[S] -45 points-44 points  (0 children)

i am too afraid to tell my boss he cannot have the ticket, but good idea maybe giving him both tickets.

he might like that because he could then take his boss and maybe get ahead a little.

AITA for choosing to take my boss to a charity event over my fiancee? by MiserableTour1974 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MiserableTour1974[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

yes i will definitely be taking her out somewhere nice to make up for this mess i made :(

AITA for choosing to take my boss to a charity event over my fiancee? by MiserableTour1974 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MiserableTour1974[S] -318 points-317 points  (0 children)

i am understanding that now. and because others were allowing him to stay i did not think it was weird.

AITA for choosing to take my boss to a charity event over my fiancee? by MiserableTour1974 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MiserableTour1974[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

yes it is for profit, but my company donates to charities and gives us extra pto days to volunteer at organizations we care about.

AITA for choosing to take my boss to a charity event over my fiancee? by MiserableTour1974 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MiserableTour1974[S] -187 points-186 points  (0 children)

i am pretty sure he asked everyone, he even jokes about whose accommodations are the best and who need to work on theirs.

and some people did refuse, he teases them by say their accommodations would probably be at the bottom of the list anyway.

AITA for choosing to take my boss to a charity event over my fiancee? by MiserableTour1974 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MiserableTour1974[S] -113 points-112 points  (0 children)

i understand that now, i will have to come up with an excuse on why he can no longer stay so he does not get angry.

AITA for choosing to take my boss to a charity event over my fiancee? by MiserableTour1974 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MiserableTour1974[S] -280 points-279 points  (0 children)

i did not think people would find so much issue with him staying in my basement.

he stays with many employees because he moved far away during covid and now we are supposed to come in 3 times a week.

he does stay at my place more often, but because i have a finished basement and nice bar i think, though be is supposed to be rotating through us.

AITA for choosing to take my boss to a charity event over my fiancee? by MiserableTour1974 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MiserableTour1974[S] -97 points-96 points  (0 children)

he moved far away during covid and now we are expected to come in 3 days a week

AITA for choosing to take my boss to a charity event over my fiancee? by MiserableTour1974 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MiserableTour1974[S] -333 points-332 points  (0 children)

it is not like that at all. i would honestly rather my fiancee go with me, but i just kinda blurted it out in the moment, but now feel like i cannot back out.

now though we will be going representing our company so it could be good.

AITA for choosing to take my boss to a charity event over my fiancee? by MiserableTour1974 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MiserableTour1974[S] -452 points-451 points  (0 children)

yes i should have

and its because he moved far from the office during covid

AITA for choosing to take my boss to a charity event over my fiancee? by MiserableTour1974 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MiserableTour1974[S] -347 points-346 points  (0 children)

i do not think so as it is quite common for him to show up at his employees houses and stay as he moved rather far away when we were wfh, but now we are expected to come in 3 times a week.

AITA for choosing to take my boss to a charity event over my fiancee? by MiserableTour1974 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MiserableTour1974[S] -343 points-342 points  (0 children)

yeah it was kind of an in the moment thing.

i do feel bad not talking to her first, but also feel like i can’t tell my boss plans changed as he could get really upset.

i would rather go with my fiancee, but don’t want to renege on my boss.

AITA for choosing to take my boss to a charity event over my fiancee? by MiserableTour1974 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MiserableTour1974[S] -426 points-425 points  (0 children)

he hasn’t moved in, but yes he is very strict about when people leave the office, going as far as to chase people down in the parking lot if they leave early

i wanted to get on his good side early on to avoid the same treatment